Birth Mom Searching for Daughter Adopted 40 Years Ago Needs Your Help (PHOTO)

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birth mom crystalIf you spend any amount of time on Facebook, you've probably seen at least one or two of the following: a photo of a person adopted as a child who is desperately searching for their birth parents. They're so sweet, you can't help but hit share. And now a woman on the other side of the coin is looking for the same outpouring of Internet support.

She wasn't adopted. She was, is, the birth mom to a little girl she named Crystal Dawn when she gave birth to her way back in 1969. Four days later, her daughter was adopted and the commonwealth of Virginia sealed the records. Now, in a photo that's spreading like wildfire across the Internet, she holds a sign telling her daughter that she has always loved her.

Are you tearing up yet?

I'm glad to see this photo getting some attention for Crystal's (or whatever her name is now) sake and for her birth mom's. But I'd be lying if I didn't admit that I was drawn to this particular story because this was a mom rather than a kid.

The world has a pretty negative view of biological mothers who place their kids for adoption. Just ask someone who has adopted a child how many times they've been praised for "rescuing" their new son or daughter. It's meant as a compliment, but really it's a smack against the woman who gave birth to the child and -- for one reason or another -- decided adoption was the right route for her.

Fact: women choose adoption for myriad reasons. Back in the '60s, when Crystal was born, times were especially rough for young pregnant girls, for single moms. Often adoption was less a choice than a reality forced on these girls by a judgmental society. There's still some of that today, and there are other reasons too. Some women know they simply aren't ready for parenthood. Some are dealing with situations where they don't have the support they'll need to provide for their child.

All of them are doing something they think is right for the baby. It isn't about not loving a child. It's about loving them so much that they want something better for them than what they can give.

This is what makes the note on Crystal's mom's photograph so important to the world. This is why her mission is one we should all get behind. Because bio moms aren't monsters. They're women who are trying to do their best for their kids their way. And they could use our support.

Will you share Crystal's mom's plea? How does it affect how you think of birth moms?

 

Image via In Search of Crystal

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tuffy... tuffymama

I know someone who was placed for adoption to protect him. Now that he knows the why, it seems every other question he ever had in life has been answered. I hope this woman finds her daughter, and I hope this story has a happy ending. Too often, there are plentiful, cosmic reasons for propel to be apart, and they should remain so, for the sake of mental and emotional health.

tuffy... tuffymama

*for people. DYAC!

LadyM... LadyMinni

My kids' biological mother placed them up for adoption because their biological father is an abusive, alcoholic drug addict who would beat her almost daily and even tried to make her prostitute for drugs. She said she would never be able to keep them, but didn't want to have an abortion. That, however, is what she told him she did after he found her (she ran away for five months).


I really do hope that she can be part of their lives once she has lost the psychopath for good. She's an amazing woman. I also hope that this lady finds her daughter, they both deserve to meet.

Karin... KarinJune

I was adopted as a baby. I love my folks, they were and continue to be wonderful parents. I also love and honor the woman who was strong enough to give me up. After having my own kids, I don't know how she did it. I hope to find her someday and tell her thank you.

nonmember avatar Mindy Harris

I am a Birth Mom too, theres never ever been a day that has gone by, that I have thought of my Birth Daughter she was born August 4 1973, and in the early 70's they looked down on use too, it was shame on the family, I was put in a home the day after my 16th birthday till I gave birth, have tried many time to find her, the home made the connection her adoptive mother thinks I am going to take her away from her. I want to know if she is safe, is she happy. Miss her, there is a hole inside me! Mindy

nonmember avatar nicky

My younger sister and myself were both adopted as babies. We were always aware of our adoption and were told about our mothers (the little info our parents had about them). We never felt anger towards the situation,but were rather thankful for the oppertunities our adoptive parents had given us. When we were legally old enough to find our birth mothers, our mom helped us in every way she could to try and find them. My sisters mother was easier to find as she had kept contact with child welfare, my mother never did as she was not allowed to(rules changed between my adoption and my sisters) but..we have both tracked down our biological families, my sister via child welfare and myself via Facebook. We have amicable relationships with our biological families now but our adoptive parents will always be mom and dad.

Sherrie Greene

I have never found my bm or full birth brother after decades of searching...the family name was Meyerowitz..NY

Leigh Schroeder Salvage

I hope this mom finds her. If not, know that many people are moved by your story, including me. I was adopted and was lucky to find my birthmom when I was 29. Knowing that I was thought about and always loved in the best way she was able to was amazing to find out for sure. Your birth daughter is lucky - you gave her life and love and are doing your best to make sure she knows it.

Christie Smathers

I've started a "Master list" for people searching for birth families (child searching for parents, parents for child, etc). Its still new so there aren't many people, but i'm hoping it becomes bigger so more people can find who they are looking for. Hope it helps.
Please share it with others. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1eUfC6OCVf5rIeKyYfIFZ1IIG6T7bekpvZ-DADXwDkic/viewform

Gina Wasserman

I searched for (& was successful in finding) my birth father back in '07. I had been looking online for a few years but nothing had turned up. I finally caught a break when I accidentally misspelled his name in a google search and, low and behold, there he was! I was 34 at the time. Anyways, I created http://www.findfamilyafar.com to help others who are in the same or similar circumstances. Please feel free to take a look. FFA is unique in that it creates a great "exposure" piece that is very useful for those persons (ie parents) that may be searching for you right now. Use of the site is totally free and there is no obligation. Hope this helps and perhaps will see you on http://www.findfamilyafar.com. Good luck!

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