Babysitter Who Refused to Give Baby Back to Mother Was Just Doing Her Job

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carseatShould a child care worker ever hand over a baby to a drunk parent? A New Year's Eve fight broke out over that question when a "highly intoxicated" mother attempted to pick up her 2-month-old baby from a babysitter. She attacked two other people and was later arrested.

This was not just an argument, either. The mother hit one of the victims several times in the face, arms, and chest, and the second victim in the face. I don't know where the baby was during this fight, but I just hope he or she was a safe distance from this altercation and not in one of the victims' arms. I guess I'd have to hear more about the story to really say ... but maybe it was a good call not to let the baby go home with the mother?

I can imagine the mama-bear rage that would be unleashed if a sitter refused to hand over a baby. I'm sure the mother was outraged (and maybe a little embarrassed) to be told she was too drunk to take her baby. And then of course there's that lingering threat hanging over that accusation -- if you're too drunk to take your baby home, maybe you're a lousy mother. Maybe you're a total screw-up in life.

I don't know if the mother was driving, either. I would feel less nervous about sending a baby home with a drunk mother if I knew she at least had a safe way to get home. (I would still feel uneasy, though.) But if I knew she was getting behind the wheel of a car with that baby? No way. Better to suffer the mom's wrath than to let an accident happen.

People in that state can become irrational -- and dangerous. But what if the mother wasn't really that drunk? What if it was just a bad judgement call? I don't know that I'm completely comfortable with the idea of a sitter being in the position to make that call. I've come home to a sitter after parties or dinners where I did have something to drink. I don't like getting drunk in the first place, so I've never been in that position. But I think I'd get kind of defensive if I came home a little "happy" and was then accused of being unfit to stay with my baby. 

I guess when in doubt, the sitters should call the police. But what are you supposed to do while you wait for them to arrive? For all I know, that's what these two people did, and the fight broke out while they were waiting for the police to arrive and make the call. Still, you could look at it this way: These two people may have saved a baby's life.

Do you think a babysitter should refuse to hand over a child to their parent if they suspect the parent is drunk?


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Bg Marx

i think babysitter was right to refuse handing over baby intill mother was sober. that shows how responable the babysitter is with another child's life.

Samantha Baker

Clearly the sitter was right though, because the way she reacted to it was like she was extremely drunk. if i went to pick my baby up from a sitter and they wouldnt give me my baby because they said i was drunk (and I actually wasnt) i would just call the police to come make her give me my child like most other people would to. she reacted exactly how an intoxicated perosn would so good for the babysitter for making that call

gamma4 gamma4

Ok no dui @ nellieathome but if that other person didn't come.up with the mom to take the child then babysitter is STILL handing baby over to drunk person! Let her try to sue for interference she wont win!!!!!!

MomOf... MomOf2AndAZoo

She obviously has a damn good sitter, if she cares enough about children to refuse to send one home with a drunk mom. Yes, I think sitters should refuse to hand them over & call the cops if their judgement tells them the baby might not be safe going home with the parent at that time.

Jennifer Larson

We could look at this from the point of view of the caregiver, too. I would see that my I had more options to prevent the mother from making a regrettable mistake by either calling for an alternative ride home, allowing her to stay with her child, maybe even offering a ride. The responsibilities of the child are with the parent and it is never the right of someone to be a sitter then create the situation that ultimately ended up with the temporary removal of the child having access to the parent. I am just saying if the sitter knew the mother was going to a party, then a breathalyzer is the only way police can intervene, how can a sitter who allowed the parent to attend a party and watch the child take action in this way?

Lynn Johnson

OF COURSE YOU DONT LET A DRUNK ASS TAKE A BABY...I dont care if he/she is the parent or not!!

nonmember avatar jennifer

I think the sitter did the right thing.. when I babysit people's kids while they are out drinking I let them know not to even bother to come pick them up till the next day... I don't even let my nabor carry her daughter upstairs from my apt. She either gets her the next morrning or I carry her up and put her to bed depending on if I thinks she's not to drunk to care for her dauther threw the night.. if u have had 1 drink u could be drunk, everyone's diffrent and this sitter did a good thing if something would have happened when the mom took the baby, the babysitter would have to live with that and always have in her head , I should have kept the baby... Good job for her

ethan... ethans_momma06

:/ It's hard. Because on one hand, there's going to be a major problem if people refuse to give me MY child.

On the otherhand, I understand and empathize with where the babysitter was coming from.

nonmember avatar Ang

Even if she was just a lil happy from wine she still shouldnt be driving! and if she was falling down drunk she wouldnt be able 2 take care of her baby anyways so should of waited til she slept it off b4 she picked up her baby! either way no mom should be leavin their 2mnth old baby 2 go out partying! the sitter did the right thing! hopefully d.s.s gets involved. who says the mom hasnt already drove with the baby while she was intoxicated and who says she wont try it again! and the ones on here who think its ok 2 drink wine and drive are wrong! u are not just putting ur self in harms way u are also putting innocient ppl in danger!

anali... analivrose2012

you leave the child in care of someone to do just that care for the child and im sorry new years alot of people tend to enjoy themselves more then normal when they dont plan too. and who says that her body reacted that way on fewer drinks then normal because she hasnt drank in a while? her body is still recouping. now had it been the next day i would tend to wonder if the sitter was making a good decision or not.  

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