New Mom Secrets: I Wish I Never Had a Baby


i hate being a momIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"I wish I had my tubes tied and never had a baby. I don't like having to devote every day to doing things I have no desire to do. I'm tired of getting up in the middle of the night to find a pacifier or change a diaper. I hate not being able to spend money on things for myself. I love my baby as much as the next mom and I'd do anything for him. I just don't like being a mom. —anonymous


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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!


Past confesssions:

I Took My Baby to a Bar

I Drove My Baby Without a Car Seat

I Forgot My Baby's Name!

I Leave My Twin Babies Home Alone

I Let My Baby Wear a Dirty Diaper


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mason... masonsmommii

oh god.. put your kid up for adoption or something!! we dont need another casey anthony story... she seemed to love her daughter but not being a mom and we see what happened there! Maybe you worded it wrong.. but saying you wish you had your tubes tied and never had your kid... thats pretty low

irock... irocksocks

Its funny how everybody talks like they are a professional on here and only what they say is right

RanaA... RanaAurora

Not like the mom quoted!  Sometimes I do wish I'd WAITED, or that I could cryogentically freeze my kids for a little while... but I NEVER wish I hadn't had them.

lucky... luckyladyamie

I hope you can find a way to deal with the newness of being a mom. It is hard, but it gets better. EVERYONE is not perfect. It takes time to adjust. If you truely hate being a mom, which I doubt you do, you could always give your child up for adoption. There are lots of women out there that can't have children and would love to have one.

fmchavez fmchavez

There are nights when I wish my husband could breastfeed, or that I had a wet nurse and that I could sleep for just 5 or 10 more minutes, but I don't regret having kids. I made a conscious decision to have them. It gets frustrating, but that's what sitters and family is for, so you can take a break, an hour. Even if all you do is walk around walmart for that hour. Not hearing a baby cry for an hour is amazing and it does wonders for your sanity.

nonmember avatar A. Faglie

I know how she feels. I wish id never had my kids. I didn't plan on them and I'm tired of dealing with them.

moody... moodywife

I had my first baby when I was 16 now I have 3 I wish I could have been a kid. I am 22 and I never do the things normal 22 yr olds do I am a mommy I cook clean and sleep by 830 its not as fun as I wish it would be,I do love my kids but its hard...........

suzzanna suzzanna

i love being a mommy. my first daughter died at birth..i cried becayse i didnt hear a baby crying,i didnt have a diaper to change, i cried becaue i didnt have a baby to hold. it hurted like hell leaving the hospital without her. i just wanted to die every time i saw a pregnant woman. today she would have been two yrs old :( so i love being a mama

happy... happymom1988

Saying " I love my baby but i wish i never had him " just doesn't make sense to me --It can't be both ways. --) and yea sometimes motherhood is hard, but to say that i wish i never had him? I would never say that, life just wouldn't be the same without him and despite how difficult motherhood can be at times, there are those times that make it oh so worth it, and they come alot more frequently than the difficult times do.  


i completely agree withthe above statement ! get help ! maybe u r depressed , but be thanful that you were able to bring your baby into the world , and not be one of those adoptive parents , who spend years trying to adopt a child that they are willin to love , care for , wake uo in the middle of the night for , w/o complaining but just be thankful .


and im sorry , but i dont think you love ur baby as much as the neighbor loves her , cuz i may guess that the difference , between both of you is that w/e she does for  her baby , she might do it w/o complaining and w/o feeling the frustration that you do !



besides , mommyhood has its pays off , is not a sacrifice that wont give you anything great in return ! you do get a magnificent gift everyday , you just dont see it !

erinm... erinmylove

I thank god everyday my daughter Erins in my life . Sometimes I have regrets because I want alone time sometimes but thats normal I suppose. I wouldnt take one moment away from my daughter I am glad she is in my life and I wouldnt change that.

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