Breastfeeding Mom's 'Stretch Marks' Photo Says More About Us Than Her

milo & eloise breastfeedingIt's not surprising that another photo of a mom breastfeeding is causing a firestorm on the Internet. But this photo is causing a stir because it has a little something extra. It's a photo by new mom Sky Boucher tandem nursing her twins and showing her stretch marks. Wow, there's a whole lot going on there! Needless to say, people have a lot to say about this fearless photo, almost all of it extreme. I think how you respond to this photo says a lot about how you feel about motherhood and your own body.

You can see the photo in its entirety below. Boucher posted it first on her Tumblr blog, Milo & Eloise. Someone wrote her to complain, and she responded with a defiant manifesto about art, body image, and motherhood:

Art isn't always about whats aesthetically pleasing. Sometimes you need to show people reality. This is real shit. This is what life is after partying and being a wild thin teen and reading bullshit books about werewolves. It isn’t clear skin and skinny bodies and free time forever. Its stretch marks, wrinkles, shitty baby diapers and laying in weird ass positions to keep your children happy because you love them more than your comfort or your smooth pert body. Its being overweight and having sex, wrinkly fat sweaty real shit adult parent long term relationship sex and then trying to slip in half an hour of sleep before your kid flips shit at 1am. And its poetic and awesome. Fuck your skinny smooth boring ass ideal of what life should be that you ripped out of some dumb ass teen cosmo. My life is goddamn beautiful even if my belly is a wreck.

Boucher's photo was shared on the Facebook page The Other Side of Motherhood, where it was met with an even bigger response. Just a sampling:

"What garbage!"

"This is amazing!"

"Noooo! Why can't mothers breastfeed and be modest?"

"Beautiful!"

"What the hell is wrong with you? This is disgusting!"

"R E S P E C T."

That most of the comments are positive gives me hope for us all. That most of the negative comments come from men is ... well, what can I say? They're all probably too immature to handle reality.

This photo made my jaw drop, but not because I thought it was inappropriate or "disgusting." I was blown away at her confidence, her ability to literally bare it all this way. It takes a strong woman to look at her post-baby body, wrinkly tummy and all, and call herself beautiful. I wasn't able to do that.

I remember seeing my stretched-out post-baby belly with a feeling of sinking horror. I remember silently pleading with my belly to please go back to where it used to be, up by my ribs instead of hanging down practically to my knees. I didn't have the self-compassion to see my wrinkly belly as beautiful.

But that's what makes this photo so powerful. No matter how you felt about your own post-baby body, or how you feel about how much we should share online, you're going to have a strong reaction to this photo. And you're going to want to talk about it. 

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What's your first response to this photo of a new mom breastfeeding her twins?

 

Image via The Other Side of Motherhood/Facebook

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AliPa... AliParker

I don't get why so many moms have to post pictures just because their kids are sucking on their nipples. Do they just not feel complete unless people, who did not ask, have seen their boobs?

Other than the fact that no one cares that she is a nipple feeder I think she is brave and I admire that she is so comfortable with her body. With that bring said, no one cares. No one asked to see it. It's just to make people look at her.

Einyn Einyn

Just as I don't need to see anyone in a bikini on Facebook I don't get why I need to see this either

2nino... 2ninos4me

Wow nipple feeder ?!!

Disgusting comment .

I was a breastfeeding mom and NVR felt that it was necessary for others to see me bf my boys . I don't get the need to do so . Also , the only good thing about that photo is that one hollywood mom is honest about her post baby body and is not acting like everything was perfect looking like the rest of those moms

nonmember avatar Wtf

@2ninos4me how is that comment "disgusting"? That's literally what it is! I don't see a need to post that picture but she did so now we can all see it and talk about it like she wanted. Cute babies though.

Melanie Vare

THANK GOD SHE HAS BIG TWINS!

lalab... lalaboosh

What really needs to be posted on the internet? It's a big world out here online and if you don't want to see pictures of breastfeeding it's pretty easy to avoid.

miche... micheledo

Awesome!


Personally, I can't stand pictures of woman in lingerie, bikinis, revealing as much of their breast as possible  But in today's world, it is what we see.  So based on that, I love that we have a REAL image of a REAL woman showing a body that is doing its job - not just flaunting sex appeal.

nonmember avatar casandra

Brave! And awesome! Inspiring for me bc im not confident in my baby body but when I see something like this, I hold my head a little higher.

kayba... kaybayblee3

Personally I think it's a picture that needs to be seen. Maybe not the whole breast feeding thing, but the comment that she posted. This is really what happens to your body. Not everyone, and not every has stretch marks that bad, but not everyone bounces back to a perfect body afterwards.

nonmember avatar soon2bmom

I think its beautiful! Her courage and confidence are what speaks most here. She telling the world how it really is, and that its something to be proud of! Every wrinkle and every stretch mark. This is real, natural beauty-- inside and out. Not some skinny model with 1"x1" pieces of clothes covering her nipples in what she calls a bikini top. And if you're the type of person who doesnt look at that, then ignore this photo too! Shes given me a sense of pride, and when I deliver my daughter I will be proud of every new imperfection my body carries!

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