11 Benefits of Co-Sleeping

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cosleeping mom babyBefore I was a mom, when I thought about co-sleeping I thought it sounded like the worst thing ever. When my twins were born I realized how amazing it was. Everyone in the family bed! It was cozy and sweet and we all slept better. My daughter is still co-sleeping after more than 3 years. I co-slept with my mother well into my pre-teen years (my father worked nights). I feel that the benefits far outweigh the issues of how acrobatic in nature some kids can be in their sleep. (A kick to the mouth at 3 a.m. isn't that bad.)

Just like anything else, there are safe ways to co-sleep and unsafe ways. And it sure isn't for everyone, but for those who are interested, here are 11 ways co-sleeping is beneficial.

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1. You never have to get up out of your cozy bed to see what's wrong if baby cries. She's right there. No stumbling in the dark. No tripping over the pull toy.

2. You may actually prevent baby from crying when co-sleeping because you are so in tune with your child next to you, you can soothe before it gets to that stage.

3. The often-contentious cry it out method won't be a topic of concern or conversation.

4. It makes breastfeeding easier with the night feedings. Baby will just nuzzle in when it's time to eat, making going back to sleep after that much easier.

5. The bond.

6. No extra bed to fix or sheets to clean. That makes it more eco-friendly!

7. Co-sleeping gives kids more independence. Kids who co-sleep tend to not feel alone or have bedtime anxiety. No separation anxiety.

8. It increases a child's self-esteem and therefore makes them less susceptible to peer pressure. It doesn't make them more clingy.

9. You'll wake up to the sweetest face. Or faces if you have more than one.

10. It's sweet to cozy up with your baby ... even when your baby grows into a toddler. Before we know it our kids will be grown and moving out of the nest. We have to cherish every moment we can.

11. Parents who co-sleep get more creative when it comes to being romantic with each other. Most couples who co-sleep know they don't have to be in a bed to have sex. Your sex life won't be doomed.

Do you co-sleep? Do you agree with this list? Have any others to add?


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chips... chipsnhow

I agree 100%

Katy Khan

I love co sleeping!

miche... micheledo

Love it! And, it wasn't co-sleeping, but for five months our family of six lived in a 600 sq ft cottage. Our bed was the play area and every single morning we woke to four little ones in our bed. Some would play ,some would cuddle up and fall bac kto sleep ,and others would chatter away . Those were my favorite mornings!!

Now we co-sleep with the one year old ,but are hoping to move him out as a new one is coming in July.

Bloom... Bloomie79

I'm all for co sleeping, if it's right for your family, but the first sentence of #7 and #8 are really just wishful thinking. They feed into that "my way is better than yours" mentality that really isn't good for anyone.

Sirena Robinson

I have tried, but my daughter just sleeps better in her own room, in her own bed. We struggled to have her at least in our room for a year, then moved her into her own. The first night in her own room was the first night she slept all night. We haven't looked back!

nonmember avatar kaerae

My oldest dug his crib and smiled as we put him in there. My youngest was colicky, had reflux and chronic ear infections, and never slept one night in his, he just never took to it and it didn't feel right for him. We co-slept with him until 18 months and then he happily transitioned into a twin bed, no bed frame. Every kid is different, you do what that child needs.

lalab... lalaboosh

Bloomie, I believe science supports # 7 & 8. If you take offense to the idea that not trying to force independence works better in the long run that's your issue.

nonmember avatar Ayf

Unintentional cosleeper here. While in some ways I completely love it (best face ever to wake up to, night feedings). Other ways I don't. I don't know how parents who put baby down in the bed sneak away for sex without worrying about baby rolling off (I didn't place my mattress on the floor). Also, we are still nursing and Id like to night wean. Haven't figured that out. She's 15 months and she can tackle me. So now we start her in her crib and she comes to our bed about 11. This helps my husband and I have a semi normal sex life (as normal as two exhausted parents can have) and also spend a little time together after she goes to sleep. I'm hoping the rest will work itself out.

jalaz77 jalaz77

No co-sleeping here. My kids are very independent and have great a self esteem at this point in their lives. I agree with Bloomie. Also with my second I brought him to bed to nurse, fell asleep and woke up with him wedged under my back so that was a huge scare and never did it again. I used to bring our first to bed and nurse all the time with no problems but when that happened with my second I said no way. I don't care if people co-sleep but don't tell me your child will be better off one day cause there is no proof of that. As long as its done safely I don't care, really. Glad it works for some families but not mine. I actually enjoyed getting up to nurse, change diapers and kiss those babies when they needed me. They always had a room right next to ours and I am normally a very light sleeper so the kids never got to the wailing stage of crying. #7 and #8 are part of parenting not just co-sleeping.

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