1 Important Reason to Ditch the Baby Monitor

baby monitorBaby monitors can be a new mom's best friend. And for a good reason: new parents want to keep an ear (and an eye) on their little ones for every single possible waking and sleeping second. Especially once the newborn moves into the nursery, mom and dad want to continue to stay connected.

But there is a point at which baby monitors become a bad idea.

"With a constant growing fear of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), parents are listening to every twitch and sound," says Daniel Lewin, M.D., the associate director of pediatric sleep medicine at Children's National Medical Center in Washington, D.C. "Baby monitors tend to increase a parent's awareness and they make parents into hyper-observers."

The problem with this?

New parents become so aware and anxious about leaving their baby alone in a room for hours at a time, that they don’t get the proper sleep themselves. Don't we know it?!

Dr. Lewin suggests removing the baby monitor -- even if it's just at night -- when your baby is at least 6 months old. "At this point, parents can start eliminating nighttime feeds, so an infant can have a consolidated overnight sleep and so can mom and dad," he explains.

Sometimes using a baby monitor during the day is just plain practical -- you can hear your baby when she wakes up from napping and you don't have to keep sneaking in to check on her. It's certainly okay to keep using a monitor at night if you really feel the need. But if you find yourself becoming over-the-top vigilant and not getting enough sleep (particularly if you've got a video monitor), consider puling the plug at 6 months. You deserve a good night's rest.


Did you use a baby monitor? When did you stop?


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Craft... CraftyJenna

This is idiotic. "Just ignore your children at night, they will probably be fine. " Don't become a parent at all if you don't realize that you are a parent 24 hours a day, and when the baby cries, they need you. 

nonmember avatar julie james

Soooo we get to stop being parents at night and ignore our babies...yea right. I dont know about other parents but if my baby cries im going to check and make sure she is fine. Lack of sleep comes with the territory of being a parent.

nonmember avatar Ingrid

I used a baby monitor when our first child was born. But we hardly used it and when our second, third and fourth child was born we never used one again. When a child cries we woke up anyway. Our baby slept in de room next to ours. And it is not necessary to respond to every sound.

SoJaided SoJaided

We stopped the monitor at about 7 months. He slept in our room til 6 months and we used it for a month after that, but his room was right next to ours so it was actually pretty pointless. Granted, he ended up cosleeping with us most of the night anyways til about 14 months lol

Lucki... Luckicharmz

We have a monitor for when we're outside, or in the basement, which are the only two places in the house I theroetically wouldn't hear baby. We don't use one at night because his rooms right across the hall so I hear him no problem

pagan... paganbaby

Why in the world would you eliminate night feeds at 6 months?? So you can get better rest? Babies wake up and want breast or bottle for a reason. They're hungry, need comforting, ect. Being a parent isn't about your convenience Smh...

mommy... mommy2adandykid

omg again, the stir writers hit a new stupid low.  'i should get rid of my monitor because im not getting enough sleep.....ya know......the first 6 months to a year of the baby's life'.........yea let that sink in.  FREAKING DUH.  bunch of freaking morons

Ellen Waltos

I never used a baby monitor unless I was in the living room with friends and didn't think I could hear my kids over them talking. They are going on 5 and 2 and they are perfectly okay.


We used a monitor with our oldest till two years old. I don't care if every little sound wakes me up. I feel better knowing if something happens, I will for sure hear it. And I am thankful for doing it. It was how we were able to know she had croup because her cough started at night. We plan on doing the same with the seven month old. Being a parent means you don't get a good nights rest until they are older. And even then, there are times you still won't.

Silve... SilverFire85

This is so stupid.  I use mine so that I can hear when my child wakes up, either in the morning or from a nap.  I don't always hear him in the morning without it because I'm a fairly heavy sleeper, and I don't always hear him after a nap because of where his room is compared to the living room.  So instead of the monitor I"m supposed to either ignore him, or sit outside his room?  This is seriously one of the dumbest things I've read on The Stir, and there's been some dumb shit posted here.

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