Mom Kicked Out of Pool for Breastfeeding & She Deserved It

poolAnother day, another mama getting scolded for nursing in public. A new mom was at a swim club recently when her baby realized he was hungry. Doing what any breastfeeding mother would do, Stephanie Wilby whipped out her breasts and started feeding little Leo, her 4-month-old son. But when a club employee got wind of what was going on, Stephanie was asked to stop on the claim that it was "indecent."

But wait. Before you go lighting stakes on fire and gear up to charge, this story has a twist: Stephanie was breastfeeding her son while waist-deep in a pool.

'Lil different.

Now, I'm pro-breastfeeding. I say if you can nurse your kid until he can get up and make himself a sandwich, great. And if you want to nurse in public, do it. I never breastfed without a Hooter Hider, but I used to live in Brooklyn. You literally can't get a cup of coffee there without walking directly into a woman's bare breasts. But something about doing it in a public pool -- waist-deep to be exact -- seems unnecessary. If it's your pool, or a friend's, go for it. And I by no means think anything about breastfeeding is "indecent", but is it so much to ask to plop down on a lounge chair and nurse out of the pool? And wouldn't it be safer? No need to worry about being splashed by kids; your baby, god forbid, slipping out of your arms; or wading in a cesspool of children's urine and chlorine. Seems like an all-around more pleasant experience for both mom and baby.

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At the end of the day, some women are more open than others. And while I don't by any means consider myself prudish, I don't know, breastfeeding in the middle of a public pool isn't something I would ever do. That said, if I saw Stephanie nursing her kid in the pool, I wouldn't give her a dirty look. But I might be slightly irritated if I had to keep preventing my kid from playing near Stephanie, as not to splash her and the baby.

What do you think about where Stephanie chose to nurse?


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katyq katyq

What does her being waist deep in a pool have to do anything? Babies need to eat when they are hungry. Women should be welcome to bf anywhere they need to. This is so out of hand.

wamom223 wamom223

It is not safe and most likely the pool had posted  no food or drink in the water.  If she wanted to breastfeed she should have gotten out of the pool.  What I find amazing about these breastfeeding woman is they are shocked when someone is upset that they are feeding their child in a totally inappropriate place.  It would NOT be okay for someone to bottle feed their child in the pool either.  Its like the woman that plopped down in the middle of the aisle at Target and was shocked people didn't like it.  I've never heard of a woman plopping down in every one's way in an aisle to bottle feed their baby so I don't get why these woman just don't get it.  Breast feed your children but stop doing it in inappropriate places. 


Self indulgent to say nothing about all the afore mentioned things that are not good for a baby in a public pool. Maybe she was trying to make a statement about public breast feeding idk ,but that was not the way to go about it.

nonmember avatar Ashley

wamom223-I agree 100%! I was only able to breastfeed for a month, but always used a cover in public. Now I give my son expressed milk, and I was going to say that if you wouldn't give your child a bottle there, then you shouldn't be breastfeeding there. Breastfeeding IN a public pool is different than feeding AT a public pool.

lulou lulou

I dont care at all about indecent or not, but frankly find it kind of yucky.  Particularily from the baby standpoint - other kids pee, poop, what not in that pool, the whole brain amoeba, and even the chlorine itself.  If the moms top had gotten wet first.  Id never want to feed my baby before a shower (hopefully that water is cleaner) or those wipes you got (but probably never used).

fleur... fleurdelys3110

I'm glad she got kicked out. If she was sitting on a lounge chair or something feeding her baby that would've been fine. But IN THE POOL?? That is disgusting and unsanitary. This idiot got what she deserved. Also I agree with everything wamom said.

Brain... BrainyMommy

Totally unsanitary. Like it or not, breastmilk is a bodily fluid. People shouldn't have to swim in your breastmilk. Get out of the pool to breastfeed. And, if you don't think breastmilk is a bodily fluid that could possibly be contaminated then I challenge you to allow a total stranger to breastfeed your baby. You wouldn't and you know it which is why wet nurses aren't a common thing in this country. 

keelh... keelhaulrose

No one wants to swim in any spit up that might happen, any more than they want to swim in pee. Bodily fluids have no place in pools. And the probability of baby swallowing chemicals? Shudder.

I'm all for breastfeeding when baby needs it, but I'm also for showing common courtesy. Get out of the pool to feed.

Caera Caera

Woman is an idiot. She should've gotten out of the pool, wiped herself down (pool water and God knows what else on her skin) and sat down to bf her baby, with a cover. I hate breastfeeding exhibitionists, and I hate them even more when they have absolutely no regard for anyone else.

nonmember avatar erin

W have all gone a little crazy with this breast feedimg crap.....I dont get how a decent person is able to whip their boobs out in front of everyone aand go at it. What happened to manners? Just because you can, doesnt mean you should. WThese offended moms need to find something better to do.

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