Teacher Tells Mom Breastfeeding Her Son Is 'Not Appropriate'

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babyAs if busy moms needed another thing to worry about, a mother has been chastised for breastfeeding ... in front of her son's teacher. Rachel Rainbolt says she was doing what moms do -- trying to meet both her kids' needs -- when she breastfed her baby boy during a parent-teacher conference. Only the teacher and Rachel's two kids were present, so who had the hissy?

You guessed it ... the teacher.

According to Rainbolt, the educator (who is female, by the way) looked at her and said:

Do you know what a breastfeeding cover is? That's not appropriate to do here. Aren't you concerned that people will stare?

Oh come off it, lady! At least Mom bothered to show for the parent/teacher conference. How many parents don't -- and not because they don't care but because they have so much going on that they can barely find time to breathe?

Being a good mom takes a lot of work. I think everyone in this world recognizes that -- or should. I've been doing it eight years now, and I haven't figured out all the secrets. But the one thing I DO know is absolutely necessary is the ability to multi-task.

You quiz them on their spelling words while you stir a pot on the stove. You tuck the phone between your cheek and your shoulder so you can make a pediatrician appointment while you are changing a diaper. You breastfeed your baby during your older child's parent/teacher conference.

I understand that not everyone in the child-free community gets that. It's hard to put yourself in our shoes sometimes. But if you're someone who works with parents day in and day out, you should have keyed into how it works. More than that, you should be willing to help us keep all those balls in the air -- because we're not just doing it for us and for our kids; we're doing it for you too. We're showing up at parent/teacher conferences come hell or high water ... or hungry babies.

Would you breastfeed during a parent-teacher conference? Was this teacher out of line?

 

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nonmember avatar Katie

i get mad everytime i read a story like this. whats more important? a hungry child eating or you feeling comfortable? anyone who looks at a boob as a sexual object while its being used to nourish a child needs to grow up. the bitch teacher was way out of line.

lulou lulou

No, but because I like to take notes.


Anyway, this whole story sounds fishy, from the superhero last name, to the 8 year old in middle school, the "group presentation class", the baby being over 1 (I nursed for longer, but at this age just bring a snack) - and 1 year olds love tearing up classrooms, let them loose

nonmember avatar Katie

i get mad everytime i read a story like this. whats more important? a hungry child eating or you feeling comfortable? anyone who looks at a boob as a sexual object while its being used to nourish a child needs to grow up. the bitch teacher was way out of line.

Katha... Katharine205

They're both wrong.  The teacher is wrong for punishing her son for it and she was wrong for not using a little decorum.  The baby was a 1 year old, not a newborn.  She could of given him something else to eat to tide him over or at the very least used a cover, and besides,how long was she in there that it couldn't wait until she was done?  I'm all for breastfeeding but there has to be a certain amount of decency that goes with it.  No, you can't whip your boob out for all to see out in public (and especially not in a second grade classroom no matter who is and isn't in there).  I breastfed my daugher until 17 months, and when in public I did it descretely with a cover.

Ashlee Jaime

The teacher has no right. The mother can legally breastfeed there. No cover needed. My baby is 15mths and she doesnt always "just want a snack" so i breastfeed her. where ever, when ever. It is for no one but the mother and child, to decide how she feeds.

Brain... BrainyMommy

I'm a bit confused as to what the complaint was. Was the teacher bothered by the breastfeeding or was the teacher asking her to cover up? If the teacher was bothered by the breastfeeding then she's an idiot. However, if she was simply asking the mother to cover up that's acceptable given the circumstances. When you are in a private one-on-one setting in which there are no witnesses, I absolutely can not blame someone for asking a breastfeeding mother to please cover herself while breastfeeding. This serves as a wise protective move for both parties.

lulou lulou

Ashlee, when you have kids at 8 and 1, you occasionally have to consider that 8 year olds needs, like education.  Snacks come in handy, there are lots you cant do while nursing, writing (well maybe some with superhero names) , biking, baseball coacing, etc  - all things my 8 year old liked to do.

Brain... BrainyMommy

@lulou - You raise a good point about an 8 year old attending a middle school. Confusing. 

MamaT... MamaTo2b2g

What the hell is an 8 yr old doing in middle school?

Mom2J... Mom2Just1

I have nursed during a parent/teacher conference.  His teacher didn't have a problem with it.  She nursed all her chidlren and her grand children were nursed.

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