Holly Madison Makes Breastfeeding Realization Every New Mom Can Relate To

holly madisonNew mom Holly Madison has realized that breastfeeding is hard. And time-consuming. The 33-year-old new mom to Rainbow Aurora recently told People: "Breastfeeding is the biggest challenge. I took classes -- and I don't want to discourage anyone from nursing -- but I'm surprised at how much work it is and how much you're on call. I'm happy to do it since it's healthy for my baby."

True that, sister. Breastfeeding is no joke. And nothing can prepare you for it. Except for, you know, having done it already.

When you're pregnant for the first time, the big question typically is: What's it going to be like having a human being come out of my vagina? Will it hurt? (Yes. A bit.) But I think the bigger thing to, for lack of a better word, "worry" about is breastfeeding. Giving birth lasts significantly less time than nursing does. (And side note: You can get an epidural to dull the pain of contractions/birth; there's not much that can be done for the pain of sore, cracked nipples [but it goes away -- promise!]).

Like giving birth, you really don't realize what you're in for with breastfeeding. It simply is a learn as you go kind of thing. You can read all the books in the world and take every class within a 10-mile radius of your house, and while it may help, the only way to really know what's going on is through good old-fashioned experience. (Hence, why everyone says nursing is way easier the second time around.)

The one piece of advice I can offer pregnant and new moms in terms of breastfeeding is this: Don't make yourself crazy. Don't stress out about doing everything like the books and the people and the classes tell you. I put way too much pressure on myself to nurse my daughter until the end of time, and it just didn't work out that way. I fully intend on doing it again, should I have another baby, and I have a feeling it'll go a lot easier next time. Know why? 'Cause I'll know what I'm in for. Knowledge is power, ladies.

How did you prepare for breastfeeding?

 

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femal... femaleMIKE

Someone asked me this a few weeks ago and told me to take the classes the hospital offers.  I think those classes are a waste of time, I won't learn how to do it until I have him. 


I youtube the videos.  I read about "real" women's experiences.  My female friends talk about it.  So thats all I have been doing to "prepare" myself.

jenni... jenniferlee_12

I would say that you learn by practicing. You and your baby are both learning at the beginning.

Linsala Linsala

I didn't. I assumed it would be easy, and thankfully, with my son it was. Everything about it came easily. The second time around was hard and if I hadn't have been through it once I probably would have given up.

tuffy... tuffymama

It was easy but painful. I think the best advice I can give is advice I wish I'd received: let those preconceived notions float right on out of your head because breastfeeding is a little different for everyone and it just might hurt, but it is WORTH IT.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

I didn't prepare. My son came out, I stuck him on the boob, voila! Most women who have issues do so because they get so stressed out about it. They try to schedule feedings or think their position isn't right. If baby is latching on several times a day and there's plenty coming out the other end you're golden.

nonmember avatar Courtney

alot of people were surprised when i expressed that i wanted to breastfeed my son, im a young mom (but a darn good one!) so they didnt expect it. its hard work, especially at night when he work up every hour on the hour. the pain was tremendous, but i miss it. i miss everything about it. its YOUR time with the baby.

CrazyAZ CrazyAZ

Yeah, I never heard that it was hard to do or painful. I had my daughter and immediately she was an expert. It was not until years later that I heard some people struggle with it. I didn't know any moms, besides my own, back then so I didn't hear any scary stories.

lovem... lovemyson1224

My first time was super hard. Second time around was nothing compared to the first. I think a lot more women would stick with it if they were given a more realistic outlook. Women are told its natural and you'll know what to do so if they struggle they think they are doing something wrong. I think people should be more open about how hard it really is and how it's overwhelming at first. I truly believe more would stick with it if they had a more honest perception going into it.

danit... danithegreat

I just have to say I love Holly Madison. She's so honest about everything from her plastic surgery to why she's done things in life to how you really look after being pregnant to this. She's a wonderful example of what a real mother is not those I just came out of the hospital 10lbs less then I weighted before I got pregnant now I'm going to rock my bikini type moms. 

schlis schlis

Really RhondaVeggie, most women have issues because they stress about it? As long as they latch several times a day and plenty is coming out you're *golden*?? I had issues because my newborn chewed (for lack of better word) off part of one nipple and damn near did the same to the other. She was on the boob every two hours and plenty of milk was coming out, but so was plenty of my blood. The rythem of her suck was just plain wrong, and it took her over a month to figure it out. It took pumping the chewed up side for a week, and help from a nipple shield on both for a few more to heal and stop the bleeding. Nothing, NOTHING was golden about any of it for months. I was in AGONY. But we muscled through and made it to 16 months when she self-weaned. This is the kind of brute honesty new moms to be need. I thought I was so alone, because no one had ever told me it would hurt. It does. But it also stops. And it's what's best for your kid. We're women. We're tough. We can handle it.

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