Victoria Beckham is one of those celebrities who's constantly dodging pregnancy rumors, but she hasn't done much to discourage the speculation. In fact, she recently told Glamour magazine she'd "never say never about [having] another baby" -- which is pretty much exactly what her husband David Beckham stated earlier this month.
"Never say never" is an adventurous, open-to-anything, positive sort of attitude to have about life, but is it really something many parents tend to think about having more children? I mean, don't most of us eventually reach some sort of "never" point when it comes to feeling like our families are complete?
Maybe it's just that never is such a harsh word, and it's difficult to make that kind of commitment. It's like the time my doctor asked me what I thought about getting a tubal -- even though I knew I was done having kids, my instinctive reaction to a permanent birth control option was HELL NO.
Still, the Beckhams' laissez-faire attitude about having another baby seems really unusual to me. She's 38, he's 37, and they already have four kids: you'd think they'd have a somewhat strong feeling as to whether they're done or not. But they've both indicated that they're open to the possibility. Here's what Victoria said last October:
I’d never say never about another baby. It’s a juggling act—a career, family, a husband who’s busy. But I’d never say never!
And David recently said that he'd be down with a fifth or sixth child:
We might have one more or two more, you never know. We’re not thinking about it yet, but if it happens, great. We’re enjoying the kids as it is. It’s always a thought ... I mean, we’re busy people and we’re enjoying the four kids that we’ve got already and we’re lucky, we’re lucky to have four healthy children.
Do you think it's easier to have an "Oh, maybe we will, maybe we won't, let's just see what happens!" feeling about adding to an already-big family if you have an unusual amount of money and resources to help with the work of parenting? Or do you think this is just the party line the Beckhams give the press when they get asked personal questions?
Or is this "never say never" a pretty common philosophy among parents? I guess I wouldn't describe my own feeling as NEVER EVER AGAIN POKE MY BABY FACTORY WITH A FORK BECAUSE I AM DONE, exactly, but my husband and I are definitely in the "our family is all here" camp -- and taking precautions to make sure that magical "if it happens" stuff doesn't, you know, happen.
Do you think there's always a point where 'never say never' becomes something more definitive?
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