Mom Bans People From Taking Photos of Her Baby -- Good Luck With That!

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digital cameraTough question, Mom. If someone took a photo of your baby and put it on Facebook, what would you do? Immediately give it a "like" and tag yourself? Ask the photographer to take it down and gently chide them on asking permission first? Or would you ban anyone and everyone from taking photos of your child?

That's what a mom on Reddit is considering -- a ban on anyone, even family and friends, taking photos of her baby. The way she tells it, she wants to wait until her child is old enough to give permission before she creates an online presence for her, especially because her kiddo has a very unique name.

Noble as the goal may be, she's animal crackers if she thinks a ban on baby photos is going to fix anything.

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It's 2013! Cameras are everywhere! Your kid might end up on Facebook because she was on the swing beside someone else's kid at the park. Your kid might end up on a blog post because she was one car over on the rollercoaster from someone else's family.

Oh, and that name? It's going to get out there too. It's not a state secret. The preschool will post an honor roll on its website, and bingo! There it is! The dance center will post photos -- with captions -- of the itty bitty ballerinas on its Facebook page.

The question isn't whether you can (or should) control your child's name and photo getting out there. You can't. Sorry, but you just can't.

The question is what you're so afraid of. Yes, the world wide web is a big place, and we need to be security conscious. Sure, we need to be careful with how much information about our kids we share, lest someone out there be a little TOO interested (if you know what I mean). We should also teach our kids -- once they're old enough to actually get online -- that people may judge them by what they sign their name to.

But let's be realistic about postings about babies online.

In the long run, they're largely meaningless.

Your baby also won't have her life ruined because a boss comes across a photo of her in a ruffled onesie sucking on a pacifier 30 years down the line. And if your grownup child is a little peeved because she found a photo of herself wearing a Cabbage Patch wig, that's on you for buying into a ridiculous trend ... it has nothing to do with the photographer.

So go ahead, ban your family and friends from taking photos of your baby all you want. It's not going to do much for your baby, but it will drive the people close to you absolutely insane.

Do you think you should have the right to say "no pictures" of your baby? Or is this over the top?


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femal... femaleMIKE

Some people need to get over themselves.

LadyM... LadyMinni

At first I thought this article was about me! No, people are not allowed to take photos of my kids. Sorry, no, too dangerous. Want to know what I'm so afraid of? The adoption isn't free and clear. As far as I can tell, there are no photos of me or my kids anywhere on the internet. I'd like to keep it that way. There is quite a difference in a blurry picture on a swing and a front-forward, fully tagged photo on facebook.

nonmember avatar gina

You're insane if you think i DON'T have the right to not allow pictures of my kid to be posted on the internet. My family is allowed to.take photos of my child but i have told them that we don't allow photos of him on the internet for his safety. They allcompletely understand and respect my wishes. Too many creeps in the world.

nonmember avatar aimee

i dont mind people taking photos of my child on fb as long as they ask me first and iI cgive them the same curtesy. also when iy comes to the photos on the ballet example they would legally have to adk permission from each and every family and if one says no they lagally cant post it

Erin Higgins

I agree with femaleMIKE, you ppl seriously need to get over yourselves....

Shelly Revord

I don't allow pictures of my youngest two on the internet either.  It makes me feel like I am exploiting them even though I am not.  Plus their sperm donor's wife is a piece of work and there is no telling what she would do or say so, as much as I want to sometimes, I just do not have pictures of them online.

Ashley Watson

First, the woman did not just ban photos from the internet. She banned the childs grandparents and other family from even taking photos. I think this is wrong. First you are hurting the family and when the child gets older and wishes to see photos of themself as a child what would you tell them? Sorry darling, even though your child hood was important to me I did not allow any photos of your big moments. you have no baby photos to look at or show your own children when you get older. Screw you little jenny, deal with it. My children are 10 and 8 and beg to see photos of themselves. If I did not have photos to show them I would feel like crap as a parent. I might can understand no photos on the net, but no photos at all ever is pushing it.


savvy... savvycentral

I don't allow family to post photographs of my children online.  When I do, they are behind privacy settings and only visible to a select few.

Schools have to have a waiver signed to post your child's pictures, or at least they used to. 

nonmember avatar Kerri

As the mom it's her choice. Her child, her rules, it's as simple as that. It's not anyone else's place to judge the parental decisions she makes, nor is it her place to judge any parental decisions you make.

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