New Mom Secret: I Took My Baby to a Bar

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i took my baby to a bar, mom confessions, new mom secretIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"Before I got pregnant my husband and I used to hang out at our local bar all the time. When our son was born everyone there wanted to meet him so we brought him to the bar with us when he was just a month old." —anonymous

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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!

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ginsumom ginsumom

I'll do you all one better: I took my son to a nightclub.


Okay, it was mid-day and the event was planned for families with little kids. They even offered mocktails with little umbrellas sticking out of them (in plastic cups, of course). Great fun to see the bar lined up with four-year olds sipping shirley temples. And little kids are hilarious dancing to 80's pop music.


As for actual bars, we really need to define "bar". A bar is either a dumpy place full of old drunks, or it's highly polished and sells $14 martinis. Not somewhere you want to take your kids. Not somewhere you want to go, anyway.


A cafe or restaurant are different. Kids are okay, as long as they're reasonably under control (my now six-year old actually has favourite trattorias).


Pubs are also a different type of bar. DH, a Brit, practically grew up in the pub, and he turned out just fine. We've taken our son to a couple of pubs, and no one cared (mid-afternoon, the really slow time). Pub-goers actually think it's adorable seeing daddy teaching him to play pool or foosball. All the chain pubs provide kiddie menus now that smoking is banned; they have to make up for lost revenue somehow.


The key is in choosing an appropriate "bar", one that welcomes families, keeping your tot under control, and behaving yourself (your wild college years are past!).

bludr... bludragon

I think theres a difference between a restaraunt with a bar, and a plain old bar. Personally I dont see anything wrong with going to a restaraunt that has a seperate bar area, provided your not sitting right next to the bar where the smoke can still get to the baby.  A traditional bar however is completely inappropriate for an infant.  People go to bars to drink and hook up. Period. Thats no place for an infant.  We live in an age filled with dangers for our kids, why would you bring your INFANT to a location where drunk people who are smoking cigarettes/cigars  want to touch your newborn child? Or worse even kiss the baby? You know nicotine is transferred skin to skin, and an infant is SO SUSCEPTIBLE to germs and sicknesses.  If your friends want to see the baby have them come over to your house, like normal visitors, where they can wash their hands and you control the environment.  If they cant make it to your house then show them a frigging picture.

djsma... djsmama904

I guess you could say I did since I went to a bar for New Year's Eve and then found out I was pregnant a few weeks later.  Oops!!!

metal... metalhealthmama

I just turned 21 and my son is a year old. Its hard for me to get a sitter when my friends decide to go out at the last minute...so I take him with me. We go to bars with seating and smoking is prohibbited in Anne Arundel County, so second-hand smoke isn't an issue. My son is well behaved, he chills on my lap or in a high chair and munches on a snack while I have a drink or two. The designated driver drives us home and that's that!


 


Sure I get dirty looks every now and then. But I'm doing a great job raising my son. I'd go crazy if I didn't get to go out every now and then!

c_dis... c_disario

haha! we actually did that last week, its a bar but they also have a seating area for food but it a straight up bar.... we went for the wings special with our friends.. it started at 5 and we left by 630 when it started to get packed! we had loads of fun!

So_Bl... So_Blessed7

I wouldn't care about the alcohol, but if the bar has smoking, there is NO way my baby or even my child would set foot in it!

Annab... Annabel1809Lee

My son was watched by his grandfather, who was a member of the club right down the road. My son would ride in the stroller down with him, play the jukebox, dance with the ladies, get cheese curls and have a cup of juice in a "big boy cup" (Yes, the bartender opened juice, poured it over ice, and served it to my son with a straw) My dad would have a beer or two, and walk home. They had so much fun! It was a good bonding experience, and all the bar flys thought he was the greatest thing. And yes, it was smoking, but I smoke around him. (I'm such a terrible mother, aren't I?)

Annab... Annabel1809Lee

WOW... bludragon... you also know that marijuana, cocaine, and heroine are all transferred by skin to skin contact, right? And that there are germs on you RIGHT NOW! *gasp* Over paranoid people.....

mmmom... mmmommy0207

When I was married to DD's dad, we owned a computer repair business. One of our biggest accounts was a brewery. They had the most awesome food, and I spent a lot of my pregnancy there when I wasn't working my other job. They were like a second family. After DD was born, they threw us a baby shower in the dining room. My DD had plenty of "aunts and uncles" that spoiled her like crazy.


As far as taking your baby to a random bar, there's nothing wrong with it. Not all of us can find sitters, and heaven forbid you get out sometimes. Just try to avoid smoke and drunks, and your baby will be fine!

Aniyu... Aniyunwiya

If the bar isn't smoky (it's outlawed here now) and if niether (or only one, the one NOT driving) have a drink (EVEN ONE) then i don't see the problem, especially if it's only for a bit to visit, I don't see the issue, but then again, I was raised around the bar scene (my mom's been a bartender for most of her adult life, my dad was a bouncer for as long as i can remember, until recently). I wouldn't have a issue as long as they weren't slipping the baby shots or something like that.

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