12 Mothers Share That Magical Moment They Finally Felt 'Like a Mom'

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momDo you remember the first moment you "felt" like a mom? Back when I was pregnant, I thought that giving birth would be that moment for me. It makes sense, right? When the baby comes out of you, you ARE a mom. So you must FEEL like a mom!

But I didn't. I was so caught up in watching what the nurses were doing with my daughter across the room that I didn't have that "eureka" moment. I wouldn't have it for a few hours, actually, until the first time I used the words "my daughter."

And then ... I just ... felt it, felt a sort of euphoria rise up from the tips of my toes. It was real! I was a mom!

Turns out I'm not the only one to find that the "I'm a mom" feeling comes not at the moment of birth, but at times that are completely unexpected.

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The Stir asked moms to share their magical mom moment, and their answers were at times heartwarming and at times hilarious:

1. Probably the first time my son peed on me and I didn't bother to change my shirt! Although the older I get, the more "mom" I feel lately. I even feel like the bags under my eyes signify some rite of passage.

2. There was one the night she was born when I realized the primary job in my life was going to be raising this little person, and I just knew in my bones I would do anything for her for as long as I lived.

3. When I changed a diaper and I actually loved it because it was my child and not someone else's.

4. Giving her a bath for the first time -- I felt like it was the greatest accomplishment of my life. She was so tiny and fragile and I held her very life in my hands, and if she didn't drown, I had done something right!

5. The first night in the hospital. Exhausted, overwhelmed, and overjoyed, sitting in the dark by myself, I realized that I was the one responsible for this little human being and my caring for him with everything I had was the only way he would survive this crazy thing we call life.

6. The moment that her father left me pregnant and without a dime to my name, I knew I had to hold it together and grow up real fast for her. Every decision I have made in the past year and a half has been with her in mind and not taken lightly.

7. I don't think it was honestly until after I went back to nursing school and had to learn how to juggle 100 different things ... at that point in time, I finally realized I was 100 percent responsible for their futures.

8. One night I was burping my son, he was maybe a week old, he put his little hand on mine and relaxed his head on me. It hit me that this little person was mine and he was 100 percent dependent on me. It still amazes me to this day how effortless loving him is and how just this morning at 3 a.m. he decided it was time.

9. I guess I'd have to say the first time I went out alone with my daughter.

10. I always knew I was a mom and loved being one, but when it really kicked in was when my firstborn son was 3 months old and was choking, turning blue. It really hit home. It hit me that I have to always protect love and be there ... everything.

11. The first time I can remember feeling like a mom was when I was pregnant with [my daughter], not even when she was born, but when I realized I loved her in my belly and I did not even know her.

12. While in the hospital they came in to take [my daughter] for all the tests (hearing, vision, reflexes) at about 2 a.m. They told me to rest and they'd be back shortly. About 10 minutes later I went into panic mode like "where is my baby?!?!" I hauled my sore ass outta bed and wandered the hospital halls in the hospital nightgown and those grippy socks until I found the room she was in and then didn't leave until the nurse wheeled her back with me. I wouldn't let her out of my sight after that.

What was YOUR "I'm a mom" moment?


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Sassy... SassyMom25

With my oldest daughter, it was when we went for an ultrasound and they said she had a cyst in her brain...very common but they wanted to check it out in a week to make sure it went away. Longest week ever. Then again when she was born and there was a knot in her umbilical cord. Again with my younger daughter when they said she had a bowel movement before birth and came out very blue. Also all the times my stepson asks me questions about his body that I have to pass to his dad because I don't have those body parts, lol.

nonmember avatar Perry yankuner

The "mom" moment came to me when I was walking down the hall with my newborn daughter in my arms to get her picture taken and I was so worried about dropping her that I held her against my belly gripping her because I didn't want to drop her and so I squeezed her into me thinking this little girl is more precious than my own life.

Devin Morgan

The first time I left without my son for a dinner date with my hubby and cried half the time we were gone

raram... raramommaof2

With my son it was his first bath, with my daughter it was the first time I held her skin to skin.

nonmember avatar Amber

About 8 hours after my first son was born he looked up at me and smiled. Everyone said it was just gas but in my heart I knew that he recognized my as his momma and my heart was his

linzemae linzemae

My daughter was 5weeks early. Delivered via c section. I didnt feel it in the hospital. The first time I was alone with her all day. She made this gagging noise 3 times in a row that freaked me out so bad all I did was cry all day. I couldn't stop. I just kept imagining life without her and realizing how much I love her.

Kay Wert Minardi

When I first saw the referral photo of my daughter. I had never met her and wouldn't for another two months, but I fell in love with her immediately!

Cecilia Baquirin-Torres

The first time my son woke up crying and I didn't know what was wrong (he was dry, just had milk,  was burped properly, etc.) I'm assuming now it was from a nightmare. But at that moment, the fear I felt was unlike anything I've ever felt before. I used to climb mountains and had been in pretty scary situations, but the fear I felt for my son can't even be compared to the fear I felt for my own well-being. That's when I realized, I actually loved somebody so much more than I could ever love myself. I was a mom.

Katie Isolani Thompson

For my first son I suffered with severe postpartum. It wasn't until he was about 10 months old, i had given him his bath and put him down for the night. I went to the bathroom to squeeze out all the toys, I had done this a thousand times by now, but this night it filled me with such joy and peace! I knew then my love for him was stronger than any sadness or struggle I was dealing with.

Rachael Brady

I would have to say for me it was when I brought my oldest son home. My mom drove he and I to our apartment. I remember walking in and sitting his carrier down in front of me. I looked at him and thought " OMG there are no nurses or doctors to help me now. How am I going to take care of this little guy?" That is the moment that really sticks out for me. Of course 10 1/2 months later came his brother and then a sister 18 months after that so some people ask me how I did it. At the time I didn't even think about it but now my daughter (the youngest) is 9 and I look back and can't believe that I did 3 in diapers at one time. I don't think I could have done it now.

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