New Mom Secrets: I Let My Baby Wear a Dirty Diaper


don't change dirty diaperIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"I don't change my baby's diaper during the night—I'm too tired. In the morning it's always filled with pee or poop, or both. He's getting an awful diaper rash, but I lied to the pediatrician saying I didn't know why his bum was all red. Sometimes if he cries a lot, my boyfriend will change his diaper while I pretend to be asleep." —anonymous


Is it okay to let your baby sleep in a soiled diaper at night so you can catch some zzz's?

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We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

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ohbladi ohbladi

If my kid STTN, I'm not waking him up to change him. But if he's crying and dirty, I change his diaper. It's called being a parent...sometimes you have to do things you don't enjoy for the good of your child. if you're catching any beauty sleep anyway listening to your baby scream, anyway.

matth... matthewscandi

I wonder if this mother knows or cares that her baby can get sepsis from wearing a dirty diaper on top of a diaper rash. Thats just disgusting. There is no way I would put my baby through that.

tameris tameris

That is not ok especially when the little one is in pain. If you dont want to wake up every time then make a deal with your bf to take turns taking care of the baby if you dont want to do this you dont need a child the abuse neglect needs to stop!!!

Brown... Brownniee

I do understand where you are coming from, being a new mom it's very hard especially when you don't get enough sleep.  I am sure things will get better for you.  Remember people will say what is right but you never know what goes on behind close doors.  I wish you luck!

mom2t... mom2twoboys41

get up and change ift if u dont want the responibality of taking care of that poor baby then give him to some one who can i think your selfish for letting him /her be in a poopie /wet diaper all night long thats just plain wrong

p.b. p.b.

If you are pretending to sleep, then you aren't getting rested anyway.  Take 1 minute, change the diaper then you can all go back to sleep.


I say if he wakes up then yes go change and/or feed him. If he doesn't wake up then let him be. A baby cries when they need something. That is there way of telling you "hey, I need something". I know you are tired, but life changes when you have a baby and you don't get to choose yourself first anymore.


Also- how would you like it if when you are old and maybe in a nursing home and you have to sit in your own filth because the nurses are so tired/busy to come change you?

Veela Veela's not like it's not going to be even worse when you finally get to it! You're not just hurting the baby -- you're giving yourself a bigger mess in the morning.

nucle... nuclear_sugar

My son is the most important thing to me, period. I could care less if I never sleep again, if staying up all night was required for meeting his needs and keeping him safe and healthy. Shame on this mom for being so selfish that she put her child's health and well-being in danger for a few extra minutes of "beauty" sleep.


We all make mistakes, but to cover up and attempt to rationalize harming your child is abuse, plain and simple.

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