Your Baby Doesn't Need Her Own Bedroom

baby nurseryWhen I was pregnant, my to-do list was long. At the top: get the baby's room ready. Because every baby must have a nursery, right?

Weeeeeeeell, actually, there's pretty much nothing to prove that babies need their own room. In fact, I'm going to go out on a limb and say the thing that will make the manufacturers of all that baby STUFF cringe in fear.

A baby does not need his (or her!) own room.

You can park your kid's crib in a closet (a well-ventilated closet of course!), and no one will be the worse for wear. Or, heck, you could even room in with your baby until they're no longer technically a baby. Thousands of parents do it every year, and it works out just fine for them.

I realize that this sounds a wee bit hypocritical considering I just admitted that the baby nursery was my biggest "to-do" when I was pregnant. But this is the benefit of hind-sight: you are embarrassed by what an idiot you once were!

My daughter is now 8, and I realize that she didn't spend a whole heckuva lot of time in her room when she was a baby. She slept in the same room as my husband and I for quite some time, and then later used "her" room solely for naps and bedtime.

She was too little to sit on the floor and play with toys alone; she did all of that in the living room. We probably used the changing table in there all of a handful of times (because the floor, the couch, my bed, etc. were all so much more convenient). And considering the sheer amount of laundry I did at that point in her life, most of her clothes spent most of their time in a basket rather than her dresser.

Oh, and all that cutesy nursery decor? It's already gone because while it was adorable, it was really my taste, not hers. By the time she was old enough to care about decor, she wanted things her way!

I hate to admit this, but looking back on the nursery we created, I feel like a rube. We wasted so much time! Not to mention money!

And for what? So we could say we had a baby nursery?

It's a great bedroom for her now that she's a little girl, but looking back, I realize I could have saved myself plenty of time, money, and worrying about getting the baby's room done if I'd just faced the truth: babies don't need their own rooms.

Do you agree? Do you think a baby needs his or her own room?

 

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nonmember avatar violinp

My twin sister and I spent nearly every night in our room from the day we came home from the hospital. Then again, we also slept through the night at 6 weeks, and there was no way in hell both cribs would have fit in our parents' tiny bedroom.

insei... inseineangel

@belong2Jesus: Forgive my ignorance. What is DFS?

nonmember avatar Shannon

My twins are 2 and they still only sleep in their room. I did buy a changing table/dresser and 2 cribs. Just about everything else we used to decorate their room was something we already had and re-purposed. We painted their nursery a neutral color so we could easily change the decor. Spending a lot of money to outfit a nursery (and trust me, we had the money to do it) is just a waste. I'd rather put it in their college fund.

Kathleen Vazquez

department of family services, department of human resources, whatever your state has.

belon... belongs2Jesus

department of family services. My son was born with a congenital heart defect we kept his crib in our room as he had a tendency to have "a blue spell" which means he would go without oxygen. Someone called DFS on us the social worker came in and made us put him in the other bedroom or they was gonna take him.

MammaSam MammaSam

That's just silliness! What about co sleeping? Dcfs can take away your kid for co sleeping? What in the hell has this world come to? If someone had the balls to turn me in for co sleeping, and they threatened to take my kid away over it. I would be going postal. I am and always have been a great mother, and my daughter and I not only shared a room, but a bed for 2 1/2 yrs. Is she dead? Abused? Neglected? Fuck no. Dcfs has no right to step in unless there is a REAL problem. Let them try that shit with me.

nonmember avatar Ali

Nobody pays my bills except my husband, I carried my son all of the 9 months and gave birth to him! I have changed every diaper and fed and bathed my son his whole life! My son will not be sleeping anywhere

nonmember avatar Ali

Nobody pays my bills except my husband, I carried my son all of the 9 months and gave birth to him! I have changed every diaper and fed and bathed my son his whole life! My son will not be sleeping anywhere except in mine and my husbands bedroom until I decide to move him to another room! Children Services is a joke and if they want to pay my bills and support my child 100% then maybe I would think about moving him, but I doubt that will ever happen, so until then I will do what I want! Nursery's are a waste of money you will want your child as close as possible until you feel comfortable in moving them!!!

Jen Roberts

This is why I didn't buy cute character anything until I knew what my kids liked. The crib set was hand me down from family. Heck my kids didn't get into the crib until they slept through the night at 4-6 months cause waking and walking ALL the way to the bedroom was annoying. Finally at around 1-2 years old when they show likes and dislikes I got their bed sets along with the toddler beds. 
I feel bad for a friend of mine who spent a good $500 on a nursery theme that her daughter now hates.  

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