10 Things Never to Say to a Co-Sleeping Parent

co-sleepingI wasn't going to co-sleep with my baby. I thought it was weird and barbaric. But then my anthropologist friends talked me into it. (Yes, of course, it's always the anthropologists.) They went over all the reasons why it makes perfect sense, from the security it gives your infant to the way it bonds the whole family together. And then, when my son was born, I couldn't stand to be parted from him anyway. Co-sleeping just made sense to me.

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I get that it's not for everyone. But man, people who don't get it really don't get it. Can you please spare us your judgment? Here are 10 annoying things you should never say to a co-sleeping parent.

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Movie... Moviebuff

If you don't want people to say anything about your co-sleeping habits then don't tell people you co-sleep.

Movie... Moviebuff

If you don't want people to say anything about your co-sleeping habit, then don't tell people you co-sleep.

JS0512 JS0512

And now letting your baby sleep in their own room isn't humane? If you don't want someone to judge you for co-sleeping, then don't judge parents who have separate rooms for their babies.

Todd Vrancic

I could point out that the question to which this reply was made was judgmental, but two wrongs don't make a right (three will get you back on the freeway).  And the last response is right, more people end up accidentally co-sleeping than you think.  What's right for you isn't necessarily right for me and what's right for me won't necessarily be right for the people down the street.

nonmember avatar Lindsay

I am an er nurse. I have seen two babies die of SIDS while co-sleeping. I'm sure most of the time it's fine and I don't have a problem for older kids but I am personally traumatized by it.

nonmember avatar lisakphillips

"Where's the baby going to sleep?"
"In the house."
conversation over.

Caera Caera

All valid statements/questions. Especially 2, 7, 9, and 10. Again, if you can't answer or don't want to think about it, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

Cmgmq... Cmgmqmmom

@Lindsay ~ that's not SIDS, that's smothering. Big difference.

nonmember avatar momo

both my boys slept with us from ages 1 till 2 and then got twin size beds next to ours from 2 till 3. after that they were moved to their own room. they enjoy sharing a room

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