Moms Who Need 'Nanny Doctors' to Give Their Babysitters a Talking to Probably Shouldn't Be Parents

Eye Roll 8

babyOh my stars have I got a story for you all today. It seems it is so rough out there for moms who have nannies that a whole new job has been created. Nanny doctor.

What, you're thinking, a babysitter with a medical degree? I went there first too because, hey, in this economy, you never know how low the educated might have to fall to put food on the table.

Ah, if only this new-fangled notion for moms made that kind of sense. If only.

So what, exactly, is a nanny doctor?

According to The New York Times, which featured one of these ladies helping Kimberly Van Der Beek (that would be Mrs. Dawson Leery in case you're wondering), a nanny doctor is a mediator who helps parents hash out their nanny issues.

Yes, that is exactly what it sounds like. Rather than tell a nanny exactly what they want done with their kids, moms hire a "nanny doctor" to come in and help them do it.

Go ahead, roll your eyes. Heck, roll 'em a few times. I know I did!

I can't help it. I'm picturing the moms who can't handle telling a nanny exactly how to handle their child now having to sit down for a parent-teacher conference. Or, God forbid, talking to their kid's Little League coach about why he's always riding the pine. Will she bring along a mediator then too? How about when her kid gets bitten on the playground? Is she going to hire a Mom Doctor to help her talk to the little vampire's mother?

Ladies, I don't want to be insensitive, but come on! You're a mother now! If you can't school the babysitter on how long the baby should have tummy time, you're in for a long, exhausting road down the parenting path.

A big part of being a parent is being your kid's advocate ... not pawning it off on some nanny doctor.

So let me spell this out: if the nanny (or babysitter) isn't doing her job, you tell her what you want done. If she doesn't do it, you fire her butt and find someone else who can. We're talking about your kid here; they're worth the five seconds of uncomfortable. Trust me!

Do you have trouble telling the sitter what to do?


Image via Lars P./Flickr



To add a comment, please log in with

Use Your CafeMom Profile

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Comment As a Guest

Guest comments are moderated and will not appear immediately.

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

I don't have trouble telling my sitter what to do but I do have trouble critiquing her. Twice my babies have woken up in the mornig with their diapers on backwards. I tried to tell her in a round about way. Still not fixed. I try not to hire her for sitting jobs that includes her putting the kids to bed.

lobus lobus

Wow if my sitter didnt know how to put a diaper on properly id probably not hire her again. Thats pretty basic.

nonmember avatar Ozzie

First of all, you are confusing "nanny" with "babysitter." Being a babysitter is a temporary job that (typically) young people have to supplement their income. Being a "nanny" is a career choice. Parents don't just hire and fire nannies left and right. The nanny is their employee, and just like with any other job, if there are performance issues or other concerns, they need to be worked out professionally. Sometimes supervisors need help mitigating issues with employees; same thing applies to parents, as they are the nanny's employer. Sometimes they need help fixing problems with their employee. Therefore it's not so ridiculous to have a "nanny doctor" to help with these situations.
Too many people don't realize the babysitter/nanny distinction, and it's an important one.

gridi... gridironsmom

Suzybarno- have you simply asked her why it's on backwards? Maybe kid fell asleep and she can change them without waking them up when they are on their tummy? Just a thought since I obviously don't know you or the circumstances, just the first thing that came to mind.

If a backwards diaper is the worst thing, I could live with that. : )

Punki... Punkindrublic

Susybarno- maybe instead of a round about way, be direct and show her what you want. I hate passive-aggressiveness.

Annie Nanny

Feedback should be provided promptly.  Don’t wait months after an event before providing your nanny with praise or redirection about that event.  Feedback should be specific.  Ensure that she knows exactly...

wamom223 wamom223

If you don't feel you can communicate with your nanny you should find a new one.  You are essentially hiring someone to co-parent with you when you hire a nanny and its very important that you can communicate well. We are small business owners and have had a very tight rough year and have had to pinch every penny but I'd still rather make the sacrifice and raise my child myself rather than worrying about finding the right person to 'replace me.'  I sympathize with anyone that has to find care for their child because you are trusting them with the most important person in your life and I can't imagine how difficult that must be.

Rainie Flores

I try to talk it out with my nanny whenever there are issues. I try to be patient because let's face it, it is not easy to find a nanny or a babysitter. I think you just need to communicate with each other.


1-8 of 8 comments