25 Things Moms Would Rather Do Than Have Sex 6 Weeks After Having a Baby

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bubble bathSigh. Sooooooo, can we just go ahead and put it out there that having a baby definitely puts a damper on your sex life? Between being pregnant for nine months, giving birth, and then trying to adjust to life with a newborn, getting back in the saddle again and resuming an active sex life usually isn't a huge priority for new moms.

And that's why it's not the least bit surprising to hear that most new mothers wait longer than six weeks to have sex after their baby arrives. (I said most moms. Jessica Simpson is an exception.)

Yeah, six weeks may be the guideline that most doctors go by as far as how long you have to wait to do the dirty after childbirth, but it's definitely way too soon for plenty of overwhelmed, exhausted, not-feeling-anything-remotely-close-to-sexy mamas. Or at least I know it was for me.

I distinctly remember sitting on the table in my OB-GYN's office at my six-week appointment and her telling me it was ok to have sex again -- to which I reacted by laughing in her face. (Oh, yes I did.)

Having sex was probably the furthest thing from my mind at that time -- to the point where I really can't understand how ANY new mom would rate having sex as being high up on her "to-do" list.

In fact, I can think of 25 things new moms would rather do than have sex.

  1. Sleep (duh).
  2. Shower (alone).
  3. Go to the bathroom without any interruptions.
  4. Get a massage.
  5. Get her hair done.
  6. Get a manicure and pedicure.
  7. Take 10 minutes to book appointments for numbers 4 through 6.
  8. Watch an episode of The Bachelor, Revenge, Grey's Anatomy, insert favorite TV show here -- without having to get up off the couch to tend to the baby.
  9. Take a bath. A lonnnnnggggg, hot bath.
  10. Read a magazine from cover-to-cover.
  11. Read one chapter in a book without falling asleep.
  12. Go to the grocery store alone.
  13. Go to the mall alone.
  14. Go to the movies alone.
  15. Go out to dinner alone.
  16. Go pretty much anywhere alone.
  17. Cook dinner and actually sit down and eat whatever it is she cooked.
  18. Do the dishes/load the dishwasher in the effort of waking up to a clean kitchen.
  19. Pick up clutter and clean the house so she can desperately hold on to the small bit of normalcy she has since the baby arrived.
  20. Call her mom, her best friend, or anyone who doesn't mind listening to incessant crying for no reason.
  21. Take a walk around the neighborhood.
  22. Work out (because losing the baby weight will help bring back her sex drive).
  23. Sit and stare at a blank wall for an hour or two.
  24. Relax on the couch with a couple glasses of wine.
  25. Check Facebook.

What would you rather do than have sex? And how long did you wait to have sex again after you had your baby?


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B1Bomber B1Bomber

I don't know anyone who lasted the full six weeks without a specific medical reason...

Kings... KingsleysMommy

Thank you Bomber!!! I certainly didn't. Lol! But doing any of these things anytime after having a baby would be great. :)

nonmember avatar Erin

Everyone I know waited 10-12 because we all waited on birth control pills. And after my first, I was NOT ready even at 12 weeks, but was after the second.

amiec... amiecanflie

I was really terrified and waited 3 months. I'm glad I did. 

nonmember avatar MimiB

Problem is... new moms usually have live in partners and they want sex. New mom wants to keep her partner happy, so she agrees to have sex even though she's unlikely to want or enjoy it. She's hoping that by having sex, her partner will stick around and help out. It's been this way for a long time and is unlikely to change.

JessL... JessLogansMommy

I never made it 6 weeks, 4 was all i could take!  I would have rather had sex than do any of those things on that list. 

xreds... xredstarsx

Tmi but I have way better orgasms now so im all for it. I believe we waited4 weeks and even that was hard. Also what mother would want to spend all that time away from their baby?

amnew... amnewlon8982

After my second, we waited the standard 6 weeks. As soon as we thought I got thru my c-section with no complications...wrong! Sex kickstarted the post-partum hemorrhaging which I dealt with until my little one was 4 months old. I was on tons of meds to stop it not to mention the transfusions, blood work and sheer exhaustion I had to deal with. Every time we tried to do anything or I overdid it like attempting to clean the house I would end up back at the ER for more clotting meds and blood. So this time we will be waiting a tad longer and I will be taking it easy.

nonmember avatar likity_split

Ummm.... I did almost all of these things after having my son. And we did wait the six weeks because I tore and man, was it hard to wait but my husband was very supportive about it.

Jennifer Hannah Elias

You ladies are very lucky. I had such a nasty tear, then tearing of stitches, that it was well over 8 weeks before I was able to just stand sex without screaming!

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