New Mom Secrets: I Wish I Never Had a Baby


i hate being a momIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"I wish I had my tubes tied and never had a baby. I don't like having to devote every day to doing things I have no desire to do. I'm tired of getting up in the middle of the night to find a pacifier or change a diaper. I hate not being able to spend money on things for myself. I love my baby as much as the next mom and I'd do anything for him. I just don't like being a mom. —anonymous


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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!


Past confesssions:

I Took My Baby to a Bar

I Drove My Baby Without a Car Seat

I Forgot My Baby's Name!

I Leave My Twin Babies Home Alone

I Let My Baby Wear a Dirty Diaper


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Ft.St... Ft.Stewart_wife

I knew what i was in for when i was TTC.  Sometimes i want a break but i never dont want my kids. I love them to death and couldnt imagine my life without them. I knew i was going to have to change a million disgusting diapers and run to the store in the middle of the night because my son lost his only paci. and yeah it wore me down sometimes but i sucked it up because i knew thats what a mother did and thats why i got pregnant in the first place!!  I just try to catch a break ever know and then when i get worn down...then by the end of it i miss my babies so much and just want to come home and so their smiling faces!!

bribr... bribribri

I know motherhood is hard, I've had a rough time adjusting to the challenge that simple everyday tasks have become...but I knew it would be this way. How could you not? I had nine months to prepare myself mentally (sure, I underestimated it big-time, but at least I tried!) and when it comes down to it, I absolutely love it. There's nothing more rewarding than seeing that little boy's face light up with a big grin, it makes all the hard work and sleeplessness worth while. Sure, money is tight and it's SO stressful when you're exhausted at 3am but you have to calm a crying baby...but there is NOTHING in this world that could make me think or say that I wish I hadn't had my son. I love him way too much. I know that God put his trust and faith in me, and that if God has faith that I can do it then I need to step it up and put my trust in God that he wouldn't give me any challenge he knows I can't face. He does not set us up for failure, he just asks us to do our best. =]

palex... palexander

I wished once that I wasn't pregnant. Guess what? I had a miscarrage. I would never wish for a second that I wasn't a mom. I had to watch a nurse carry one of my twins when he was 5 months into the OR to have surgery. No, I never wish that. The only times that I have not loved being a mom was when my twins were born and we were told for 4 days that Tristen had a 50/50 change of living. Then 5 months later I had to hand his brother over to a nurse, not knowing if he would be ok. And the last time was when my youngest was born full term with under developed lungs and we were told it was touch and go. He was shipped to a Children's Hospital where I saw him once in  7 days.

I like breaks from time to time but I am always in a hurry to get back home. I love every minute of being a mom. My kids smiles is what keeps me going. Oh, I have 4 kids, 6 yr, 18 month twins and a 4 month old and I am a SAHM plus I exclusively breastfeed my 4 month old.

munch... munchkinaplenty

Grow up! You ARE a mother now , and yes sometimes it is hard but wishing you had never had the child so you can be free and spend money on yourself is immature.

sxyli... sxyliljoker19

dcs should take ur child away u deff dont luv ur child as much as i luv mine so dont say i luv my child as much as the next mom

mamag... mamagiggles2009

I totally understand I'm 19 and i have a 2 month old. Ya my bf stayed with me hes a great dad but i had plans college job travel. I love him with all my heart and soul and if anyone tried to take him from me they'd be sorry. But i didnt  get to finish being irresponsible and just chill now its constant work and i just want to run away some times. I'm actually going to therapy to help me handle it postpartum group. I love my bf but i didn't get to finish having a simple fun relationship it went from that to parent hood and scared he'll leave. Even tho he swears he would never and I believe him I'm still scared. Responsibility to this level was not what i had in mind for at least another 5 or 6 years.

2xplus1 2xplus1

I agree with IzzeT. I waited until I was 37 to have my first child and I was also tired or "selfish me". I was really ready for "mommy me". I did a lot of living and focusing on me before I had my two girls, so I feel pretty lucky to be home with them now.

MO381 MO381

I love all 3 of my kids and I do everything and anything for them. I dont wish I didnt have them. I wish I would have waitted longer to have the last 2. I am a stay at home mom who really loved going to work everyday and some days i wish I did have a job that I could leave and go to but then theres those days when you are at home and your child does something amazing that you stop and think of how much you love your child and how thankful you are that God sent them to you. Every mom has days when they just want to give up but hey thats motherhood, its not fun and its not easy but the benefits out way anything else in the world.

hoopys19 hoopys19

I understand those moments when it is 3AM and you are so tired, or when you are in shock how things were perfectly clean not 15 min ago, but of course I love my little man.  But i have those moments where i have wished that i could sleep, or not have to change another diaper not five min after the last one.  but i would not trade it for anything in the world.  his smile and his new little hugs and kisses make it all worth it.

ulqqked ulqqked

Everyone thinks I'm crazy but I'm not a big fan of babies. They are so exhausting and you have no choice but to do all the things you don't want to. I honestly wish kids came out a 2 year old, I love 2 and 3 year olds they are the funest.

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