The 9 Stages Moms Go Through Their First Time Away From Baby (PHOTOS)

date nightA big milestone for new parents is their first night out without baby. For my husband and me, I think it was around 3 1/2 to 4 months when we went around the corner for a relaxed dinner, just the two of us. It was great. We laughed, had a glass of wine, ate an interrupted meal, reconnected. But something funny happened. And I have a feeling the same thing happens to most parents on their first night out without baby.

Here are the 9 stages new parents go through on their first night out alone.

At first, you're like, "Woo-hoo! This is going to be awesome! It's like old times!"


And then you're like, "Do you think everything's okay with the baby? Are we scarring her for life by going out?"


And you decide that everything's okay and enjoy your glass of wine, like a lady.


But then you're like, "I'm just going to leave my phone out, in case I can't hear it. Do you think my phone is working? Can you call me?"


And then you're like, "Relax, self! Everything's fine! I'm just going to fill up on this delicious bread."


And then you start wondering what the baby's up to.


And then you start looking at pictures of the baby on your phone.


And then you start rushing through the meal, because OMG! You just left your baby!


And then you get home and everything's fine and you're like, "That was fun. We should do that more often."


What was your first night out like?


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nonmember avatar Victoria

The first time I left my son, he was 2-3 weeks old and I had to run to wal-mart for what was supposed to be a quick trip to pick up a photo order. I was perfectly fine... Until there was an error with my order and I was told I had to wait another hour for them to re-print it (It was too far from home to go home and come back). I broke down and cried my eyes out in the car like some sort of crazy woman! The first time leaving my daughter was much easier, but I think that it was because it was for date night with hubby and I had distractions vs just constant thinking about baby.

Jacinda Krider

It pretty much happens like that everytime we leave the kids, and we both do it, and we normally end up calling it an early night

Laura Palmer

OR when you go out and promise to talk about something other than the kids, but end up talking about your kids all night anyways. 

Mommy... Mommy1438

My first time leaving the baby was the worst. She started daycare around 4 months so I could go back to school. For the first two weeks and still sometimes randomly, I would cry my eyes out and feel broken and empty and useless. I never left her other than for school. Except one when she was about 6 mos. I went to Cedar Point for a day and was texting the caregiver all day, demanding pics etc. I can't have fun when I'm away from her:( she is my fun!!

nonmember avatar me

i cant remember the first time I spent any time away of my kids, but the first time one of them was gone over night.. My husband actually took her out of state to his moms house for a week. She was 18 mos and driving home from the airport I had to stop because I was crying so hard... The first two days when it was her usual nap time, I found myself going to her room wondering why she hadnt woken up yet. I got used to her not being there but I was so happy to pick them up a week later

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

It was easy. We just dropped him at his grandparents, went to a wedding, and picked him up the next day. It's just not that big a deal once they're in kindergarten.

nonmember avatar JohnnaMomma

Funny i totally felt like that today.My daughter is 7 weeks old and i had to run errands (which was supposed to take a total of 4 hours) and left the baby with her dad. i texted him when i got to my destination. then two hours later im all like "how is she?" then another two hours passed and they told me to wait and hour and half more and i mustve cried like a baby. after that i surfed the million of pictures i took of her and then i called my husband and my mom and cried more than my baby ever had then i got home and she smiled at me and i leaked breastmilk and all was fine with the world!! haha now i look back it was funny. and i felt like a total mom.

Kings... KingsleysMommy

Had my first night away from my son 2 weeks ago. He is 17 months old. And I woke up every time I knew he was up. At 12 and 4 am. Lol! It's crazy how I was in Orlando and he was in Ocala and I could still feel that he needed me. I hope that connection remains through our lives.

midni... midnightstar21

Left for the first time yesterday. My baby is four months. I did everything on here lol.

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