You're Right, Public Breastfeeding Really Is All About YOU (VIDEO)

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ruin your dayHas your day ever been ruined by boobs? It happens. You're minding your own business at a cafe when, all of a sudden, some woman whips out her breasts for all the world to see. Oh noes! The body part we're all obsessed with and can't get enough of -- and she's blocking our view of it with that baby's head. Welcome to the breastfeeding in public debate. To a lot of moms, there's something absurd about people's overreaction to the sight of a nursing mother, as we see in this clever music video by Sparrow Folk, "Ruin Your Day."

Here's the thing people forget when women breastfeed their babies in public: THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU. I think a lot of the debate reveals how narcissistic and self-centered people can be. A mother is feeding her baby. What the hell does that have to do with anyone else in the room?

When a woman breastfeeds a baby in a public space, she is prioritizing the needs of her baby first and foremost. Everyone else has to take lower priority in her mind. Is that what bothers people the most? Why do people feel like their delicate sensibilities should take higher priority than a baby's feeding and hygiene?

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For that matter, I still do not understand why people are so unhappy to see tits. I thought we all loved tits. Aren't people spending hours online and on Snapchat trying to see more tits? Why are you even complaining? Like I said, none of these mothers are doing this for anyone's benefit but their babies', but if you happen to be in the same room, you really should just relax and appreciate. (Did I just encourage creepy leering at breastfeeding moms? Derr, that's not quite what I mean ...)

In general I find it exasperating when people bitch about parents inconveniencing the public, as if THE PUBLIC did not also consist of children. Why do we expect people who are already engaged in the act of caring for small human beings to go beyond that and care about the well-being of the adults, too? I don't think we hold non-parents up to the same high expectations. But I digress.

The point is, people need to stop thinking breastfeeding in public is about them. No one is trying to be rude to you, or exhibitionist, or any of that. We're all just eating here. Go back to your paper and coffee. No one ever died from the sight of breasts. You'll be fine.

Do you think it's narcissistic to feel offended at the sight of public breastfeeding?


Image via Sparrow Folk/Vimeo



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nonmember avatar needsmorecoffee

I always used a thin blanket as a cover to be discreet and used to think everyone should do the same. until the other day at an indoor play area i saw a mom that was a breast feeding ninja. She picked up her fussing baby and was holding him and it wasnt until she was walking past me that I even noticed what she was doing and she was still completely concealed by just the way she held her baby.

Laura Palmer

My issue is the over abundance of breastfeeding debate articles.... 

nonmember avatar blue

I agree. With that said, I saw a lady at the play area in the mall, literally sitting with both her entire breasts hanging out of her bra. I was watching my son and saw that she just kept her breasts out, so her toddler could nurse as he passed. I'm not kidding you, her boobs were dangling out in the open for at least 15 minutes. I was not watching her, I was watching my son. Some people take it to far. That was freaking ridiculous. I do think she was inappropriate and rude to the people around her. No one would say anything, because now you get crucified as anti breastfeeding.

lulou lulou

What people do need to realize is how they park in the school drop off is all about me.

nonmember avatar FarmersWife

Love this!!! I wish our culture would get over the fact that breasts have two uses. It's insane that breast feeding a child offends anyone. I agree that mothers should be practically discreet, but that's all. As long as there is no nipple hanging out for more than a quick latch/unlatch, get over it. You can't judge by the "amount of boob" hanging out etc. there are way too many variables. Fact is babies need to eat, and moms are equipt to feed them!

Katha... Katharine205

I think it's narcisisstic to think you can just pull your boob out in front of everyone.  Yes babies should be able to eat wherever they need to but mothers need to be discreet about it too.  I breastfed my daughter exclusively and had no problem nursing her at restaurant tables and in the mall or wherever I was.  The difference?  I was modest about it and didn't just hike up my shirt.  I used a damn blanket.  A thin one so she didn't get hot or stuffy but a blanket nonetheless.  Yes breasts are for nursing babies but they are also sexualized in our culture.  Would you walk around without a shirt on?  Is it ok for a woman without a baby to lift her shirt and let them hang out?  Then it's not ok to just let them hang out when you're feeding a baby either.  Everyone uses the bathroom too but we still have doors on the stalls don't we.

adamat34 adamat34

I think its silly we need to keep bring this stupid topic up.

No one is ever going to agree on tittys ya or nay

Lucki... Luckicharmz

I have bottle babies, but I still support public breastfeeding. Chidlren need to eat regardless of where the nutrition comes from, does this mean I think both your breasts should be flapping in the wind? No. Do covers (even extremely thin ones) and blankets work for every baby? Nope. Even without a cover you can still expose minimal breast, one of my close friends you see maybe a nickel of skin when she breastfeeds her son without a cover.

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