Mom Leaves Baby in Car to Shop But Puts Emergency Contact on Car Seat 'Just in Case'

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infant car seatIn what has to be one of the worst parenting fails any of us have seen in a long time, a New Zealand mom left her newborn locked in the car while she went shopping at the supermarket. (Wait, there's more.)

She also left a note pinned to the kid along with her phone number, you know -- just in case someone passed by and thought the baby might need her.

(You seriously can't make this stuff up.)

Oh yeah, did I mention that the note was written from the baby's point of view? It said, "My mum's in doing the shopping, call her if I need anything."

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A couple noticed the child and told the New Zealand Herald, "We waited there for a little bit, wondering if the mum was just going to be two seconds and come back. And my wife said, 'I'm not going in without someone being here with the baby.'"

Long story short, a few more witnesses turned up, and the mom was eventually called to return to the car and her sleeping newborn. Then someone posted a photo of the baby on Facebook and now it's understandably all over the place.

And when I first saw it, I had the same reaction most moms probably will: "What the hell was she thinking? Who leaves their newborn baby alone in the car to go shopping?"

But then I thought about it a little bit more and tried to put myself in her shoes -- and that's when I started feeling a certain degree of compassion for her. Yes, leaving the baby in the car was a majorly dumb move, but come on -- how many of us made a really stupid decision or two when we were exhausted, overwhelmed new mothers?

I know my judgement was clouded on more than one occasion for sure in the first few weeks after I had my son. And while I never would've gone so far as to leave him in the car to go shopping, I can sort of understand why this mom chose to do so. I mean, she did leave a note, after all, so she must care about her baby's well being to some extent, right?

If I had to guess, one of two scenarios probably went down. Either the baby was fast asleep when she pulled into the supermarket parking lot and she was fearful of waking her, or she needed to run in and grab a few items, and she figured it would be easier without the baby and that she'd only be gone for a matter of minutes.

(Don't lie -- you've had the same thought before on occasion too. Granted, most of us would never actually leave the baby in the car, but if you say the thought never briefly crossed your mind, I don't believe you.)

Ok, ok, so I'm definitely not excusing what this mom did -- I'm only saying we should cut her a little slack, given the fact that she's a newbie. I'm sure that after a few weeks of that baby sleeping through the night, she won't hesitate to bring her into the store next time.

Have you ever left your baby in the car, even for a minute or two?


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2baby... 2babymomma

No I would never leave my baby alone and I don't drive so if i'm out with the kids so is my hubby but I just want to say how do we know she is a new mom? Just because you have a new born didn't mean you don't have any other kids

the4m... the4mutts

Not out of my eyesight, no. Ive left them in the car, at the curb, to drop something at a friend's front door, or usher the big kids to the car from the school gate.

(All of which is perfectly legal in CA)

But never out of my sight. Not even to run in and pay for gas at at gas station. 4 kids. 10yrs of sleepless nights, never left my kids alone. There's no excuse.

nonmember avatar Katy

Omg I have been a mother three times over and it is never excusable. Shame on you for thinking it kinda ok!

amber... amberdotsmom

I remember my Grandma telling me how they'd walk to the grocery store and the babies would be left outside in their buggy's while the Mom's shopped.  Then they'd pay, go outside and get the baby and walk home, meanwhile the store would deliver the groceries which would usually arrive just after they got home.  I couldn't even imagine it, I'd be thinking about my baby the whole time I was in the store and would probabaly last less than a minute before running oustide to get her ...  but I guess back then it was the norm - things sure ain't what they was.

Kelly McKenzie

I would never in my wildest dreams leave my baby like that in a car. You pull the infant seat/carrier out with the baby sleeping and they sleep while you shop or you gentle take baby out and use a blankie or jacket in the front of shopping cart to lay them on so they can sleep. I have had 3 kids and did that with all of them. My child never leaves my sight especially now a days when so many kids get kidnapped on top of possibly dying in a car or whatever else may happen. I have NEVER been so tired or whatever to do something that damn stupid. NO excuse!!!

jalaz77 jalaz77

The4mutts-that's the only time I leave kids in the car too. I can always see the vehicle and its usually a quick drop off. This lady was an idiot. It's a damn newborn and you don't leave your kids alone like this. I am not proud to say I have left them in the car for a matter of seconds but this is absurd. She basically left her info just in case a 'babysitter' happens to walk by and call her if there is an issue. Pathetic.

Jeanneth Ortega

Umm NOOOO!! That Mom is stupid and so are the witnesses. I would have called the cops on her. Just because she's a NEW Mom doesn't excuse her actions. And No Mary Fischer, leaving a note doesn't protect her child. Being with the Mom is the only protection, especially at such a young age. A number of things could have gone wrong, she's very lucky the child was still there and alive.
I hate how many Mother's give the excuse "I just had a baby and I was exhausted and needed some slack" Come on, get some common sense!!!
Shit I placed my newborn in her bassinet and placed it in the bathroom when I showered, that's what a MOM does, keeps her child near her.

starl... starlighthippie

I wish we still lived in a day and age where people can be trusted while we leave our babies in buggies and run into the Winn-Dixie, but those days are past. No, I have never thought about it. Not even when I was pregnant and my husband was deployed and we were poor and living off post because he is National Guard so I had NO help! Never occured to me to leave my daughter in a car while I ran in real quick. Too many what-if's.

femal... femaleMIKE

This was stupid.  I have never done this to any child in my care. 

Her note shows she knows she did wrong.

craft... craftycatVT

@amberdotsmom, was this in America where your grandma did this? Just curious because I once read that in some others countries moms occasionally do leave the baby outside in a carriage and it's acceptable there, (forget where that is though).

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