All new moms want to do everything "right." They want to be the perfect mothers to their little bundles of joy. But none of us succeed. We all make mistakes.
I am no exception. I think things have gone fairly smoothly in the first 16 months of my daughter's life, but believe me, I've had my share of new mom blunders -- some classic, some all my own.
Lucky for you, I'm about to confess to many of them, right here and now. If I had to do things over, I could have avoided at least some of these. But then I would have made others. So best to just learn from them and move on. Here are 8 new mom mistakes I'm a little ashamed to admit I've made.
1) I slept in the baby's room for way too long. I did it because I was breastfeeding and it was easier to be there when she woke up. What I didn't realize was that it was distracting her from sleeping through the night.
2) I didn't insist from early on that my husband get up with her at night. At first it was just because I was nursing, so what was he going to do? But it continued even after she was on formula or woke up and wasn't hungry. So now I'm still the one who usually gets up with her overnight and in the morning too. Bad habit -- I wish we'd take turns more!
3) I didn't go away when she was still little. So she and I have never spent a night apart, which is tough since my husband and I are planning to go on a mini-vacation soon. I worry that my little girl will be traumatized by not having her mommy around and think I've left her or something.
4) We've been on the laptop or iPhone too much around her. Hard to avoid in this day and age, especially because I work some days from home and my husband does too. But now our daughter is obsessed with the computer and iPhone and wants to play with them and watch videos more often than she should at her age!
5) I've been too overprotective at times. I have tended to jump in too often and get involved with things like what she eats and her nap schedule, or just generally how to take care of her. I wish I could have let go a little bit more.
6) We kept her up too late at night as a newborn. We didn't realize she had trouble settling down because she was really overtired, so she'd be awake and acting kind of "wired" and then would cry for hours some nights before she went to sleep. Poor baby. Bad parents!
7) We let her have a blanket in her crib. Huge mistake! I'd read the warnings, but she seemed to love this pink blanket my mom knitted for her so much, so I'd put it under her legs, thinking she was safe that way. One night my husband had a loud fan on and all of a sudden I heard a blood-curdling scream. The baby had pulled the blanket over her face and couldn't get it off. Luckily I got to her in time, but it was one of the most frightening moments I've had as a mom. Never again!
8) We used to keep a light on in her room when she went to sleep. At first it was so I could see her (was she breathing? etc.). But then she grew scared of the dark, so every time I tried to turn the light off, she'd cry. Another way we delayed her sleeping through the night. The doctor told me babies sleep much better and more deeply in the dark because darkness produces melatonin. Now I wait until she's asleep and then dim the light and it works!
What new mom mistakes did you make?
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