The First Night My Baby Slept Through the Night, It Was Like the Gates of Heaven Opened

nicole fabian-weberAlmost the instant you become a parent, you start hearing talk about the elusive "sleeping through the night." Like war stories, veteran moms and dads tell tales of their raucous first few months of parenthood, typically concluding with the happy ending of when, in either months or weeks, their little one stopped waking up and started sleeping through the night.

At first, when you're really in it, it's impossible to believe that your crying, hungry, helpless newborn will ever, ever in a million years sleep like a normal human being, and you reluctantly come to terms with the fact that you'll never be well-rested again. But eventually your baby does start sleeping through the night. And it truly is a beautiful thing.

The first night my daughter slept through the night came at an odd time for me. My husband and I had just made the hard decision to move out of the city and into the suburbs. We were living in a tiny one-bedroom apartment on the third floor of a walk-up, and, despite our pre-baby delusions of grandeur, it just wasn't happening.

We thought we could do it. We spent the first few months of my pregnancy visiting various suburbs and looking into bigger (more expensive) apartments, but by around month four, we decided we would stay in our place and it would be fiiiine. People in New York City have babies in studio apartments -- why couldn't we have one in a one-bedroom?

We warmed up to the idea. We even started getting excited -- it was sort of a challenge. We created a nursery in the little hallway area. We bought everything mini. And we started taking off our shoes before we came inside. Friends told us we wouldn't last, and we got a little annoyed with them. Just because you live in a house doesn't mean we need to.

But when the baby came, it was a shit show.

Never mind sleeping through the night, my daughter wouldn't sleep at all. After five weeks of non-stop crying (Have you ever been with a crying baby for 6 hours in a 600-square-foot apartment? I don't recommend it.), we took her to the doctor and learned that she was hungry. And although she eased up on the wailing after we supplemented with formula, she still wasn't sleeping very well.

She was almost 3 months, and it was clear she was a light sleeper. I'd open the bathroom door, she'd stir. A booming garbage truck would come bounding down the street, she'd wake up. Someone walked by in the hallway, my dog would bark, and my daughter would start screaming.

It was bad times, and it was obvious the city life (in our current conditions) wasn't for our family of three.

Our lease was up, and at that point, we pretty much would have rather died than renew it. We had nowhere to go, though, so we made the (really weird/unlike us) decision to temporarily move in with my father in the suburbs while we saved for a house.

I felt a little bit like a failure; bummed out that I wouldn't have a child growing up in earth mama/family fun/hipster Brooklyn, but it was instantly clear we made the right choice.

On our very first night there, my daughter slept through the night.

I wasn't expecting it at all. At that point, it wasn't even really a discussion. We had gotten better with our night schedule. I was even somewhat used to operating on four hours of sleep. The night that it happened, after my daughter went to sleep, I had laid out everything for the night wakings in preparation -- diapers, my laptop, water -- but it just never happened. And I didn't wake up either out of habit. I, too, got a full night of uninterrupted sleep. It was glorious. I felt like a new person -- able to sort of think straight; less on edge. But more than anything, I was proud of my baby. And in one very, very, very small way, a little sad -- she was turning into a little human in sync with the rest of the world, as opposed to a squirming, red-faced newborn.

Everyone was right. Babies really do start sleeping through the night. It wasn't just some folklore invented by the Brothers Grimm. It actually happens. It actually happened.

Since that night, my daughter -- knock wood -- has never looked back. And I truly believe that it has to do with the fact that she now has her own quiet room that can actually get dark, and most importantly, that has a door. The girl's a light sleeper, and she just wanted her space.

I still get a little sad now and again that we no longer live in the city. When I come into work and I see moms pushing their babies in strollers, I think, "That could have been me." But it just wasn't in the cards for us. And I have to be honest, no city in the world is worth a night of uninterrupted sleep.

When did your baby start sleeping through the night?


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insei... inseineangel

My daughter was about 2 1/2 months when she started sleeping all the way through the night. Now, at almost 7 months, she sleeps about 12 hours a night, with 3  1-2 hour naps during the day. After watching the hell some parents go through with the sleep issue, I feel very, very lucky.


Now, if I could sleep for half that time during the night, that would be awesome. 

britt... brittneyleigh88

My 2.5 year old still wakes at least once. He would sttn if we coslept but my 5 month old is in our bed. She wakes 2-4 times to nurse.

When my 2.5 year old was an infant, he woke after every sleep cycle... About every 45 minutes so waking up a few times a night is no big deal! Hubby usually gets into the toddlers bed with him around 3am.

Smmeyn Smmeyn

I don't know why everyone obsesses over sleeping through the night.

Mocha... MochaCocoaBean

My son was about 2.5 months old on Christmas Day. He refused to nap, save for small 30 minute stretches when we were in the car. By 8 pm, we were all fit to be tied, so I laid him in his crib. After 10 minutes, silence. He slept 12 hours that night. He maybe did 2-3 night feedings after that, but that was it. We've been dealing with the sleep regression associated with learning to walk/talk and other developmental milestones, but I think we are rounding that corner as well.


If you don't understand why we obsess over sleeping through the night, you either haven't lived through it or require very little sleep to function. Me? I LOVE SLEEP and that has been the hardest thing to give up.

MamaB... MamaBear2cubs

My son was about 4 months,my daughter slept through the night right off the bat. I remember the first night my son slept through.I kept checking on him all night lol.

Pinkmani Pinkmani

My mom brags about how I slept from 6pm-6am every night; however, I didn't take naps.

nonmember avatar Sarah

My 8 1/2 month old still wakes 5-10 times a night. We are very tired!!

Madel... Madelaine

I love when they sleep through the night!

dusky... dusky_rose

My son usually sleeps through the night, except when he gets sick. But I know what you mean about it being a glorious milestone.

Kayla... KaylaMillar

ds at 6 weeks....dd not until 14 months....grr!!!!

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