Kailyn Lowry recently sent out a tweet lamenting the fact that she never got to go to college, and hopes that her kids will someday get to do everything she didn’t get a chance to experience. She said, “Looking at all my friends pictures in college makes me want my kids to do everything I didn't get to do! Looks like so much fun.”
Presumably, the Teen Mom reality star missed the boat on the college thing because she was busy with the whole motherhood thing. On one hand, I get where she’s coming from, because having a baby, especially when you’re really young, changes a lot of the plans you thought you had for your life.
On the other hand ... Kailyn, your life is far from over, sweetie. Having little kids is exhausting and time consuming for sure, but your own life didn’t end when you became a mama. Even if you don’t feel like you have the energy or wherewithal to fulfill your college dreams right now, you have more than enough time ahead of you.
It’s not healthy to throw your hopes and dreams out the window when your kids are born. When you do that, your natural inclination is to try to live vicariously through them, and that’s hardly fair. They might not want the same things out of life that you want.
Kailyn, no matter what happens your life, don’t give up on your dreams. If you want to go to college, then go to college, hun. Your life as a mom doesn’t have to mean that your life revolves around your children and nothing else. It’s not good for you, and it’s not good for them.
Go be an example to them of not letting major life curveballs like teen pregnancy knock you down. Or if you do get knocked down, show them how to get back up, dust yourself off, and give it another go. So what if your college experience isn’t the same as your childless peers? It’s your experience, and that’s what makes it great.
Do you feel like you “missed out” on anything after your kids were born?
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