It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.
This Week's Secret:
"Before I got pregnant my husband and I used to hang out at our local bar all the time. When our son was born everyone there wanted to meet him so we brought him to the bar with us when he was just a month old." —anonymous
We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!
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IMO, I would never do it. of course most bars in our area allow smoking, my dd was a preemie and I wouldn't even take her to my grandmas house cause my grandma smoked in her house and at the time we were visiting family my dd caught a cold, so her lungs were taking a beating as it was. my gma had the nerve to get mad at me and refused to speak to me until a yr and half later. guess protecting my child from cigarette smoke makes me a horrible mom huh?
even if the bar was non smoking, I wouldn't take a baby there cause of the nasty drunks that are usually hanging around, the crowds and such. if my friends wanted to see the baby that bad they could come to my house or meet at a park, even a restaurant...but why a bar of all places? just my opinion.
Well, sort of! My daughter's godmother works at a bar and grill. I took her over to see her. You have to be 18 to enter, but they were closed. So, she was able to go in with me. We sat and waited for her to finish counting her drawer and cleaning up!
I went in when there wasnt anybody there just so the owner (an a good friend of mine) could meet my daughter. Unfortunately she didn't end up being there so we didn't stay. I'm done with the bar scene but its nice to visit the owner of the bar I used to frequent occasionally so she can see my daughter.. she was around the whole time I was pregnant!
Well, as long as it was to introduce the baby to mom's friends, lol. It's not as if she had her baby in a sling doing shots or something!
I most likely wouldn't do it only because in most bars there's smoking and that is one thing that I personally don't like to be around and don't want my baby around. But I'd definitely want them to meet my baby so maybe I'd plan something where everyone could come to or call ahead and say "Be there in 15 minutes with the baby." and have them come outside.
Considering the majority of places in the country have "No Smoking" rules inside even bars now, I don't see anything wrong with stopping in with your kiddo to introduce them. As long as you're not plopping down for shots with a kid in your lap, who cares?
I took my daughter to the VFW -- not quite a "bar" but there is a bar there and alcohol was served. A party was held there for a going away party for a solider so we went . DD was 6 mo old.
It would depend on the bar and what time of day for me. My best friends mom owned a bar/restuarant and if she still owned that, I would definitely take my son if I was going to see them or other people who were visiting! I hung out there on the weekends when I was in high school (no drinking, just to hang out with my friend who worked in the kitchen). I wouldn't take my child to the bar just to go to the bar, and I definitely wouldn't be drinking!
If you didnt drink and he wasnt subjected to smoke. I say no biggie.
I know I already responded to this, but I think it woud be extremely uncomfortable to breastfeed in that situation. I realize that *technically* it's not different from anywhere else.. but the people go there with the goal to be drunk, so all bets on appropriate behavior are off. People do all kinds of dumb things when they're drunk, and I'm not sure I would want THAT to be my first experience with breastfeeding in public. Being approached by drunken fools while I'm post partum,hurting and trying to nurse doesn't sound appealing to me.But that's just me I suppose.. I knew a woman who went out for a full day of shopping at the mall just 2 days after giving birth... so I suppose to each their own.
I'd say as long as your respsible and both parents say sobor and it's not smoky then go ahead, You are not hurting anyone.