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Jessica Simpson Is Done Making Babies

Jessica Simpson has two beautiful babies -- emphasis on the word babies, as Maxwell is 2 and Ace is just 13 months old. Two under 3. Two in diapers. Are you exhausted just thinking about it?

The 34-year-old singer announced something on her Instagram that doesn't surprise me in the least: while posing with her adorable friend's son, Jack, she wrote, "I love you Jack, but I do not want another!!" The star makes truly beautiful children -- um, with a little help from her husband, Eric Johnson, of course -- but in this case, I do not blame her one bit for only wanting two children.

Like Simpson, I had two children within three years of one another. My daughter just turned 3 and my son just turned 3 months old. As my baby quickly outgrows his clothing, I have been bagging his onesies and adorably impractical vests and button-down shirts in order to donate them to Good Will. But my mother keeps warning me to save them "for just a little bit longer," and the wistful look on her face says it all: she thinks I might just gift her with another grandson or granddaughter.

Sorry -- I love you, mom -- but not for all the tea in China. Not happening. Nope. No way.

I understand why some of my friends, whose children are older and further apart in age, begin thinking about having another baby -- just as they begin being able to have date nights again and sleep through the night (every night, not three out of seven nights). They miss the newborn baby smell. The newborn baby cuddliness. The newborn baby inability to scream in your face that he or she wants a cookie right now "or else."

They want to coo again. They see this as their last opportunity to create a family that won't fit comfortably in your average car, but that will enjoy one hell of a fun Christmas.

But when you have children really close in age  -- and when those children share similar baby qualities at the same time -- you kind of get your "fill" of the baby years. You feel so tired and preoccupied at ALL times -- with the constant feeding, breastfeeding, washing bottles, making formula, changing diapers, potty training, playing, teaching, coloring, taking to doctor appointments, giving time-outs, etc, etc. -- that you feel too zonked to contemplate having a third.

Where would you even find time to give birth to another baby with all you have to do?

I won't lie. I've had moments where I've thought: this is the LAST time I'll ever have a 3-month-old. This is the LAST time I'm ever going to breastfeed any baby, ever (because Salma Hayek, I am not). And these are sad thoughts that make me want to cling to my son and keep him a baby just a little bit longer.

But these thoughts are quickly interrupted by a crying infant. An adorable toddler who wants to play princess tea party with me.

And I can't imagine a third baby in the cards any time soon. But never say never, right?

Right, Jessica?!

How did you know when it was time to stop having more babies?


Image via Jessica Simpson/Instagram

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LeeshaE LeeshaE

I hate that "never say never" when it comes to being done baby making. I always said one and done. Had my mind 100% made up by 22 when my son was 4 because the only reason I would've considered another would have been for him to have a sibling close in age. People still say that too me when in reality I have long list on why nots which are personal preferences and health issues, including the fact that my mother died in complications to from child birth. I love the idea of being kid free by 36.

nonmember avatar Mara

Children nearly 3 years apart in age really isn't all that close. Definitely not comparable to Jessica's children who are barely a year apart. If you're finding your 2 difficult, remember you have TWO WHOLE EXTRA years between births than Jessica had.

I think you know you're done having babies when you know, weather it's practical, financial, emotional, physical, or a specific number. I don't think that having them "only" 3 years apart will make you want fewer children. My 3 are all 2 years apart and it's been great. Never had 2 in diapers either. We're done because it's the practical choice and we're lucky to have happy healthy children, not because their age gaps made me feel overwhelmed by motherhood.

IKnow... IKnow0101

My children just turned 5 &7 and a couple of years ago I wanted to have another baby but due to family obligations and health reasons we knew the time wasn't right. In January I said to myself I have 2 beautiful children who I can run off with without bringing strollers or change of clothing. So i was done. In March I found out I was pregnant. Go figure.

Jacee... Jacee2348

@LeeshaE if you think you're done when they turn 18 you're in for a big surprise! :) LOL We're never really "done" with our kids...

LaniBee LaniBee

Our kids are 31, 18 and 13 and we have a 4 yr old grandson. We're definitely done! 

lil_m... lil_mama06

Witn our last (6th) baby I was on bedrest at 14 weeks along...I decided NO MORE!!!!!!!!!!!....I would of liked to of had a son, but if I really want one I will adopt an older child... 

cjsje... cjsjellybean

I'm not sure yet!  We have a 3 year old and 19 month old (20 months apart) and are due with number 3 in September (21 months from number 2).  I would love a 4th and then I feel like our family will be complete.  However, I am totally content to play things by ear once this baby gets here.  I do hope to eventually have a 4th though.

johnn... johnny4ever

I was blessed with my son who will be 1.I coudn't have anymore children..I really wanted a girl also.

mem82 mem82

I have a 13yo ,9yo, 5yo and almost 3yo. We go back and forth on whether we want one more or not.

maya_... maya_rice

I have 4 kiddos.  First two are 2 years 10 months apart.  Next two were 2 years 4 months apart, last two were also 2 years 4 months apart.  I had four aged 7 and under.  That is how I wanted it.  I was in baby mode and had no issues adding another.  For me having 6, 8, 10 years between would have been extremely difficult.  My youngest just turned 7 and there is no way I would want to start all over.

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