Grieving Mom Learns Hospital Buried Her Baby Without Her Permission

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bootiesIn what has to be one of the most devastating and sad stories I've ever heard, a mom who already had to deal with the death of her baby is now trying to get his body back from the hospital -- who buried him accidentally without her permission.

Vanessa Weir welcomed her daughter, Peyton, almost three months ago at Mercy Hospital in Oklahoma, but sadly, Peyton's twin brother, Jaxon, died in utero. Vanessa held him once after he was born -- and then he was taken away to the morgue.

You can only imagine how heartbroken this poor mother must have been to have to leave the hospital without one of her babies.

But then after making funeral arrangements and arriving back at the hospital to pick up her precious little boy's body, she was met with a level of uncertainty and confusion no mother in her situation should ever have to face.

Vanessa explains, "We had to wait 30 minutes just for them to go through the paperwork and another 40 for them to say he might be in the morgue or he might be buried."

And as it turns out, baby Jaxon had indeed, been buried.

The hospital says, "Mercy provides the rite of Christian burial each quarter, when parents do not request a private burial. We regret that there was a break in communication regarding the family's wishes."

A break in communication? Oh. My. God. This poor woman! Having to plan a funeral for your baby is already one of the most horrific things a parent ever experiences, but finding out that you can't have a proper burial for your baby because someone else has already done it for you? Yeah, that's simply unfathomable.

Hopefully Vanessa's baby boy will be returned to her soon so that she can finally grieve properly, and have him in a cemetery close to her home where he belongs. She's already been through way more than any mom should ever have to bear.

How do you think a mistake like this happened?


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twili... twilightsbella

They need to return the babys body to his mother and i think they should pay for the whole burial for her

nonmember avatar Jenny Jen

I was born at this hospital, they did make a mistake but they have already admitted it was their fault and they are returning the baby. They are a good hospital, mistakes happen.

jessi... jessicasmom1

oh my what a shame I would be heartbroken

Jespren Jespren

While tragic this does sound like a paper mix up that the hospital is trying to correct. The really horrible ones are where the hospital insists the stillborn babe is 'medical waste' and insist on incinerating the body before the parents can make arrangements or get a court order to force the hospital to turn over the body.

Angela Peairson

After three months, the baby deserved to come out of cold storage and be given a christian burial.  I know everyone takes time to grieve, but just how long did she expect them to hold this little one in the freezer.  Mercy is paying for the exumation and returning the boy to his mother.  I believe that if they had no contact with the family for such an extended time, they were right to do the christian thing for the child.


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