Busybody Calls Cops on Mom Because Her Daughter Is Out in the Cold

little girl in coldI am very much a believer in the notion of see something, say something. And especially when it involves a child being hurt or mistreated. But apparently some people take that sense of responsibility to a ridiculous extreme. When Paula Andrew took her 9-month-old daughter Maddy for a walk this winter, a passerby called the police on her. You won't believe why.

This "good Samaritan" reportedly said that that Paula was exposing the baby to the cold. She didn't feel Maddy was adequately bundled up. Paula says they had not been outside for more than 10 minutes when the police rolled up and said there was a claim that the child was cold. The mother insisted that Maddy -- who was wearing woolly tights, leggings, an all-in-one vest, and a fleece top -- was adequately covered up in the 44-degree weather and wasn't cold.

Still, two officers questioned the mom, who refused to give them her name. "I explained that she was fine and Maddy certainly looked fine," she said to the Daily Mail. "I told them that we came out to the prom all the time to play. I am not convinced police should be harassing mums playing with their babies."

This was a serious waste of the police officers' time. They have real crimes to stop and investigate. But let's assign blame where it's due. It's that busybody who called the police that overreacted. She may have disagreed with the way the child was dressed, but no crime was being committed here. 

This was a ridiculous situation. These kind of people make it so hard for new moms -- always butting in and giving their opinion when it’s really none of their business. I remember once a woman stopping me as I pushed my son’s carriage. It had gotten chilly -- much more so than it had been when we left home hours earlier. She curtly said, "You should really have a blanket for him. His mother wouldn’t like this." There were two problems there -- one, she thought I was the nanny, and two, she had no business butting in. In fact, I was rushing home because of the temp drop but she assumed the worse.

That's not to say you can't have an opinion or even be judgmental about other moms. That's going to happen whether we like it or not. But I only ask that you think before you speak and certainly before you act.

Have you ever called the police on a "bad" parent?

 

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femal... femaleMIKE

My son was born in July and I was told by my family that he wasn't bundled up enough.  It was close to 90.  I listened until I noticed the sweat on my newborn then I went with my instints and removed his hat, socks, outfit and blanket.  Left him in just his onesie and he was happy.

Taisie Taisie

Wow, that last paragraph was an absolute abortion of the English language. Proofread people! You are professionals, write like it!

jrphelps jrphelps

Yes I have had the police & child protective sevices called on me.  All because my brother in law was pissed off at my husband.  The police & CPS both knew it was bogus but still had to come question me & file a report.  Mind you my brother in law lives 500 miles away from me & wanted to try & get custody of our son when he never even held him.  Needless to say, my husband hasn't spoken to his brother in 2 1/2 years now.

femal... femaleMIKE

jrphelps, Are you my sister in law?  My husbands brother acts that same way.  If you piss him off one way to get back at you is to call CPS.  That brother has been cut from our lives years ago when he went around telling people that we were drug dealers (we are not).

jrphelps jrphelps

femaleMIKE, maybe I am!!  My brother in law called in saying I was breastfeeding & doing drugs while my son was nursing!  Which I wasn't!!

ZacsA... ZacsAuntie

I've never called the cops on a bad parent but that's probably due to my lack of a cell phone at the times. One time that sticks in my head was when I saw a little boy that couldn't have been more then 7 sliding (not sledding) down a snow bank made by the snow plows on a curve in a busy intersection. Cars coming around the corner could not have seen him if he was in the street when they drove by and its on of those right turns you don't have to stop for. I was so scared that I was going to drive back by later and see crime scene tape. I've been in the foster care system so I'm not overly sensitive or a busy body. But I won't stay quiet when i see a child in danger.

nonmember avatar April

Hey Tasie....an "abortion" of the English language? Ok then.

As for the article, 44 degrees isn't even that cold, especially if it is in the afternoon! The kid had more than enough clothing on.

Taisie Taisie

Yeah,  I know, that was a bit harsh, but the writers here are professionals, who write for a living, and I don't think it is too much to ask that the articles be written in a way that can be easily read, and understood, and  I know  I am not the only one who reads the Stir that complains about this issue.


All is well though, the author fixed her last paragraph and it is now comprehensible )

work4... work4mickey

April

Farenheit, not celcius

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

At 44F I'm perfectly comfortable in short sleeves. It's barely even chilly, unless the baby was out in just a diaper I wouldn't even look twice.

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