2 Ways Moms Can Make Returning to Work After Baby Less Scary

mom babyIn a recent interview, Homeland star Claire Danes said she was nervous about going back to work after giving birth to her baby boy, Cyrus. "I was anxious about returning. I was so in my cozy mommy bubble and I had all sorts of exaggerated fears," Danes said, and wow, if there's something I know all too well, it's this very topic.

Knowing I had a set amount of time to "figure things out" before it was back to the office was single-handedly the scariest thing to me about having a baby. Truly. And if and when I have another child, I now know I have to do two things differently.

One, I'll have childcare lined up. Technically, last go 'round, I did have childcare lined up, but in a weird twist of fate, my family decided to move during my maternity leave, and the old childcare situation definitely wouldn't have worked in our new locale. I wound up having two weeks to figure things out, and it was pretty terrible. Instead of soaking up every minute with my newborn daughter and trying to relax as my leave came to an end, I wound up having to research and interview people. Beyond stressful. If and when I have another kid, I want to make sure every aspect of my childcare is covered before I give birth, so during the time I have off, I don't have to even think about it.

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Two, I won't become obsessed with pumping. A few weeks after I had my daughter, I decided to start pumping, against the advice of a few people. I wanted to get used to it, and I wanted to start stockpiling breast milk for when I went back to work. Bad idea. I got so wrapped up in worrying about how and when I'd pump, and whether or not I'd have enough milk ready for my baby, that it made my overall nursing experience pretty unpleasant. Next go 'round, I'll worry about it a week or so beforehand, not two weeks in.

If I have another child, I know these two things won't take all the pressure off having the constant low-grade buzz in the back of my head that tells my time's a tickin'. But I think (read: hope) it'll make things easier. And when you're a mom, easy is good.

Were you nervous about going back to work after giving birth?

 

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mande... manderspanders

My first day back at work will be next Friday... I work from home most days, so I will keep my baby with me to continue breastfeeding and save on child care costs... but the days that I travel, they are long days. He's 4 weeks old and breastfeeds between 10-13 times per day - I'm totally worried about pumping enough for the days that I'm away.  When I have a 10, 12, 14 hr day on the road, sure I can pump when I'm away, but I can't take it to him... so what if I don't have ENOUGH to send with him when I do go?


I don't want to supplement with formula, but I don't know if it will be an option - at least at first.

Stevey Solis

I worked straight through my second pregnancy, and was back at work a month later.  I have a really good support system but I still missed my kids and that was the part that really got me.  I felt like some horrible calamity was going to befall them because I wasn't right there with them the whole time.  With my first daughter I was unemployed through the pregnancy and until my daughter was three months old.

mompam mompam

With my first I burst into tears whenever I thought about going back. I couldn't even drop him at daycare the first 2 weeks. It was awful. But I got used to it. It was easier with my second and third was a breeze. Now I'm selling my first at college next week. I burst into tears at the thought. It never ends.

mompam mompam

I'm dropping him at college. Not selling. Ha ha

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