Baby #2 Never Has It as Good as Baby #1

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bugaboo strollerA new survey conducted the U.K. shows that moms spend less on second babies, not that any of us should be all that surprised. To narrow in on things a bit, the survey found that one fifth of moms reported spending about £200 (about $300) less on baby number two than they did on their first child.

And I'm sure you can appreciate why babies who aren't the first in their families wind up with secondhand stuff.

I mean, it seems pretty stupid to shell out a ton of cash on brand new items when you already have plenty of clothes and baby gear that can be reused when another little one comes along. And yes, that's one of the reasons why moms who were surveyed report spending less dough.

In addition, moms who have already had a baby are "more realistic" about what a second child does and does not need -- which also leads to them going the less expensive route.

And I get it. I really do. Especially if baby number one and baby number two are relatively close in age.

But as the mom of a 7-year-old, if I ever were to have another child -- I think I'd feel guilty giving him or her the shaft and not spending quite as much as I did on my son.

Yes, I realize that sounds pretty materialistic and slightly crazy. Let me explain.

First of all, any of the baby gear I have left is a bit outdated, so for safety reasons, I'd feel much more comfortable splurging on new car seats, strollers, and the like -- simply because I'd want my second to have the new and improved stuff on the market.

Also, for some reason, I think I'd feel like I was treating my second baby unfairly if I didn't feel the need to purchase him or her the same things my son had -- as nuts as that may sound. It would make me feel like I was playing favorites or something. Of course, the baby stuff that's out there now is much more expensive than it was seven years ago, so maybe if another baby really did enter the picture, I'd have a change of heart. Or not.

Huh. On that note, I'd say it's probably a good thing that I don't plan on having any more kids. My wallet can't handle another one.

Do you think you'll spend less on baby number two?

 

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MamaT... MamaTo2b2g

I'd say it's a good thing you're not planning on having any more kids because you can't seem to tolerate the one you have and you're always looking for excuses to get away from him.

LostS... LostSoul88

Both my kids were treated the same. Not one was treated better. My first was a girl and I actually got rid of most of her stuff becuase I wasn't planning on having another and BAM my boy came along and he got all new stuff too. 


I think I spent more on baby #2 because prices went up ike crazy within the 2 yrs 

jso12 jso12

I have saved everything from my little one. In fact when I purchased anything over $50 (i.e jumperoo, pack n' play, stroller)  I made sure that I got it gender neutral to be able to use for a second child.  Babies really don't care if they are using something that was their older siblings.  I would be more concerned as the child got older and might notice that they never had new things then I would definately buy stuff for the 2nd. Unfortunately that may not happen. Still trying for over a year. Second infertility sucks

amnew... amnewlon8982

My second is six years younger so while they are both girls, she got all new stuff and just a note, her crib cost about 10 times more than the first. I didn't keep any baby gear because I wasn't planning to meet anyone or have another anytime soon.

Melan... MelanieJK

This would make more sense  if you made this about differences in attention,   worrying,   etc.  and not money.   Little kids don't equate love,  caring and attention to money so "the shaft" is all in your head until you do a brain dump.   


When they get old enough to observe the differences,   try telling them they lucked out and got the smarter mom who learned from mistakes made with the 1st.    Imagine how much a kid will love telling his/her older sibling that they're messed up because you didn't know what you were doing!   


  

dearg76 dearg76

Good lord MommaTo2b2g really? is that kind of comment necessary? 


My dd is 2 1/2 right now and when we bought all the gear it was with the intention of using it if we have another child. So yes I will spend $200 less on the second because I already have the stuff - wasteful if you have it and don't use it. I will buy the next one new clothes and all that stuff. Plus yes we bought lots of things for the 1st that were not needed, because of all the lists and articles about the things you can't live without. 

Rachelle Miller

Maybe in alot of households thats true but not in mine. My kids get a ton of attention from both me and dad. It will always be that way. They won't be treated the same as they are different ages and genders but we equal things out the best way possible and we are determined that our children grow up happy and loved!

MamaT... MamaTo2b2g

dearg76- have you ever read one of this woman's blogs?

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

My kids are 7 years apart and I'm reusing most of the stuff. I traded in the exersaucer because it was wrecked and got new car seats obviously but even some of the clothes are getting reused, jeans and pajamas and the like.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

My daughter is six years older than my now 7m old son. I can say with all honesty that I've spent more money on my son. When I had my daughter my husband and I were living in a tiny trailer..he'd just started off at work and times were tough.. Now, however, we're way better off. I can afford nicer things for my son. That's not to say I dont spend for my daughter as well...but comparatively my son is having a more spoiled infancy. I think the point of this article is sort of askew, though. Its the love that you give each child that's important. You're perfectly capable of loving two kids at once.

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