Hiring a Wet Nurse to Breastfeed Baby Is Too Bizarre for Me

nursingSo, apparently wet nurses are on the rise. For those of you unaware of what a wet nurse does, here's a quick job description: They're a person who breastfeeds your baby. Obviously, wet nurses, like anything related to breastfeeding and parenting, are controversial. And every person, depending on their experiences, varies on how they feel about them. But as for me? I could never do it.

Some women, sadly, have trouble nursing. I know this. And these moms want to give their sweet babes the absolute best nutrition. They don't want to resort to the "dreaded" formula. But, I don't know, I would just find it strange and uncomfortable, seeing my own child suckling at another woman's breast. Pumped breast milk is one thing, I suppose. But full-on nursing? That's just too weird for me.

I certainly don't think that moms who breastfeed have any stronger of a bond over moms who don't -- all mothers have strong bonds with their children. I feel just as strong a bond with my daughter giving her a bottle now as I did when I was nursing. But when you're nursing -- and nursing only -- you're both a source of food and comfort to the child. There would likely be many times in which your child would prefer to another person to you. It would feel a bit odd to witness something like that after being pregnant for nine months and giving birth.

Every parent wants what's best for the child. Of course. And some moms simply cannot bear to not give their child breast milk -- I totally respect that. But wouldn't it make a little more sense to simply have pumped breast milk out of a bottle for the baby instead of hiring someone to do the actual nursing for you? If we've heard it once, we've heard it a thousand times: Babies don't care where they get their food from. They just want to eat.

Would you ever hire a wet nurse?

 

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kelly... kelly24019

"Dreaded" formula? Give me a break...

Laura Palmer

I am with you on that, it's kind of creepy to me, but I also think feeding your baby someone else's breastmilk other than your own is as well. I FF my LO and he is just fine and we have just as strong of a bond as others do.

Serab... Serabelle

I don't think I could handle giving my kid donor milk let along letting it nurse off someone else. If it's not you, then you have no idea what they are eating, if they have some blood born disease, ect. Or what of your baby has a food allergy. When it's you you just don't eat that food, problem solved! But a stranger? Can you trust that they didn't have sea food/ dairy/ gluten or whatever else? Personally couldn't do it.

LandD... LandDCait

The hierarchy of infant feeding according to WHO and the AAP is breastfeeding by the mother, then the mother's own pumped milk, followed by donor milk, and lastly formula.  I would rather my baby have milk from another woman than formula.  Can you trust the formula company?  We already know that babies who have formula have lower IQ's, higher risk for cancer, increased allergies, increased risk for SIDs.  The risk of transmission of a pathogen is extremely low, even for unpasturized donor milk!  I'm and L&D nurse and we even recommend (as also recommended by the AAP)for mom's with Hepatitis to breastfeed (the chance of transmission is basicaqlly zero).

nonmember avatar kayla

centuries ago, the wealthy entrusted their children to wet nurses. however, back then if there were issues with a child breastfeeding, there was great cause for worry. now we many options. in the past it was life or death that they received breast milk, today we don't necessarily need it as direly. i guess its up to the families, though i wouldn't do it today.

nonmember avatar Hannah

Anything breast milk is better than formula. Garbage in a sealed can.

Brain... BrainyMommy


"But wouldn't it make a little more sense to simply have pumped breast milk out of a bottle for the baby instead of" nursing in public?


 


"Pumped breast milk is one thing, I suppose. But full-on nursing? That's just too weird for me."


"But, I don't know, I would just find it strange and uncomfortable, seeing (a) child suckling at (a) woman's breast."


Really. Change the sentences just slightly and you sound as foolish as the people who oppose breastfeeding in public. Breastfeeding is not a sexual thing. Or a maternal thing. It's about providing quality food to an infant. 


Prima donnas & their first world hangups. 


nonmember avatar Vanessa

I would want the best food for my baby and I would use whatever means necessary. Giving formulae in a bottle is not exactly the best loving motherly thing to do. Is that the best you can do?!

MamaT... MamaTo2b2g

No way, no no no. Not even donor milk. A woman's milk is for her baby only. People are so insane these days. Is nothing sacred anymore?

youth... youthfulsoul

Didn't Selma Hayek do this in Africa or somewhere?

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