Prince William's Official Royal Baby Statement Is Bittersweet Without Diana Here

prince williamShortly after Kate Middleton gave birth to a baby boy, Prince William released a statement. "We could not be happier," the Duke of Cambridge said. It was short. It was sweet. It may have been the defacto statement everybody goes to, but it's the god's honest truth. Those moments after you have a child, it really is impossible to be any happier. There's not a doubt in my mind that, right now, both Will and Kate are more elated than they've ever been (yes, more elated than at their wedding). But for Will, there also is a small part of this joyous time that's that tinged with sadness, because his mother, Princess Diana, isn't here to experience the biggest moment of his life with him.

Having a baby after you've lost a parent is a funny thing. In some respects, I actually think it makes you a better mother or father, because you know first hand how fleeting life is. You don't need everyone telling you: "Enjoy it. It'll be over in the blink of an eye." You know it. Because it seems like just yesterday that you were playing with your mother or father in the backyard, or having lunch with them, or casually chatting about how you were thinking of cutting your hair. Then poof. They were gone.

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But in other respects, it sucks. Hard. You finally get it. You understand what being a parent is all about. The things your parents did and said to you make complete sense now, and you understand just how much you were loved -- and you almost can't believe it, because I mean, you knew your parents loved you, but that much? Really? How flattering.

You want to turn to your parents after you have a kid of your own and thank them. Or if that's not your style, at least exchange a knowing glance. Welcome to the club. After you came into the picture, they rearranged their entire lives around you, and that was awfully nice of them. You didn't realize all the things they had swirling around in their head over the years -- the fears, the anxieties, the joy, the love -- because they were so damn good at just being your mom or dad. You now know that it was part of their job to keep these things from you, but wow. It's impressive. They were awfully good actors.

I get what Will is going through right now, really I do. It's a whirlwind of emotions, and for anybody out there going through the same thing, take solace in the fact that, yes, there is much more joy than sorrow when you have a baby without a parent. But every once in a while, when you're holding your sleeping baby in your arms, you'll think of your mom or dad, and you'll quietly cry.

Did you lose a parent?

 

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TheTr... TheTruthTeller

You sure managed to glean a lot out of a single sentence.

nonmember avatar kaerae

Was this about Will or Nicole?

NicoleFW NicoleFW

It was about people who lost their parents.

issac... issacsmom2

my mom, last year when my youngest son was 3 months old

Marcela Blunck Bowidowicz

Why is Diana involved in all of this? Shouldn't the focus just be on how happy they are for having a baby?

onefo... onefootcutiepie

Yes I did lose a parent before having kids. It does suck. But it does inspire you to enjoy the moments.

Cheryl LadyofSteel Miller

yes I know exactly what is is like the have a child after losing a parent. Had my first child, a son, 2 years after my mom passed away and my second child, a daughter, 6 years after my mom passed. even as big as they have grown already, i still wish my mom was here to experience them with me. i see alot of her in both my kids, which is great!

nonmember avatar jenni

I know whats its like to lose a parent. So i can feel for William not being able to have Diana there to see his newborn son. My dad died when I was 25 .

Eva M Conklin

Boy did you nail it ! I have lost both my parents,and yes it sucks! Two of my children got to know my father a little,but unfortunately they never met my mother. They know only of her from stories and pictures. Not a day goes by,that I want to ask her advice or tell her something the kids did,and I do but only up to the skies for I know she is watching and listening <3

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