6 Things I Judge Other Parents For

babyThis may come as a shock to you, but parents actually judge. I know, it's terrible. If you've ever set foot into the wild world of parenting blogs, or, um, been around a person with children, you know this is true. Is it right? Of course not! But it's just the way it is.

I try not be a judgy mom, really I do. But sometimes, things just happen. I'm not proud of it. But I am going to own it. Here are 6 things I judge other parents for.

1. You hit your kids. I know there are some people out there who still believe in spanking, but to me, it just seems wrong. Especially if the kid is little. That doesn't seem like a very fair match, or a great way to teach right from wrong.

2. You're extreeeeeme anything, and you try to instill your views on me. If breastfeeding your baby until he's 10 works for you, great. If crying it out is how you chose to get your kid to sleep through the night, awesome. But what works for you doesn't necessarily work for me. One thing I don't do is tell other parents what techniques they should use on their children. I expect the same respect from others.

3. You leave a restaurant an absolute mess. Look. Most of us have worked in restaurants before. It sucks to have to clean up after kids. Do the staff a solid and pick up napkins and grab the food that's all over the floor and on the seats. (Or at least leave an awesome tip!)

4. You smoke in your baby's face. I've never been a smoker, so I don't know what it's like to be addicted. From what I hear, it's pretty hard to quit. But if you absolutely can't quit smoking before becoming a parent, at the very least, don't do it around your child. It's truly not fair to them.

5. You turn parenting into a competition. If I tell you my kid just crawled, no need to jump down my throat and quip: "My kid walked earlier!" As parents, we all think our kids are the greatest and cutest, etc. Just as I'm happy for others when they tell me about their kid's milestones, at least give me a nanosecond to brag!

6. You don't tell me your kid is sick, and you let our kids play! I think most parents know this one isn't cool. I mean, come on, people. A sick baby is no fun for anyone. Common courtesy.

Do you ever judge? Okay, now go on, judge me!


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Serab... Serabelle

The smoking thing really gets me. It's one thing to kill yourself, it's another to kill your kids, or others for that matter. I'm glad I live in California where smoking in bars/ restaurants is illegal, and most people don't know this, but smoking in a car that a child is in is also illegal!!! Have to say I love that :). Nothing is sadder than seeing a car drive by with little ones inside, mom smoking away and she doesn't even have the decency to roll down the windows!

nonmember avatar MammaMel

AMEN to all of these! I am a smoker and my kid doesn't even know it (I don't think)...

nonmember avatar Carrie

I agree with all of these especially the smoking one. My sister in law smoked all through her second pregnancy (but quit for the first one??? So weird) and now she smokes and breast feeds. I chose to formula feed my twin boys just because I didn't want to breast feed to be honest. My sister in law says smoking and breast feeding is WAY between for a baby than formula and claims her doctor told her this and that MY choice is selfish..... Sure.

nonmember avatar Carrie

I agree with all of these especially the smoking one. My sister in law smoked all through her second pregnancy (but quit for the first one??? So weird) and now she smokes and breast feeds. I chose to formula feed my twin boys just because I didn't want to breast feed to be honest. My sister in law says smoking and breast feeding is WAY better for a baby than formula and claims her doctor told her this and that MY choice is selfish..... Sure.

MamaT... MamaTo2b2g

Ok wait a minute. You start by saying how spanking is awful, then in the next breath you say you hate when people push their beliefs on you. Makes total sense. Yep. Pot, meet kettle.

Brain... BrainyMommy

#1 & #2 are inconsistent. 

Nat Lickfield Moffitt

I agree with them all. Smoking is huge!! I also don't agree with having kids to give to a 'nanny' to raise - especially if you're working to keep all the luxuries. Sacrifice it's a small price to spend quality time with your child and it teaches the kids the intimacy of family and love - It's a wonder why so many families are 'detached'....

Nat Lickfield Moffitt

Sometimes a little spanking is necessary - not beating their ass til it's red and sore - a couple little pats with a 'aht aht' - :)

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

There's a world of difference between judging people because they make different decisions regarding feeding kids or getting them to sleep and judging people for hitting their children. Anyone of average intelligence or above knows that hitting a child is wrong. They also know that smoking around children is wrong but I don't see anyone trying to defend that idiocy. 

nonmember avatar leigha

i agree with all of themn except for the spanking one. when i was younger my little brother never was spanked and my older brother was never spanked because they would get to call their daddies if they did get one and a fight would ensue between their dads and our mom. my father was never in the picture so guess who was spanked. this girl. both my brothers has been in and out of jail neither has graduated hs and they cant keep a job. i on the other hand have a great job went to and finshed all my schooling and have my life together. it might be case by case but my child will grow up knowing there are sterner consequences than a time out when he misbehaves repeatedly.

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