9 Changes the World Should Make So Moms' Lives Are Easier

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babyPet peeve time! Ever notice that when moms ask for so-called "special treatment" for us and our kids, we get accused of being self-centered? The really cranky folks in the childfree community (not every childfree person, just the ones who refer to our kids as crotch fruit) are all over us like white on rice.

Sometimes they're absolutely right.

But right now there's a mom petitioning Delta airlines to add changing tables so moms can deal with a diaper blow-out in private, rather than out in the aisles where every Tom, Dick, and childfree Harry can smell it. She's gotten some kick back, and all I want to do is stand up and scream from the rooftops, "She's doing this for you too, you idiots!"

The truth is, most of us moms don't want to piss off our childfree friends. We remember what it was like to be the woman without kids wondering why that jerk at the next table in the restaurant was letting her kids turn the place into a pigsty. We don't WANT to be her!

But now that we're parents, we see how some of it happens, and we also see ways to fix it ... for all of us. In fact, I'd wager making things easier for moms and their kids is actually the best way to bridge the gap between us breeders and the rabidly anti-kid.

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Just imagine if we had the following:

1. Changing tables on airplanes. This is what mom Rachel Simmons is asking for, and it would help mitigate the stench for all the other travelers, not to mention a diaper change usually quiets a baby down ... reducing yet another annoyance on airplanes.

2. Special spots for strollers on buses. If I've heard it once, I've heard it a million times: Folks are sick of the strollers always being in their G.D. way. So how 'bout we all get on board with creating places to stow them?

3. Kid sections at restaurants. They used to have smoking and non, so why not dining with kids and dining without sections? As a mom on date night away from my kid, I wouldn't mind the "dining without" section myself. I leave her with a sitter for a reason.

4. Breast milk pumping stations at work. Oh right, legally we're supposed to have these, but every other day, it seems we have a news story about a woman whose co-workers are just so mad that she gets a space all to herself. Those people might want to meet up with the folks who hate seeing a woman breastfeed in public and have a chit chat ...

5. Changing tables in restaurant bathrooms. We've all seen the (absolutely disgusting) photos of moms changing kids on restaurant tables. I'm not down with that, but I do remember what it was like sitting on a toilet and trying to juggle a flailing baby, a clean diaper, and a dirty one, plus wipes because there was NO PLACE provided to change the kid.

6. Bigger public bathrooms. I know, again with the bathroom thing. But it's not just diaper changes. It's having to share that space with a stroller. It's trying to find a private spot to breastfeed without stealing the sole handicapped stall. It's really all about getting out of people's way, y'all. But when there's barely any room for the toilet in that thing, it's not easy to hide mom and kid in there too.

7. Parent hours at the grocery store. They already provide special times for seniors and specific hours for business people. So why not for parents and kids? It doesn't mean other folks can't run in there, but they'll at least be warned in advance that we've got our screaming brats in tow (and maybe they'll think twice before doing 55 in the parking lot if they KNOW a woman will be carrying a baby and holding hands with a toddler around that time?).

8. Drive throughs. Drive throughs EVERYWHERE. I have kind of had it up to here with the drive through hate lately. It's not just lazy fat people who use drive throughs, y'all. It's parents who don't want to wake their sleeping baby and drag her inside where she'll annoy you by screaming her bloody head off.

9. Mom movie matinees. A friend actually shared that this is happening at a theater in her neck of the woods. To try to up their matinee attendance, they're making them Mommy and Me events, where the lights are turned up a bit so Moms can see, and crying babies aren't frowned on. The movies have higher ratings than something they'd go see with the older kids, but it's an opportunity for moms to actually get out and see a current movie once in awhile ... without disturbing other moviegoers.

What would you add to this list?


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Rhond... RhondaVeggie

I've never been on a plane without a changing table. We've had mom movies for years, they were well established back when I used to take my second grader. It's been years since I've been in a bus without stroller accommodation, either for folded strollers or space to park them.

nonmember avatar Melanie

Guess what? By your description, grocery stores are already having parent hours. 24/7. If you were suggesting having a specific time that the mommies can come (and only that time), that's misguided. After all, mommies can't possibly be expected to even think of keeping a schedule!

The reason they have businesspeople hours is so that people who are ducking into Sam's for office supplies or items to support their small business can make their purchase (and leave) without being impeded by a mommy with six screaming kids trying to buy a 200 pack of Dino Nuggets. Although I've never encountered it, I would assume senior hours are so that stores can assist their customers who need it more effectively without the aforementioned mommy with screaming kids getting in the way. You do not require special assistance. Parents are a nuisance, not a group that needs to be coddled.

You made the choice to be a parent. Expecting preferential treatment is arrogant and misguided. If that treatment is offered (the mommy matinees are brilliant), take advantage and wield your purchasing power- it's the most efficient way to effect change. Just don't go grumbling about how the world should cater to you and your spawn.

MaoChow MaoChow

Maybe adding cry rooms to theaters again? Italy has a few. It's been more than a year since I last saw a movie in a theater. 

Navaj... Navajo_Mom

crotch fruit? hahahaha, never heard that but its hilarious.

kelly... kelly24019

Melanie, you do realize you were a "spawn once"? The rude tone to your response was uncalled for. I agree with you for the most part and I am a mom but you need to learn not to be an asshole about it and people might take you seriously.

CLM3345 CLM3345

 Where else do you want a drive thru? Food, banks, liquor stores, pharamcies and starbucks has them. Honestly, where else do you want them put? Parent hours at grocery stores are between 9-5 when most people are at work. Go then. I can see having a changing table in every bathroom and even a theater room reserved for families. I think it would be quite impossible to have a separate kids room at restaurants. The noise would still travel, especially if there were 30 kids in there. Can you imagine what is was like to be a parent before drive thru? So much of this makes people seem so entitled.

nonmember avatar Jenn

Just have to comment to Melanie that your post is quite ridiculous. Parents are a nuisance? You must be childless to be so callus. Remember you have parents and this shit isn't easy in a world where they'd like to forget we exist.

nonmember avatar dur

The world SHOULD cater to parents. After all, we are creating the next generation. We are keeping the world going. Lucky someone spawned you. You're welcome, Melanie.

Kynda... Kyndall30

Melanie, you definitely get the Gold Star A**hole award today. You sound like a real pleasure, I bet you aren't invited to many events, are you?

nonmember avatar sunny

How about a changing table in the MEN's restroom too!!! Too many times my husband will leave to change our son's diaper just to bring him back stinky as ever telling me sorry, you're gonnna have to do it, no place to do it in the men's!!! Not everyplace has a family restroom! Also, how about a closer parking for mommies, not just expecting mommies!! I know this is horrible (please don't judge), but I will SOMETIMES use my dad's handicap placard, anyone with kids knows its hard to grocery shop with kids, but to carry the bags, the kids, the purse/diaper bag, dig for the keys, hold hands, sometimes it's raining, and my 2 year old refuses to sit in the shopping cart...ect is really hard! And again, I will only use it once in a while...

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