New Mom Secrets: I Let My Baby Wear a Dirty Diaper


don't change dirty diaperIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"I don't change my baby's diaper during the night—I'm too tired. In the morning it's always filled with pee or poop, or both. He's getting an awful diaper rash, but I lied to the pediatrician saying I didn't know why his bum was all red. Sometimes if he cries a lot, my boyfriend will change his diaper while I pretend to be asleep." —anonymous


Is it okay to let your baby sleep in a soiled diaper at night so you can catch some zzz's?

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alpha... alphabits2003

This is so very sad for your baby!! When you have a baby the focus is no longer on you, and it's horribly selfish for you to sleep while baby is in pain for a sore (OFTEN PREVENTABLE) bottom!!!  This baby counts on you to tend to his needs and take complete care of him because he can't do it himself!  Apparently you know it's wrong or you wouldn't have posted about it....Now, it's time to grow up and do the mom thing the right way or step aside and let someone else take care of him!

mom23... mom23boys679

If said baby is sleeping through the night you shouldn't wake it, but that's really shitty to sleep through your baby crying. How the eff can one do that?

maddi... maddieandleomom

You should change your baby, sleeping or not, if he or she has a diaper rash and needs a fresh diaper. 

sstepph sstepph

Wow! Lazy!

That poor little baby's diaper rash can get worse and lead to worse things.

CHANGE THE DIAPER! So not hard to do. Drink some coffee in the morning and wake yourself up.

This disgusts me.

FatCo... FatCookie

Dirty diapers don't last forever and neither do the sleepless nights (not until the teenage years!).  SO get up,  go do it, and be a wonderful, loving and tired mom - it goes by so fast!

Toddl... ToddlerBrain82

I couldn't even imagine lying there peacefully in bed, knowing that my sweet little baby was lying in a poopy diaper getting a rash. That is child abuse. That rash can get infected; baby could get a UTI or worse. I hate to think what else is going to happen to that poor baby as he or she gets older.

MyMay... MyMayBaby_Chloe

You are being selfish and NEGLECTFUL!!! All for what? So that you can get a few extra Zzzzz's. A child is a huge responsibility and obviously you aren't responsible enough to have one! Get your lazy ass up and change that child's diaper. Do you have any idea how many risks you are putting your child through? The horrible pain of a diaper rash? You should TRULY be ashamed, and if you can't take care of your child better than that ........then you need to give him to someone who TRULY wants a baby and wont mind getting up in the night to change a diaper. You are lazy, selfish, and neglectful and you should be ashamed. This disgusts me!!!

Swtma... Swtmama62205 sad...poor baby

Galda... Galdarisimom

I think that maybe you should talk to YOUR doctor because it sound like you might be experiencing post partum depression.  Not caring as much about your child is definitely a symptom of PPD.  If your child is crying you need to respond.  That is the only way your baby can communicate with you.  It is definitely a red flag to me.  I don't know how old your baby is, but are you feeding them at night?  I really, really encourage you to TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR and while you are waiting to do that HAVE SOMEONE COME HELP YOU, like a friend, a relative, something.  As that babies mama it is your job to make sure they are properly cared for, even if you can't do it. 

Proud... ProudMami2008

That is definately not okay. Would you want to sit in a poopy diaper all night while the person who was supposed to be taking care of you slept? That's just wrong. It only takes a minute and then your baby feels better and you can go back to sleep.

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