New Mom Secrets: I Drove My Baby Without a Car Seat


driving car with baby not in car seatIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"When my daughter was 10 months old, my husband drove our car while I sat in the back holding her, and seatbelted in, because we didn't have a car seat—my mother had borrowed it without letting us know. We drove for about 10 miles. Terrible I know! —anonymous


What do you think about putting a baby in a car without a car seat under these circumstances?

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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!

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RanaA... RanaAurora

THIS IS NEVER OKAY unless your baby is literally dying and you are driving to the ER, and in that case, you probably should have called 911!

How HARD is it for people to understand this stuff?  NOT. O. K!

heath... heatherann0221

It is never acceptable for a baby to not be in a car seat. Call an ambulance in a true emergency. Yesterday I wanted to go somewhere but remembered that my 3 yr olds car seat was in his dad's car. Even though his work is less than 5 minutes from my house, it wasn't worth the risk of getting in an accident and him being in just a regular seatbelt so that we could go get his seat. Most accidents happen very close to home.

bltca... bltcahill

I agree with Sapient that posting these confessions is potentially dangerous.  These moms are obviously not that embarassed about making dangerously poor decisions because they confess to complete strangers and friends alike. (It doesn't really matter that it's anon, that's more to avoid hatemail) And then their actions get either A) berated by other moms, making the confessor become defensive, and then things get personal, not just about the action itsself, or B)justified by other moms who've made equally irresponsible decisions.  This leads to hurt feelings, drama drama drama, people telling others to leave CM....  or it makes these horrendous parenting faux pas seem justifiable or even acceptable to the original confessor or to new moms who are easily impressionable.
It just doesn't seem like a good idea, a recipe for drama or disaster.

LuvOu... LuvOurBlessings

I think this is so sad...why would you risk this?  Children should ALWAYS be put safely in the PROPER car seats (and FYI...sometimes the boxes are labeled differently than your state's may want to check -- for example, GRACO high backed booster seats say they are for kids 3 years or older and bigger than 30 pounds, but WI law is that kids have to be 4 before they can go in a booster). an energency, call 911...if the ambulance may take a while, the 911 operator will stay on the line with you and advise you what to do to help control the situation (CPR, etc.)...I know this because I was in a situation where we had to call 911, and the operator and the people in the ambulance saved both my life and my unborn baby's life. 

I agree with the posters who think that these posts should be stopped...what is the point of inflaming the CM community like this?  In every "confession" I have seen, the confessor has been reamed out, poor parenting choices are flaunted and spotlighted, and there is NO real solution or help offered to the confessors who are putting their children at risk.


Colts... ColtsFan1912

good lord where was so important to go that you couldn't wait???? Emergency maybe yes i could see that. . .but...goodness. Who are ya Britany Spears

scmom... scmomma85

its never okay in my eyes, if its that big of an emergency call 911

gypsy... gypsysmiles

In an emergency where I could not get fast access to an ambulance, or had no cellphone reception and my son was badly enough injured to not be placed in the seat (such as the broken limb or a bad burn or something) then yes. But the moment that I could get help from parameditcs, I would.

Ooftacat Ooftacat

Never.  Even in an emergency, my child would be in a carseat on the way to the ER (and has been).  If it were bad enough that I thought I couldn't get to the hospital without him in the carseat, then I call 911 (and have). 

Sapient is right.  The "mommy confessions" put here by CM aren't silly things.  They are life threatening mistakes, that only bring out the drama-makers that seem to justify child neglet.

NOW, if CM spun the confessions, and used it as an educational tool, then they may have something there.  For example, "I had my child in the car without a carseat. Luckily we were fine, but when I got home, I researched, and found this and that, and realized how awful that could have been.  So please momma's, find the right way to buckle your children, and learn from my mistake, so that something doesn't happen to your child."

THEN, maybe the CM confessions would be serving the right purpose.

ap.sahm ap.sahm

AMEN to the comment made by "sapient"!

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