In July of 2009, when four kids were killed in a horrific car crash on New York's Taconic Parkway, I couldn't imagine how their parents would ever get past it. How do you rebuild from the loss of a child? How do you parent again? Would you even want to? Jackie Hance and husband Warren have decided they want to, and the decision to have a baby after losing their three daughters has saved their lives.
The Hances' daughters died that summer day, along with the girls' aunt, Diane Schuler, who was driving the wrong way on the highway, and Schuler's own daughter, Erin. Their lives were destroyed.
But then came their fourth daughter, Kasey Rose.
I have to admit I was surprised when I heard the couple had decided to go through fertility treatments to get pregnant (Jackie had her tubes tied after the birth of their third daughter ... at the time, she thought she was done). Among the hardest hurdles for me to mount in deciding to stop at one child was what life would be like should anything ever happen to my daughter.
And yet, I remember what life was like after my daughter was born. Having a baby in the house changed me. I'd just come off a miserable pregnancy, and I was suffering from postpartum depression, but there's no doubt she made me want to be better.
I wanted to fight my way through everything I had going on, because I wanted to give her the mom she deserved.
It sounds like the Hance's new little miracle did the same for them. Becoming parents again brought the Hances "back to life," Jackie said. As Warren told Today:
It just gives you a meaning again. When you lose everything and then you get something to hold onto, there's really no way to be able to describe it.
I think he did a great job of describing it, actually. It's hard to look at a baby, adorable and helpless at the same time, and not feel something. These little people are so demanding of your attention and your love, you don't have much time to think of yourself.
Parenting a baby may not be an accepted form of therapy, but trust me, it's a real one!
Watch the Hances' powerful confession:
Has your baby helped you get through a rough time?
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