New Mom Secrets: I Drove My Baby Without a Car Seat


driving car with baby not in car seatIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"When my daughter was 10 months old, my husband drove our car while I sat in the back holding her, and seatbelted in, because we didn't have a car seat—my mother had borrowed it without letting us know. We drove for about 10 miles. Terrible I know! —anonymous


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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!

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sapph... sapphiresoda

If it were a true emergency, that would be an entirely different story.  However, just to go out and about, no way.

bribr... bribribri

I agree with those of you who said that they would consider going without a car seat in a DIRE emergency. Let's face it, when your child is injured seriously you are going to react quickly and try to get them the medical attention they need, NOW. Here in Fayetteville, I have heard WAYYY too many stories about people waiting HOURS for an ambulance to show up to their houses for emergencies, so there's no way I'd be waiting around for EMS. I told my husband when I was pregnant that if I went into labor while he was at work, I wasn't calling EMS...I told him I'd get in my car and start driving to the hospital...if I saw a cop, I would intentionally speed to get their attention and get a free ride the rest of the way there. lol.


But like many of you's just wayyy too dangerous to chance it if it's not an emergency. You may be able to drive, but there are dipsticks all around you who can't, and don't have any regard for the lives around them.

tyrel... tyrelsmom

I think taking a baby in the car without a car seat is wrong, period.  If it's an emergency, call an ambulance.  I have done it by accident, though, although not with a baby.  I once forgot to belt my 3 yr. old in.  He climbed into his seat like he always does, and I put his baby brother into his car seat.  And completely forgot to buckle the 3 yr old in.  I only got about a mile down the road before he was yelling,  "I'm not stuck, I'm not stuck!!!!"  LOL.  I guess he's so used to always being belted in that it was just too wierd feeling for him to not say anything.  But that was a slip of the mind, still not right, but different, I think, than purposefully getting into a car not planning on using a car seat.

Bearsjen Bearsjen

I think its very sad that as a cm is in theory a supportive site that so many moms answered so judgmentally. have your opinion but for God's sake dont be mean.

smack... smackthecricket

IF an IF my car seat was on fire and there was no other one in site and she was bleeding from like the head. Then yeah I think that that an emergency enough. lol My and my husband were going around in our neighbor hood when we saw a flea market and I saw a car seat with no base. But it fit ours. It was only $3 so I picked it up asap, it always nice to a an extra car seat. Especially when the one I have is a hand-me-down from a friend. I mean the padding is easily removed and washer, as the same with the strap and nothing that Clorox wipes can't clean. So its just a thought to have an extra laying around never know when your going to need it.

but I also knew a mother who had her child in the car seat but never buckeled it. Oy!! One sharp turn and that kid would be on the floor. Yikes!

luvbe... luvbeinamommy68

if it were a true emergancy then call 911! you are more likely to get into an accident when you are worried about the welfare of your baby and not really paying attention to the road. if i didnt have a carseat for all my kids then i wouldnt go out. simple as that!

AHamrick AHamrick

I think it would be ok ONLY in an EMERGENCY situation - Hospital. Because, I know I can get to the hospital faster than if I wait for an ambulance. Our town only has like 2, and if they're both on calls, what then. Just wait? I think not!

hanna... hannahsmom18

That's what they ahve ambulances for

catho... catholicmamamia

If it is a true emergency, call an ambulance. Some of the things that I have been reading here are seriously disturbing!

sucke... suckedintolife

ive done that but my dh and i were getting ready to go home from my mothers house and were putting our ds in the carseat when he started choking and my dh husband took him out real quick and he quit breathing so we took him to the hospital i drove while my husband patted my ds on the back to get his breath and the hospital was like 2 or 3 miles away! we live in a small town so an ambulance would have taken an hour we waited in the hospital for like 2 hours before being transported to a better hospital. turns out he has acid reflx which made him choke

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