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Did You Arrange Your Pregnancy Around Your Career?

by Suzanne Murray on February 9, 2009 at 4:32 PM

career and kids waiting to have baby younger women have kidsFor the past 40 years, women have been waiting to have babies. Probably in part, to get their careers going. And it seems like more and more women are waiting even longer than ever—there are lots of first-time moms in their late thirties and early forties, and even some in their fifties and sixties. But despite that, the trend is now for women to have their first baby when they're a lot younger.

For the first time since the government started keeping records, the average age at which women are having babies fell—there was a 5% increase in first-time babies in women aged 20 to 24. Experts say this could be because of a shift in attitudes. Women now just assume they'll have both a career and a family and they'll do it on their own schedule. Before women felt like they had to spend ten years working to prove themselves before they had kids.

Did your career affect when you decided to have kids?

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  • RCook
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    RCook

    February 9, 2009 at 4:55 PM

    I became pregnant with my daughter at 21 unexpectedly.  I had just started a new job and my boss wasn't very happy to say the least.  I have waited over four years to establish myself better in my career (quite high up now) and am now pregnant with my second child, but my boss is very understanding this time.  I think he was uncomfortable with my first pregnancy not knowing what to expect out of me.  He knows I will continue to be a dedicated employee no matter what.


  • Chris...
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    Chrissy629

    February 9, 2009 at 5:01 PM

    My family is my career. That's the way I've always wanted it.


  • matis...
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    matissesmom

    February 9, 2009 at 5:11 PM

    I personally didn't do this because of my particular circumstances, but I know many women who did and that is and what is wrong with that?  They want to have a job and fulfill themselves in that aspect of their lives before having children.  having children later also can make you more stable financially as well as emotionally.  Also, in countries like Canada, you have a year of maternity leave from your job if you qualify and I know lots of women who are teachers who try and time their birth to summer vacation and such.....


  • MaMom...
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    MaMomToTwo

    February 9, 2009 at 5:36 PM

    I was a nobody at a nothing job, and preferred to be a young mother, while my husband preferred to be a young father. So, I got pregnant at 21, and again at 23, which was when I quit my job. Now, my husband is in a good career, and I am a stay at home mom...which is all I ever wanted to be.


  • Agent...
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    AgentBrez

    February 9, 2009 at 6:14 PM

    nope. i graduated from college, married 5 months later and 6 months later i was pregnant. i was working as an administrative assistant, wasn't really 'using' my degree. i knew that i would eventually be a SAHM so i didnt think there was a point in delving too deep into a career in politics when i would have to leave it. i ended only working full time 13 months before becoming a full time stay at home mom. i dont plan on going back to work for a long time [we are planning on a big family], if at all. my MIL's youngest is 16 and she doesnt really have a need to be around but does not have a job. she substitute teaches sometimes but still being a SAHM she has the flexibility to visit family, especially when they are in need [like us for babysitting] and volunteer. i hope we are blessed enough to have a similar situation.


  • FoxyR...
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    FoxyRoxyMommy

    February 9, 2009 at 7:08 PM

    I made a decision to backseat the career fastlane until after I had children since DH is in a stable career and provides enough so that I dont have to work anyway (living below our means definitely made it possible-he is military). Knowing I had fertility issues and that it would be an uphill battle without adding an older age for myself in the mix, it was an easy decision to get busy. It took 3 years of fertility treatments, but we will have our first and only child before we are 30 and our prospects for healthy baby AND mom are in the clear. Jobs will be there, but my window for children was not. If I didnt have those problems, the career would have gone further, but being a SAHM for the first 3 years was a must anyway. Im just knocking it all out at once. More power to women for jobbing it up, just dont wait til the last minute and lose your window of opportunity for healthy babies AND healthy mommies.


  • Trixi...
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    Trixiebelle2

    February 9, 2009 at 7:34 PM

    I decided to start a family later in life so that I could attend graduate school and establish my career. Good thing I did since marriage #1 did not work out.  


  • BonJo...
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    BonJovilover

    February 9, 2009 at 8:03 PM

    My goal was to have a baby the year or two after i graduated from nursing school. Found out I was pregnant 3 weeks after graduation. At least I was out of school LOL!


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    catgirlw2

    February 9, 2009 at 8:05 PM

    I got pregnant with my first unexpectedly, but I was 27, engaged, and not using my college degree in my job.  I went back to work when she was 9 months old, as a substitute teacher.  I did this for 2 years.  Although wanting to get my teaching certificate, I decided to sub one more year, so I could have another baby before getting settled into a career.  We got pregnant as soon as we started trying, so I took the first semester off, had my new daughter in early October, and went back to work in January, after Christmas break.  I wish I had more time as a stay at home mom, but we need the money.  Luckily, though, we don't have to pay for child care, as my MIL doesn't work outside the home.


  • KRISSH
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    KRISSH

    February 9, 2009 at 8:29 PM

    WEL YES AND NO...

    WEN I GOT PREG WTH MY DD(2000)  . WE HAD JUST MOVED TO A NEW HOUSE AND I STARTED NEW JOB..WELL I QUIT JOB..

    SEC PREG( 2004) WAS WORKEN FOR GOOD COM...I WORKED UP TILL 2 WEEKS BEFORE I HAD EM ( TWINS)..CAME BACK 12 WEEKS LATER)SO YES AND NO

    WISH I HAD STAYED WTH LAST JOB...


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