New Mom Secrets: I Wish I Never Had a Baby


i hate being a momIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"I wish I had my tubes tied and never had a baby. I don't like having to devote every day to doing things I have no desire to do. I'm tired of getting up in the middle of the night to find a pacifier or change a diaper. I hate not being able to spend money on things for myself. I love my baby as much as the next mom and I'd do anything for him. I just don't like being a mom. —anonymous


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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!


Past confesssions:

I Took My Baby to a Bar

I Drove My Baby Without a Car Seat

I Forgot My Baby's Name!

I Leave My Twin Babies Home Alone

I Let My Baby Wear a Dirty Diaper


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Waiti... Waiting4Oct.10

I haven't had my baby yet...but I do know there will be days when I think" Oh, will I survive this???" But I could never go as far to say that I wish I never got pregnant or wish I never had my baby. That is definitely taking it too far. Even through the heartburn and the having to go to the restroom every 5 minutes...I'm still glad I'm getting this chance. Sure, it's tough...and sure, sometimes I wonder if the baby is having one heck of time causing all of this....but I already love my baby and I would never wish something like that. I would never want God to hear me even think about regretting it, because at any moment He could take my baby away from me....and THAT is something I would regret.

babyb... babyboomboom

I understand where she is coming from.  It's hard!  It's really hard when you are raising a kid on your own and I've definitely had my 'I quit!' moments.  I hate not being able to be a normal 23yr old who can go out with her friends and do whatever, whenever.  My life ended the moment I got pregnant because none of my friends were pregnant and I can't go out with them anymore.  I can't afford the babysitter.  I definitely feel 'trapped' but you need to just suck it up and take care of the kid.

Kaytl... Kaytlynsmommy

There are days where I'm just freakin' tired...but I'm glad I have both my kids and I don't really understand how she doesn't like being a mom. I LOVE being a mom. But I'm stressed out due to being a mom A LOT. I wouldn't change a thing.

emBlaze emBlaze

I can relate to the annonymous mom. I can relate to those who say, "I would NEVER..." but I've learned to Never Say never. You don't know what you would do, think, or say if YOU WERE that mom. If you Were in her shoes. If you had Lived her life. There is always something behind everything we do as individuals. There may be underlying issues causing her to feel the way she does.

Hang in there, annonymous mom. I feel your pain. I've been there and done that. I had post-pardum depression. You Won't know what it is unless you've already had a bout with depression before. I have. You may not have. Honey, talk to your doctor about it. Post-pardum depression is no laughing matter.

Sometimes you have to hand the baby to Daddy and say, "You know what, I'll be back." Let him fend for himself while you drive to a nearby park and take a leisurely walk, or go visit old friends, go see your co-workers, visit your parents and socialize for a couple of hours. Your hubby WILL understand what you mean when you tell him how you feel Once he is left alone with the baby with no one else there to help him! Mine sure does...

CSRod... CSRodriguez

I am sorry but I never had those feelings   I got tire sure but never wished I hadn't  had them    , I wonder if some  counseling is not a good idea ,   is  it  ppd , 

I just   never resented the things my kids neede ( I am not judging  , I just cant relate)     I would  be concerned

teena... teenagemama19

the only times i wish i did not have my baby is when i have the urge to get drunk, but that is not a health want, just one more reason i love my son...

Katie... KatieCrandall

It doesn't make sense to me, either.  I seriously have not had a moment of frustration yet, though, so maybe when things get tougher for me I will!

klynn22 klynn22

I don't understand how somebody could say 'I love my child but I wish I never had him/her.' If you don't want to have kids, then use birth control. Part of parenthood is the sleepless nights,  the changing of diapers, etc. It is my personal belief  that if you don't want kids, then you shouldn't have them. I do apologize if anybody is offended by this but, I don't feel that people that say stuff like that should be parents. Children are the best gifts in life. There are so many people that would love to have kids but can't and then there are people that can and don't want them. Then, why would you have kids?

Fallaya Fallaya

I feel that way occasionally.  We all get overwhelmed at times.

codys... codysmama2609

give me your babies, if you dont want them!

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