How Gay Marriage Affects Our Children's Health

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family shadowIn most cases, getting married is about love and family. It's a beautiful thing. Your husband or wife becomes your family and sometimes children are added to that family. And what's also beautiful is we can become moms and dads in many ways -- birth, adoption, with the help of a surrogate. I think we can all agree on that. But, sadly, we can't all agree about the rights of same-sex couples when it comes to marriage. Same-sex couples have kids. I believe same-sex couples should also be able to get married if they want to. It's about family -- it's about the kids. It's about marriage equality.

Which is why I'm thrilled the American Academy of Pediatrics came out in favor of same sex marriages. And it's about time this side of the "issue" is brought up. The AAP says it's beneficial for the children's development and mental and physical health. Why would anyone want to interfere with that? Oh wait. Is that a diss to single parents?

The AAP's Dr. Benjamin Siegel said:

Children thrive in families that are stable and that provide permanent security, and the way we do that is through marriage. The AAP believes there should be equal opportunity for every couple to access the economic stability and federal supports provided to married couples to raise children.

I think some parents will find issue with Siegel's first sentence with his words that marriage provides security to help kids thrive. This isn't 100 percent true. Marriage isn't the only way to provide permanent security and allow kids to thrive. But some same-sex couples do have issues with insurance and federal support if there isn't a civil union. The AAP's Dr. Ellen Perrin added:

AAP has long been an advocate for all children, and this updated policy reflects a natural progression in the academy's support for families. If a child has two loving and capable parents who choose to create a permanent bond, it's in the best interest of their children that legal institutions allow them to do so.

This is a delicate issue. I know marriage isn't for everyone. It isn't even for everyone who has kids. But I think the real message here is for those who want to get married -- they should be able to get married. It's love and it's beneficial for kids when their parents are wanting to marry. What if a same-sex couple wants to get married and their kids are old enough to ask why they can't? How do you explain that? It shouldn't even be an issue that has to be explained. 

This is about equality. Our children deserve to live in a world that knows and displays equality for all. One way to do just that is to let all people have the right to be married.

What do you think of the AAP's statement on same-sex marriage?


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nonmember avatar carly

so can we use this as another reason to allow gay marriage? THINK ABOUT THE CHILDREN!

LostS... LostSoul88

I think it's wonderful. It throws out many people's arugment thatit's harmful to the child not to have a male and female parent in the home.  Some gay parents are way better then straight parents. Being straight does NOT make you a bettter parent. 

nonmember avatar krelia

I have no issue with same sex couples having the same legal rights as hetero couples. I disagree with calling it "marriage" though. Then again, I feel the whole campaign should've initially started to remove government from marriage and leave it to religion, while then fighting for just legal/financial rights.

nonmember avatar Abby

I call bs! Children do best in families with their bio parents are married and happy. Bio equals a man and a woman. Gay parents, at best, is only a good third choice over any man and woman couple looking to adopt. Gay marriage may become legal in this country but it wont be based on the majority vote, who have repeatedly voted against it. It will happen because of the millions of dollars dumped into the cause.

Katy Khan

I agree lost, it's so absurd that people feign a 'concern' for the  children when really, they just don't like gays and and they know they don't actually have a real reason for itso they make shit up to try and make their cause seem credible. The only kids I've seen come out totally screwed up are those who come from violent/drug addicted homes and from fundie Christian homes. Gay parents...never saw one of their kids come out wierd.

tnyangel tnyangel

This has gone beyond ridiculous. The folks that are so sure these kids are being harmed, obviously never met my neighbor's kids.  I support equal rights. I support gay marriage.

Those who chose to be committed, loving parents and follow through to be the best parent they can be, turn out great kids. Heck, my own parents wouldn't stack up very well next to my neighbors! Heck, 30 years ago I had a slumber party with eight of the eighth grade girls. There was only 1 girl who had 2 married parents. The rest of us were on step-parents or single parents. 

femal... femaleMIKE

In my very unexpert opinion, I think kids thrive in almost any environment they are raised in. They  are very adaptable creatures. 

jec72579 jec72579

Unbelievable how some bigots will think that "bio" parents are the best parents if they're together. Tell that to my children, who witnessed their father beat me into a coma and watched the ambulance come. Of course, this was before I got the strength to leave. THAT's THE BEST parenting>????? I think not!!! It doesn't matter what gender you are, you should be able to marry who you love. 

And I haven't met a bigot yet that has been able to tell me exactly how two men or two women being able to marry will directly affect them..... 

Brain... BrainyMommy

Praying that Abby isn't responsible for a house plant much less a child.

Jennifer Gatti Whorton

I love how hippy-dippy liberal types will praise the AAP over this nonsense and use them as an expert opinion, but when the AAP advises that children need to be vaccinated according to a set schedule you get up in arms and say they don't know what they're talking about. So which is it? Are they experts that we should listen to or not? If you want to be taken seriously, it would help your case if you weren't hypocritical.

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