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New Mom Secrets: I Drove My Baby Without a Car Seat

by Suzanne Murray on February 17, 2009 at 10:41 AM

driving car with baby not in car seatIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"When my daughter was 10 months old, my husband drove our car while I sat in the back holding her, and seatbelted in, because we didn't have a car seat—my mother had borrowed it without letting us know. We drove for about 10 miles. Terrible I know! —anonymous

Question: What do you think about putting a baby in a car without a car seat under these circumstances?
  1. A baby should never be in a car without a car seat. Period. End of story. 24%
  2. If it were a true emergency—you had to rush the baby to the hospital—and you didn't have a car seat, it would be okay. But this doesn't seem like an emergency. 53%
  3. It's not the best choice, but I can understand it. This mom found herself without a car seat and they needed to go out. The mom held the baby and used her seatbelt. 21%
Total Votes: 499
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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!

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  • Peajewel


    February 17, 2009 at 10:49 AM

    My daughter choked on a piece of chicken and would not stop crying after so we took her over to the ER because we thought maybe she did some damage to her throat.  She was screaming so bad on the way, my husband took her out and held her even though I told him not to. 

  • babyg...


    February 17, 2009 at 10:59 AM

    I think in a true emergency it would be ok, depending how far you have to go. But just to get out of the house is selfish IMO.

  • momma...


    February 17, 2009 at 11:08 AM

    What's sad is that the police can't pull someone over for that. That's what I was told when I called and reported a mom who was holding her baby in the front seat of her car. I did it only because I knew the area we were driving in was prone to a lot of serious accidents and I didn't want the baby to be hurt. I hope that they can change that sometime. I never held my babies in the car, even when they were crying. If necessary, I'd pull over but I wouldn't think to have my baby outside of a car seat unless it was a true emergency, like my baby would be dead if I took the time to buckle her in.

  • sapient


    February 17, 2009 at 11:10 AM

    If it's a true emergency - taking the baby to the hospital - then call the ambulance. Just because it is an emergency doesn't mean that another driver isn't going to plow into you and send you both through the windshield. There is NO excuse for not putting a baby in a car seat. Just look at the statistics since they made the new car seat laws. Its disturbing that people EVER put their babies in cars without proper protection. When my daughter was one her cousin poked her in the ear with something and actually made her bleed. I STILL put her in the car seat to take her to the hospital.

    I don't know why you continue to post these Buzz things with mommy confessions. All it does is cause drama and/or make new moms feel it is okay to do bad things. It's stupid and CM should seriously reconsider letting you post these or post anything at all for them

  • caita...


    February 17, 2009 at 11:15 AM

    I would never personally do it!  When my brother was about 11 months old, we were coming home from my aunt's house and my brother would not stop crying.  We were about 2 miles from home and my mom had listened to him cry for about an hour.  She finally gave up and took him out of his carseat.  Minutes afterwards, a drunk driver ran through a stop light and broadsided our car.  My brother went flying out of my mom's arm, out the passenger-side window and underneath the car.  If we had rolled 2 inches more than we did, he would've been crushed by the tire of the car!  That's why I'll never take my kid of of a carseat or drive without them in one.

  • Katie...


    February 17, 2009 at 11:25 AM

    Crying is not an emergency.  If the child is bleeding, has a broken bone or severe injury, I might consider it.  Sometimes it's not feasible to wait for an ambulance, I understand that, but this should be a very rare occurance, something you may hear about on TVbut don't ko anyone it's actually happened to.

    Sapient, maybe YOU should leave CafeMom. 

  • Josef...


    February 17, 2009 at 11:35 AM

    I voted only in a TRUE emergency and ONLY because we live 1/2 mile away from the hospital and by the time an ambulance could be here we could have been in the ER already.  If we lived futher away from the hospital, there is NO excuse a child should not be in a carseat!

  • heath...


    February 17, 2009 at 11:35 AM

    I agree that a child should only be out of carseats when in true emergency!!

    I also think SAPIENT should LEAVE Cafemom as well. This is supposed to be a place to talk about things if we can't do that what is the point in being here?

  • Young...


    February 17, 2009 at 11:46 AM

    When my son was about 2 months old he had fallen asleep at my SIL's house in his carseat which I covered in a blanket. I put the carseat in it's base and drove about 30 minutes home. When I got him in the house and took the blanket off I relized i hadn't strapped him in. Even though everything was ok, I still get chills thinking about it.

  • jacej...


    February 17, 2009 at 11:49 AM

    Here is the problem with your theory of holding her while you both are in the same seat belt is safe....

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