Hotel Guest Leaves Parents Nasty Note for Bringing 'Crying Baby' On Vacation

nasty letterRecently, a mom and a dad and their baby went on a vacation. Nothing out of the ordinary, right? The family went to a ski resort in Colorado, where the brain surgeon dad had a conference, staying at a local hotel. And hotels, for those of you who have never been, have thin walls. During the night, the baby did what lots of babies do: cried. And the people staying next to the parents and the baby, understandably, weren't happy. But instead of talking to the front desk about a room change, they slipped an incredibly nasty letter -- anonymous, of course -- under the family's door, essentially telling them they were the worst people in the world and they completely ruined their vacation. (The letter writer is a parent, too, FYI.)

Here it is:

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After the mom showed her brother, a dad blogger, the letter, he went off. He wrote a long, thoughtful post on his blog, sticking up for his sister, brother-in-law, and niece. He makes lots of good points (the baby normally doesn't cry at night) and describes the kind of people his family members are. Sure, he's biased, but it at least humanizes these parents, who clearly aren't evil, entitled people, who think the world ought to bow down to them.

Here are a few particularly interesting quotes from his letter:

Perhaps, if you had yelled back or pounded on the headboard, then the thinness of the walls would have been more evident to the struggling parents. Then again, such an act of directness would have identified you as the petty selfish person you are. Personally, I think you knew that, which is why instead, you decided to lay your opinion out anonymously and with no consideration of what was happening within the room or who the people are you were addressing. You knew all you needed to know: "Someone is doing something I don't like! I should cry about it." Sound familiar? The baby was cutting teeth, what is your excuse?

Your kids ruined things for other people too. As a matter of fact, you ruined more than one evening for others when you were a little tyrant yourself. The same is true for every adult walking the planet, unless their parents kept them tranquilized or frozen in carbonite until graduation. Maybe you didn't know, but it happened. That is the way of the world; this is not a hermetically sealed, adults-only dystopia where nothing unexpected occurs to anyone. If you want to guarantee a trip with those parameters (and since you obviously planned for this years in advance), then plan a little better and rent a freaking cabin or bring a set of earplugs.

If it's not a child, it will be a dog; if it's not a dog, it will be a group of drunken fraternity members, or a construction crew, or a leaky faucet. Maybe loud lovers, the TV in the next room, or a neighbor who leaves their radio clock on all night that will disturb your slumber. It's always something, isn't it? I know the feeling. It sucks, but these things happen. Sometimes they are due to inconsideration and more often due to accident or happenstance.

Clearly, he's agitated, but I have to say, I agree with this man. I feel like writing a letter like this was just plain mean. Other people, though? Not so much. If you read some of the comments on the Huffington Post page, where the letter was republished, they actually think the letter writer was right!

Here's a sampling of some:

I find the author to be worse than the person writing this note. Obviously his parents failed at raising children as well and it appears he and his lil' sis are following the parents behaviors.

Actually, I completely disagree with this author. I don't care how many people that your brother-in-law helps, I don't care how nice of a person your sister is, I don't care if your sister had a desperate need to want to get out of the house, and I don't care if it was tougher for the parents that were in the same room. Those points are completely irrelevant. Your sister brought a baby to a ski resort, to a place where a baby really doesn't belong.

When my kids were young, I (and probably your parents, too) did all kinds of horrible, un-adult fun things -- like Chucky Cheese, Disneyland, MacDonalds and local parks. It did not occur to me to inflict my unpredictable baby, who was unready to behave in society, on other people in places like fancy restaurants, ski resorts, movie theaters -- even flights.

Gotta love the Internet, right? It's the land of perfect parents!

I really don't see how slipping an anonymous letter under someone's door solved anything. It didn't fix their vacation and only made the parents feel worse than they likely already did. If the baby was quiet the entire time, no one would have thought twice, so the issue isn't bringing babies places, it's bringing crying babies places. And, as every parent knows, it's impossible to predict when your baby is going to start crying. 

Taking a baby to super fancy restaurant is unacceptable, but a hotel? Why not? Like the brother said, there are plenty of adults-only resorts for childless people/people with grown kids to go. Although, you never know, you might get a room next to a super loud drunk.

Who do you think is right?


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Elaine Cox

the letter writer has a right to be pissed..dont like the way they did it but they had every right to do it...

knitt... knittykitty99

I think the letter was nasty.  However, if I were the baby's parents I would feel badly, not indignant, about the situaltion.  It's pretty reasonable to expect that you would be able to sleep at a hotel - not be kept awake by a crying baby.


nonmember avatar blue

Well the original note was pretty nasty...they have a point. An expensive ski resort is NOT the place for a baby. With really small ones, you never can tell how the night will go. They get sick quickly, get overwhelmed by new stimuli. It's really unfair to be up all night, because of a wailing baby. You don't expect to pay a ton of money to experience that, at such an adult place. It doesn't matter how awesome the parents are, they should have kept baby at home, or had family watch it so they could have a night away.

Movie... Moviebuff

Yes babies cry but the world doesn't revolve around you and your child but they are also on vacation and don't expect to be kept up all night by your screaming kid.Some people handle babies in different ways and have every right to be upset.

Einyn Einyn

I felt bad for both until I realized it was a ski resort. I agree, the baby shouldn't be there. Especially cutting teeth. The brother suggests the people could've got a cabin - should the parents of the screaming baby have done so instead?

nonmember avatar Rebecca Ask

The rich man's crying cause hid money's time.
The poor man's smiling because he knows he ain't blind.
Sam Roberts Band.

Get some perspective.


Both sides have valid points/rights--the "evil-letter-writing" vacationers and the "crying-cutting-teeth-baby" parents.  Both paid money to get what they wanted.  However, for the most part, when babies are cutting teeth, you know well in advance that is happening...for that reason, I would have either told my husband to go without us or asked the desk clerk to find me a room as far away from other guests as possible--and since he is a brain surgeon, it would have been a drop in bucket to find a more secluded place to tend to my baby's needs.  As far as the "evil-letter-writers", of course they could have handled it differently, but I assume they were sleep deprived and extremely cranky.  They could have asked to be moved--but, again, they were cranky and not thinking correctly.  However, back to being the parents--I am leaning towards the fault of them, I would not want to disturb the other guests.  I guess I try to think of others.

the4m... the4mutts

I agree with the letter writer. This wasn't some motel 6 near an airport where people stay overnight to wait on their early morning flight. This was a pricey resort. A brain surgeon could have afforded child care, or a private cabin. They knew they had a teething baby, and they simply didn't care enough to change their plans.

I feel badly for the baby too! Poor little thing. Teething, in a new place, a COLD place, and up half the night? These people didn't use their brain.

nonmember avatar BG

I think the original letter writer was complaining to the wrong people- If this was a pricy resort then it should have been built with thicker walls. They should have complained to the management not the parents who were doing their best to get the baby back to sleep.

Anna Potts

its a baby if was a restruant then by all means bitch my daughter is almost 3 and eating out is iffy still hell the nicest place ive been with her is carls jr. talk about romantic lol...if a childs freaks out cus lets face it they dont work up to it, then leave if my daughter does this any where we leave, but a hotel room come on what do you want them to do leave there!? when my husband and i went on a buisness trip, the job put us up in the honeymoon sweet for a night and baby girl freaked it was sensory overload, the bed and breakfast had cookies for her and were so sweet we even had a couple grandparents who wanted to play all night, we moved to a shitty and i do mean shitty motel 6 and guess what baby girl passed out for the first 8 hours of her life. my husband and i offer to by drinks for people my daughters last flight apon landing turned to hell and every one was so nice even after booze was offered(no time candy maybe?!) things happen if you shut your self out then you go crazy trust me coming from an 18 month shut in due to a hellish landlord and no understanding friends with kids you go crazy you need out! i wouldnt have picked a ski resort, i love snowboarding did it through my pregnancy but the beach would have been better. and my last note pop a boob in the baby's mouth my daughter cut teeeth gave her milk done with freak out. dont jugde till you have been there people we should be helping each other not condeming

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