Hey, remember that time Uma Thurman gave her daughter an incredibly long name? Roaslind Arusha Arkadina Altalune Florence Thurman-Busson is what the little girl goes by. Well, actually, that's not what she goes by -- she goes by "Luna" (after all that!) -- but that's what's on her birth certificate. After it was made public, everyone was all, "Wha?" "Seriously?" "Who would do that to a kid?" Well, last night on Jimmy Fallon, Uma confessed as to why she gave her baby five names. Not that it was anyone's business ...
Uma said that it was actually her 14-year-old daughter Maya's idea to give the new babe a multitude of names. And the reasoning is hard to argue. Thurman told Fallon: "Maya came up with the best excuse, which was that I probably wouldn’t get to have any more children, so I just put every name that I liked into Luna's." Why not, right? While it's certainly not something I'd do, I think Uma was right to give her daughter that many names -- because it's her daughter.
I'm of the mind that the only reaction to learning what parents have chosen to name their child is something along the lines of: "Oh, I love that." I know it's common practice these days to tell moms every single thing they're doing wrong, but kids' names should be off-limits. Why? Because they belong to the child. No, they didn't pick it, but it's something they're going to have to live with the rest of their lives. Making fun of a child's name is essentially making fun of the child.
My daughter has an unusual name, and I've gotten interesting reactions from people when they've asked what it is. In fact, "interesting" has been a reaction I've gotten before. I knew this was something I'd deal with when I chose her name, and for the most part it doesn't bother me, but I'd be lying if I said every once it didn't sting a little.
I didn't give my child her unique name to be "weird" or "cool" (or to ensure she'd have to defend it growing up). I gave it to her because I think it's beautiful, and because it's a name I shared with my mother before she passed away. To me, it connects my child with the grandmother she'll never meet. But I'm not going to dole out that explanation every time there's an uncomfortable pause when I tell a stranger in the doctor's office her name. Because it's none of their business.
I feel bad that Uma had to come out and publicly defend her unusual baby name choice. If she and her family like it, who cares what anyone else thinks?
Does your child have an unsual name?
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