Bars Cracking Down on Moms Who Bring Their Babies to Party

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barJust when I thought the whole "babies in bars" debate had played itself out comes this: several beer halls have had to implement an actual "baby's last call." Usually around 7 or 8 p.m., it's the witching hour when parents and their little darlings will be booted out of the bar.

I've got to hand it to the tavern owners. They're just making official what we've always thought, albeit with the risk of pissing off a major section of their clientele.

But at what point do rules like these become intrusive and judgmental? At what point do the rules step too far into making decisions about someone else's parenting?

It's not that I disagree with a baby's last call, necessarily. I've seen what the local bar is like by 8 p.m. I wouldn't take a baby inside.

But I'm not every mom. And I've heard some fairly reasonable arguments from some moms as to why they take their babies into bars at night. Most point out that their babies are still fairly portable, and they're just going to sleep anyway.

Not sure I agree, but that's their choice, not mine.

Still, who am I to judge? Who are we all to set arbitrary rules about what time a baby should be home in bed?

I can't help but wonder if there's a point when society should just throw up its hands and say, "Listen, lady, if you want to screw up your kid, that's on you" and back away.

Because otherwise, where do we draw the line?

Baby's last call could easily be taken beyond the bars. Concert venues, for example, could start banning babies from late night concerts.

As a mom, I've had a secret wish that they would, if only to keep parents from taking an innocent little baby with delicate ears into an event that leaves my adult ears ringing for days after. But I know plenty of parents who would tear me a new one for even suggesting it.

And to be fair, taking your baby with you when you follow Dave Matthews or meet your buds for brews isn't child abuse. Not from a legal standpoint anyway.

At some point, we have to acknowledge that not everyone is going to parent the way we do. And no amount of rules about when parents "should" take their babies home is going to fix it.

How do you feel about baby's last call? Should parents be allowed to make that choice for themselves?

 

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nonmember avatar blue

A private business has the right to tell anyone they can't be there. It doesn't matter who it makes mad. And, really? Only crappy parents who should be sterilized would go to a bar with a child. It's sad that bar owners have to use common sense for dumb "parents."

Tracys2 Tracys2

I suppose it makes a big difference where you live. We (in NC) can't smoke in bars, and all bars have to make a good portion of their income by food, so lots of them have good food and are perfectly pleasant to have babies at. I wouldn't go somewhere loud or where people were smoking or where people might drink a lot and fight, but I would totally go to a quieter (not totally quiet, because babies aren't) bar and eat with my friends, and I think I did that once or twice, possibly later than 8pm- at least it was when I went to the baby shower at the bar.

happi... happinessforyou

What ever happened to "adult" entertainment? Are these babies being driven home by their drunk mommas? There are lots of restaurants that serve liquor and food so there is no need to take a tiny baby to a "bar" IMO.


Bars-Concerts-Vegas should all be for the over 21 crowd! lol

Amie Acosta

I mean, is it a bar like bar/club type of thing? Or more like the family friendly bars that are restaurants also and things like that? I dunno, this is a weird law. 

nonmember avatar MammaMel

Ugh! I used to work at a concert venue during the summers in college! It KILLED me to see those babies there! Too loud, too hot, and too many dangerous drunk people! Although, @happinessforyou disagree about Vegas-there are alot of cool kiddo things there, there ARE adult only places, however the whole town isn't just for the 21 and over crowd!

lulou lulou

When we were looking at houses, one neighborhood had this awesome park, with like those spiderman springy cable gyms, nice bathrooms, etc.   Then he told us it had a reputation for being a big singles pick up spot.

Rootbear Rootbear

Babies shouldn't be in bars anyway. You can't be in a bar if you're under the legal drinking age, why make an exception for a baby? Can't find a babysitter? Tough.

Paws84 Paws84

Agree with Rootbear. Also, god forbid something happen to your child while you're in the bar area, some ppl would be so quick to try and sue the bar/restaurant. I don't blame bar owners or restaurant owners to not allow babies or kids in. They don't belong anyway. If you can't find a babysitter, you and your hubby can have a couple drinks at home after the kids go to bed. That's what my husband and I do, at least.

femal... femaleMIKE

I never thought that bars allowed babies in them.  I never seen a baby in the bar. 

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