My Baby Belongs Here (So Stop Giving Me Dirty Looks!)

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baby in hatWhen my son was a baby, there were a whole host of places I refused to bring him, simply because I wanted to be courteous to the people around me who were trying to enjoy a day or night out at places where babies really have no business being (like fancy restaurants and spas).

But at the same time, there were plenty of other seemingly kid-friendly places I brought my little guy to where I still got looks of disgust from those around me. Apparently there are some people who think babies should remain behind closed doors 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, or some nonsense like that.

I can even recall one time in particular where a bank teller looked at me like I had two heads because I walked in to deposit a check with my son on my hip. (What was I supposed to do? Leave him in the car?)

Here are six places where babies should be welcomed with open arms instead of greeted with dirty looks.

  1. Airplanes -- This is a big one for sure. Believe it or not, babies have to get from point A to point B too, and sometimes this involves getting on a plane with their parents. (Imagine that.) Yes, I know babies often cry on planes. But I'd much rather sit next to a crying baby than an adult who makes me want to cry after talking my ear off for two hours straight. Babies are passengers too. Get over it, people.
  2. Weddings -- Is there anything cuter than a baby in a suit and tie or frilly dress? I think not. Babies make weddings more enjoyable. And most of the adults are too drunk to notice them anyway, so no one should mind them being there.
  3. Family Restaurants -- News flash: If you don't want to be seated next to a family with a baby, don't eat at a restaurant that offers a kids' menu. It's that simple. Really.
  4. Clothing Stores -- Have you ever attempted to try on a dress with a baby in tow? And have you ever watched the sales girl who let you into the dressing room roll her eyes in horror at the sight of your baby? (Face it -- moms shop. Make googly eyes at our baby and we may even buy more.)
  5. Public Restrooms -- This also has to do with the facility itself, not just the people in the restroom. Every public restroom needs to offer a changing table. Period. I was forced to lay down a blanket and change my son on a bathroom floor once. I'm still not over it. Oh yeah, and regardless of where I'm changing my baby, making faces and holding your nose while I'm changing him is really, really inappropriate and rude.
  6. Baby Showers -- This one continues to surprise me. Every time I've been to a shower where there's a baby present, someone always winds up bitching about the baby being there. Hello? What the heck are we celebrating, here?

Where else do you feel unwelcome with your baby, when it should be the opposite?


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Flori... Floridamom96

No, babies should not be welcomed with open arms to weddings or other people's baby showers. That's just you being self absorbed.

.LoVe... .LoVeMyBuG.

I agree with the above comment. I wouldn't have wanting a crying baby at my wedding and I respectfully would not bring my small child to another's wedding unless the bride/groom was ok with it. I also feel baby showers are about the expectant mother and HER baby, not your baby whom already had thier time to 'shine'. Just my opinion.  

Doomy234 Doomy234

I disagree about the weddings. Sure they look cute in fancy clothes, but they can be a huge distraction to the whole process. Its the bride and groom's day, not your kids'.

nonmember avatar Lori

Does this stuff really happen? I have three kids ranging in age from 7 to 9 months. I've never really had a bad experience with other people when we are out and about. Even when my kids are misbehaving, I usually just get a sympathetic look. On one airplane flight, a woman in our row even offered to watch or hold one of the kids if I had to go to the bathroom. I guess we've just been lucky.

Waag Waag

Anytime I can't take my boys with me somewhere I'm not going. Friends who invite us to weddings I ask if its ok if I bring my kids if its not then I decline baby showers the same thing. I don't take them anywhere that's bad for them but I'm not going to stay home just because I have kids and I don't want others raising them

jpfsmom jpfsmom

Agree with Floridamom...if someone chooses to have a baby free wedding,shower,bar mitzvah, pampered chef party or whatever that is their choice and they shouldn't be villified by selfish "everybody has to love my baby and if they don't pooey" moms like you.

nonmember avatar blh

I would never bring a baby or toddler to a wedding.

.LoVe... .LoVeMyBuG.

Wagg: I get it, I very rarely ever leave my kids with anyone, but a wedding? Weddings are a once in a lifetime event (well, what's meant to be a once in a lifetime event) and a big deal, it's not like someone telling you your boys aren't welcome to a birthday party or out to dinner. Leaving them with a sitter while you attend a Wedding is hardly "someone else raising them." If I had a friend with that kind of an attitude id be glad you stayed home. 

SaphireH SaphireH

This is why i hate red robin now it used to be family friendly but now they are changing it to be anti family so i will not be eating there anymore. I wont take my kids to non kid friendly places so others that don't like kids dont have to deal with them and i hate flying so planes are a no thanks rather drive and i've been lucky with all my family members weddings, baby showers and any other parties because everyone has small kids or grandkids so they never exclude anyone just because of the kids.

MsRkg MsRkg

Exactly what floridamom said.

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