It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.
This Week's Secret:
"Before I got pregnant my husband and I used to hang out at our local bar all the time. When our son was born everyone there wanted to meet him so we brought him to the bar with us when he was just a month old." —anonymous
We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!
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I would never take my child to a true bar like wild crazy people or even if it were around lunch time, but I would take him if it were like a restaurant that has a bar in it.And of course there would be no smoking.
My hubbins works in a bar and restaurant. I'm sure the baby will be there many times. You can't smoke inside any buildings in PR so that isn't really a problem. The local laundrymat is also part of a bar but that's just PR for you.
I see no issue with it. I think that the culture in America is a little too judgmental. I have traveled the world with my children and have taken them into bars, as close as Canada, without so much as a second glance. In Europe as well it is no big deal. But would I do the same thing here at home? I think not, people are too brash and brazen to tell you what they think of you and your parenting skills even though they do not know you. I think to each his own and I think that majority of parents are wise enough to assess the situation before making a rush decision.
My husband plays baseball for a team that is sponsored by a hotel on the mountain, so since just about the day my daughter was born (actually she was 3 days old) she has been in the hotel bar every Sunday all summer long! I can't say that I would go to a real bar with baby in hand, but the whole baseball team and all the "Summit Wives Club" never minds a little baby company!!
You did nothing wrong, especially if your hometown bar is family oriented. You did not go in to party and get twisted.
Like the original question poster - we had a local bar with lots of friends and after our daughter was born we brought her in early on a Wednesday (she was about 3 months old at the time). The bars in Boston had already gone smoke free (which is the only way we would have brought her) and we only stayed for about 30 minutes. It was fun to be able to share our darling with our group of friends.
the next day
the phone rang off the hook with calls from relatives saying THEY had received calls that we took our baby, late at night to a bar!!!! it had not even occured to us that they also were known for their bar-we were too tired to first start cooking and just wanted to eat!
thankfully we just were able to
while still wondering at the silly busy bodies who had nothing better to do then try to stir up trouble. due to our explanation to our family the troubles they were probubly trying to start never occured at all!
WHAT YOU DID WAS OK IN MY BOOK!
ha ha this discussin is funny. my grandmother owned a bar when i was a baby til i was 6 so i knew that bar inside and out. i think as long as the child is with u and under close supervision and no one is smoking by him, everything shoulfd be fune. plus the parnets shouldnt drink
Walking into a bar does not mean you automatically are going to start drinking and smoking and getting crazy. I see no problem, your friends were there. Having a baby is a wonderful thing and everyone wants to see the baby. I would to. It is nothing to worry about. And anyone who turns their nose up at you for it is probly not worth hanging around.