Melissa Joan Hart Is Glad She Waited in Between Babies -- But What if You're an Older Mom?

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melissa joan hartMom of three Clarissa Darling Melissa Joan Hart recently said that she's glad she made the decision to wait to have more kids. Hart, who has three boys ages 7; 4-and-a-half; and 5 months, explained that she feels it's easier to manage an infant when her other two kids are able to complete big boy tasks on their own. Hart said: "It's definitely easier to have an infant when the other two boys are potty trained and can dress themselves. I'm able to enjoy every single minute, and that has been great."

That's awesome. (And, um, have you seen Melissa's new baby? Sweet Jesus is he precious!) But ... what if you can't wait until you're kids are potty trained and can go grocery shopping on their own to have another baby? What if you started kind of late?

I don't consider myself an old mom, but I certainly don't consider myself a young mom either. I'm a medium mom, I guess. I had my first when I was 33-years-old, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel the eensiest bit of pressure (from myself) to get to baby making again somewhat soon. I know I'd like my daughter to have a sibling, and I love having a child and want to become a mother again, but -- if I'm fortunate enough to have another baby -- I can't see myself waiting between four and seven years to do so.

I know women have children at all ages today, and that to some, 33 is even young. But, I don't know, having another baby sooner rather than later sort of makes sense (for me). I feel like all things baby are still fresh in my mind, and my first pregnancy was incredibly easy -- I'm hoping (knock wood) history will repeat itself if I have another one in the near future.

But I do worry about having a toddler who may or may not be potty trained (and who definitely won't be able to dress herself) and a newborn will be ... well, kind of insane. And I worry I won't get to, as Melissa said, "enjoy every moment" of my newborn when I'm wrangling my older daughter. Some have told me it's actually easier having kids closer together, as the older they get, the more attention they need, but I can't say I'm 100% sold on that. Having two children whose diapers need changing as opposed to one seems a little stressful.

As I always say, there's no universal right time to have a baby. It's what works for you. I just hope the same applies to second kids -- because Melissa Joan Hart is making a pretty sounds case for waiting a while in between.

How far apart in age are your children?


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NatAndCo NatAndCo

My boys are two minutes apart, but their older brother was 6 when they were born and in school which was amazing because i got a break from caring for all three. Having to entertain a toddler and care for newborns would've been too much for me

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

My kids are exactly 2 years apart. My first was not potty trained when my 2nd came along and while the first year was hard its getting easier now that they are almost 2 and 4. My MIL had her first 2 kids 11 months apart and then went on to have 3 more children. So she had 5 within 9 years. All the siblings are super close. I think having them close together is better. Like if I want to have a 3rd child then we would do it right now. Might be hard in the beginning but it gets easier. And plus, changing diapers for 2 was not the hard part.

LoveM... LoveMyViolet

I am 5 years older than my brother. We are close. There maybe was a period in time when he was in high school and I was in college where we drifted apart, but now I see no difference in our relationship and others that have a 1 or 2 year difference. In fact, my husband is 2 years older than his brother and we barely talk to him. Difference in age doesn't matter. Don't let anyone tell you any different. Being close in age doesn't guarantee closeness in relationship.

gridi... gridironsmom

My two kids are 17 months. So I had two in diapers. And in fact the older being a boy meant he was harder to potty train anyway so they potty trained close to each other. They both have so much energy! I can't wait until my son starts full day kindergarten this year.

gridi... gridironsmom

17 months apart I meant to say.

ethan... ethans_momma06

Mine are 3 years apart. For me, I do think that 3-4 years between each child is ideal. It gives each a chance to be a baby, and it's easier to have the older children already able to function without needing you every second. Plus, I don't want to be older when they are  growing up.

Of course, all families are different. My little sister is 8 years younger than me, and I love her bunches.

Lynette Lynette

3yrs apart keeps me from going crazy!  Plus those 2yrs between pregnancies is best for the health of mom and baby.

kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

My girls r 3 years apart and some days i wonder if we waited to long or not long enough. My oldest is so immature sometimes she would have been a better only lol. But it is what it is and someday they may be close. I think at 3 she was in a hard phase and wanted alot of attention making her not like her baby sister. I dunno we shall see how it plays out

RoseL... RoseLiMom

my girls are 20 months apart, it was hard at first but now we are in a routine

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