Nurse-Ins Are an Awful Way to Fight for the Right to Breastfeed in Public

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nurse-inHave you ever gotten kicked out of a store for breastfeeding? Gotten dirty looks while breastfeeding your newborn at a restaurant? Or maybe you were minding your business on an 18-hour flight and someone asked you to cover up your breasts while nursing your baby. What can you do but oblige your uncomfortable hosts? Well, many new moms are organizing and staging nurse-ins.

That's one way to get the public's attention.

When a restaurant manager says you can’t breastfeed in her establishment, go back the next day with 100 of your closest nursing friends and  sit down and breastfeed your babies all at the same time. That'll show 'em. Right?

I'm not so sure.

I worry that with all those exposed breasts, people are missing the point.

Moms should be allowed to nurse their babies anywhere. You feed a baby when she's hungry -- and if we mothers are expected to run home every single time our child cries out to be fed, we'll be trapped in our homes for most of our babies' early years. That is not fair to the mothers. We are nourishing our babies not exposing our breasts.

But while I believe in the right to protest, I don’t agree that forcing patrons to watch you nurse to make your point is the way to go. It’s one thing for one mother to be nursing her child someplace; it’s quite another when there's an organized drove of nursing mothers descending upon an establishment.

I mean, if you need to feed your baby, by all means feed your baby. But purposely going in there to feed in protest is basically shoving your beliefs down anyone within eyeshot's throat.

Some people are a little more modest and don’t care if you breastfeed in public or even notice but once you are standing there saying look at me, my breast are exposed and I am feeding my baby, FUCK YOU, that's combative. And then the focus becomes about women being combative rather than doing what comes naturally. The victims of the discrimination become the aggressors.


Moms, in all honesty, I think it would be more productive to breastfeed when you need, wherever you need, stand your ground and if you really want to hurt the business, protest in front of the business and inform their customers that they are not breastfeeding friendly; boycott their stores. Hit them in their pocketbooks and they will pay attention.

Do you think nurse-ins are an effective way to get the public to become more accepting of breastfeeding in public?


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baby health, breastfeeding

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cleig... cleigh717

What's wrong with you?! I'm sure all the black ppl protesting for civil rights shouldn't have had sit ins either? I'm sorry if you think word of mouth criticism is an effecting way to broaden the minds of an establishment. That's the source of the problem. That ppl aren't used to seeing breasrfeeding, women have become so objectified. So yea there is always a good reason for a sit in. It is our right. Just don't attend one.

wamom223 wamom223

LuvMyDandD what in the heck are you talking about?  Who said in these comments that we are uncomfortable with our husbands seeing women breastfeed?  And who said to find another place?  All I am saying is nurse in's are turning people off to the movement not on to it and if you could calm down and re-read you would see that.  Also it is not sad that there are hundreds of women that feel differently than you. It is sad that you are so close minded you think everyone has to think like you especially when you are proven you aren't that great at retaining information.

LuvMy... LuvMyDandD

Gross that you "wives" can't get past the fact that your hubby might see a nipple. BTW, if you are doing it correctly, nobody will see your nipple. Then you could stop planning your child's day around your jealousy or shame.

LuvMy... LuvMyDandD

Jalaz said that in her comment wamom. Reading comprehension.

wamom223 wamom223

Stop comparing people having a problem with breast feeding to the civil rights movement.  The more people do it the more you lessen what actually happened and it is disgusting absolutely disgusting.  The civil rights movements was about getting the laws on their side and breast feeding mom's already have that and last time I checked we don't have nursing mom's getting beaten in the streets.  What is wrong with you people?

wamom223 wamom223

Umm no Jalaz did not say that in her comment.  Re-read.

LuvMy... LuvMyDandD

but I would be so pissed and annoyed if 20 woman can into a restaurnt while me and my husband were having dinner and whipped out their damn boobs just to prove a a fucking point! 


Sorry it was MrsYoung

Brittany Rose Westfall

Uh, excuse me? Fanatical. If you are uncomfortable with breastfeeding in public, then don't do it, but other women are. And too bad if you are uncomfortable with bfing in public, don't look if you are. I never said I used my son during a nurse in, and I never said that man made me uncomfortable. What I said was a man came OVER TO ME, and told me it made him uncomfortable and he would call security. and youre right... I don't want that man to do that to another woman. I am not uncomfortable with breastfeeding at all. It isn't disgusting, or appauling. If you aren't comfy with it, don't do it, but don't bash women who do, or women who stand up for women who don't or can't speak up about it.

LuvMy... LuvMyDandD

 I never nurse in public just because I'm not comfortable with it.


Also MrsYoung. My apologies to Jalaz, I was on a different page. Still sad that any woman would post this

wamom223 wamom223

Yes and Mrs. Young's point was they aren't pulling out their breast to feed their child they are doing it to make a point.  The point seems to be 'if you thought you were uncomfortable with me breastfeeding just wait until I show up with 50 of my friends."  I would be pissed if I went out to dinner alone with my man (doesn't happen very often) and instead of having a nice evening we became collateral damage in a protest.  If you don't like their policies don't go there but all you are doing is making people that did nothing wrong uncomfortable.  You want to feed your child go for it, you want to make a point with a part of your body then you better get ready to hear my mouth.  Again your zealousness is making it difficult for you to understand the point you are making.  You aren't getting the desired result so maybe you should come up with a plan that will.

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